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and I welcome you to my program.
We're talking about how we can love others better.
Isn't that a wonderful subject?
I'm sure you're thinking that I could love others better.
Maybe you're thinking that to yourself.
I, as I'm studying this material, I'm understanding
that I could love others better.
And I hope that as you listen to this,
that it's gonna stir something in your heart
and maybe you'll see something that you can change,
How You Can Love Others Better.
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The teaching can go deeper down inside of you.
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-: So before I start this teaching, I wanna share
with you an amazing testimony
and it says, I want to share my joy with you.
That hip injury was very severe.
I understood that the quality of life could not be the same
as before. I prayed,
but I understood that I had to be prepared
for the consequences.
I was greatly strengthened by the words,
the lame man shall jump up like a deer.
I often repeated them through pain and despair
and the incredible happened.
The pain went away.
I began to lean on my leg,
and today everything has disappeared without any
consequences.
It's so amazing because now I can squat
and I can run again and I'm not limping.
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how God's healing power works?
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that one phrase that the lame shall leap
as a dear.
And that one phrase of the word of God, he took it,
he believed it, it went in his heart.
And now instead of suffering and suffering
and suffering, he is completely free.
Oh, I love that testimony.
Well, today we are going to talk about something
that we just all love to talk about, and that is patience.
And this lesson is called What does
Patience have to do with Love?
Well, I would say everything
because there's probably gonna be somebody
if there's not already somebody in your life
that from time to time maybe it's a close relationship
and you're gonna be tested in having patience
with that person. I can just hear about somebody saying,
I'm already being tested.
Maybe you are,
and I believe this teaching's really gonna help you.
Proverbs 16:32, I want you to look at that with me.
It says, this is amazing verse.
It says - He who is slow to anger
is better than the mighty.
And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
Now friend, you say, well that's great,
but how can I do that?
Well, if you're born again in your spirit,
you have something called self-control.
And out of
that self-control comes patience:
patience. So being slow to anger,
look how powerful it is though.
The Bible says that you're better than the mighty.
You know, we all look at generals
and people who have conquered cities
and we think, wow, those people are so powerful.
Those, those men are ingenious. They're so due our honor.
And yes they are, due our honor.
But this is God's opinion about when you're patient
and when you calm your anger, he says,
you are better than the mighty.
He says, you are better than the general
who took that city friend.
I think that's amazing.
And for God to put an emphasis on on this,
that means that it's really important
that we learn to use our self-control
and give patience to one another.
So look at James 1:19.
And this verse is so helpful
and us giving patience to other people.
It says - So then, my beloved brethren,
let everyone, every man, be swift
to hear, slow to speak, slow
to wrath for the wrath
of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
So what are we supposed to be swift to?
We're supposed to be swift to hearing,
but we're supposed to be slow to 2-things: slow
to speak and slow to wrath.
Now, this word slow;
it's not
a politically correct word in our days these
days, but it's almost like being retarded.
Like you cannot react quickly
in your situation.
So, so being slow
to speak is when a situation comes
up and you need to give somebody patience.
How are you going to give them patience?
You're going to slow down.
Just slow down. Just slow down.
You can say, can you give me just a minute?
Maybe you have to excuse yourself.
Maybe you have to go and count to 10 or 100,
but you be the one who takes control.
You can be the one
who slow yourself down.
It's really important.
There's been so many relationships have been destroyed
by people who didn't move slowly.
They moved too quickly
and they said things that they should have never said
and they broke the heart of the one
who received those words.
Maybe you've even done that
or maybe somebody did that to you.
Somebody said something to you out out of anger
and it broke your heart.
And you even never to this day been able
to get over that.
Do you see how important it is
to slow down our emotions
and our thoughts and our anger
and to listen to the self-control that's in us
by the spirit of God?
When you got born again, the spirit of God came into you
and he brought all these fruits with him.
And one of them is self, self-control
and outta self-control,
we get patience.
You can actually give patience
to somebody else.
You can slow yourself down.
Maybe you wanna say something, maybe it's like
that hot tamale sauce that's kind of rising up on the inside
of you and you're about to burst.
Well, you can just slow that down.
Recognize the self-control that's inside of you
and give that person
patience.
It's really powerful, so powerful
that the Bible says it's more powerful than
one who takes a city.
Look at Proverbs 4:26.
It says - To ponder the path of your feet.
Well, I've thought about this verse many times
because if you ponder, if you think about it,
where are my emotions taking me?
Where is my mind taking me right now?
I need to think about that
and I need to change my actions.
Maybe it's, it's somebody requiring your patience
and you are on a path to show your anger.
You're on your path to show your criticism.
You're on your path to bring judgment to them.
And as it said in James 1:19,
you just need to slow down
and you need to think: what am I -
where is my feet -
where my emotion - where is my mind taking me right now?
Think about it. That's
what it says in Proverbs 4:26.
And that self-control that God gave you, that spirit,
that fruit of the spirit on the inside of you,
it's not broken.
It's working really good, but you
and I, we have to slow down enough
to listen to what's on the inside of us.
You know, in doing this teaching,
I start thinking about Jesus.
And I started thinking about the amazing patience,
self-control that he showed.
