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We're talking about how we can love others better,
and I want to offer you my 10 parts series.
It's a video series called How Can I Love Others Better?
Have you ever asked yourself that question?
I've asked myself that question.
And in studying this, I