And the Bible says that Jesus,
it says this in 2nd Corinthians,
it's the last chapter.
It says, don't you know
that Jesus Christ himself lives in you?
So friend the Jesus I'm gonna talk to you about right here
and what he did, that same Jesus
lives in you.
And look at how Jesus, in a most critical hour
before he was going to be crucified, all the patience
that he gave to people right
before he was going to be crucified, he was listening
to the disciples
and they were arguing over who was going to be the greatest.
Can you imagine Jesus is getting ready to lay down his life
for the world and his disciples,
who's he's given 3-years of his life to,
they're still talking about who's gonna be the greatest.
He had to show great patience.
What about when Judas went to betray Jesus?
Jesus said, the one that puts his bread
in the wine, this is the one and
and it says that Judas left quickly.
Jesus said to Judas, go do
what you're gonna do quickly.
The patience, the self-control that Jesus had.
And do you know that Jesus,
I was meditating on this one day,
this was a secret. He never told one of the disciples.
He never said, Judas is the betrayer.
He never said, Judas is leaving to betray me.
He never said it.
And I thought to myself, this is not about patience, but,
but I thought to myself, when you're called on to
hold a secret,
you know something about someone
and it could just damage them if you told it
or how they treated you.
You wanna tell everybody.
You want people to feel sorry for you.
I mean, I don't know what you feel, but you have a secret.
And you've thought to yourself - Oh I'm so righteous
because I keep this secret.
This is the secret of the ages,
that the man who is gonna betray the son of God
and Jesus told no one.
No one. Jesus
kept that secret.
You and I can keep things that should be kept
and not tell anyone because that's exactly what Jesus did.
What about when He asked the disciples,
this is the only time he asked the disciples to pray
that we know about.
He asked them to pray.
He's, he's suffering in Gethsemane. He, he He, he His.
His sweat is turning to blood.
He is buried such mental pressure
and he asks them to pray
and he goes to see them and they're asleep.
How much patience would that take?
Couldn't you have just stayed with me?
Couldn't you just have prayed with me?
He could have said all kinds of things
to the disciples about that; he didn't.
He gave all that patience, all that love to those disciples.
Judas comes up
and he kisses the son of man on the cheek.
That is how he identified Jesus.
You have to have so much patience for all this stuff
to not get angry, to not just scream, to not just say,
I've given my life to you.
And look how you're acting.
I mean, Jesus could have said all those
things, but he didn't.
He gave them patience and love.
And then Peter, Peter:
Jesus is getting ready to lay his life down.
And Peter picks up a sword
and cuts off the servant of the high priest's ear.
Oh, Jesus could have gone just Peter.
Can't you just hold, hold it.
I mean, he could have said all kinds of things to Peter.
He had so much patience.
He said in one of the gospels,
just give me a minute.
We don't know if Jesus picked up the ear off the ground
and put it on the the servant's head
or if he just created a new ear,
but he just
fixed the problem that Peter caused.
Jesus had patience.
That very patience is in
you right now.
You say, that's not me. No, it's inside of you.
It's really on the inside of you.
When you got born again,
the Holy Spirit did an amazing thing.
He spread all over your heart, through the Holy Spirit,
the love of God.
Well, in the love of God, it's the very same love of God
that Jesus was operating in
and giving patience to all these people.
Well, that very same love of God is inside
of you.
It's right inside of you.
But you and I have got to recognize it
and we've got to practice it.
We've got to agree with it. We've got to say, you know what?
I can act higher than this.
I do not have to lose my temper.
I do not have to say things that I've said before.
I can slow down,
just slow down like it says in James
1:19.
Now look with me at James 1 and it's verse 3.
And this is so powerful.
It says - Knowing - this is chapter 1:3 -
of James - knowing that the testing
of your faith produces patience.
But let patience have its perfect
work that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.
Patience is a worker.
I look this up in the Greek
and it says that patience is a worker.
It wants to work, it wants to do
his occupation or his job.
So let's say that something is happening
and you let patience work
like a, like a worker.
Like a worker who's clearing a road
and you let that worker clear the road so
that you can go through.
Well, when we let patience operate,
we let love come through.
That is powerful. Friend,
we've got to let patience, the patience,
the self-control, that sound on the inside of you.
We've got to let it work for us
and be that instrument of love.
Powerful. You
and I don't have an excuse.
We might have a reason that we wanna act a certain way,
but we don't have an excuse
because Jesus has given us through the new birth
by the Holy Spirit, the love of God
that's on the inside of us.
The same love that Jesus operated in
as we see right before his crucifixion.
That same love is inside of you.
And we can operate from that place of love
or self-control, if you wanna call it that,
and give that patience to others.
Well, I want you to stay with me 'cause I'm coming back
and we're gonna pray together.
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Isn't that great that we can actually put patience to work?
We can give patience a job
and patience is gonna clear away for us
to love others better powerful.
I wanna offer you my 10-part video series of
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And I was suggesting to others
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Oh, I think it'll be very interesting discussion.
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Father, I thank you right now for the power
of the Holy Spirit that is inside of my friend
and Lord, that right now we can recognize your power
inside of us
and give that patience to others.
We thank you for it, in Jesus' name - Amen.
Well, I enjoyed being with you so much.
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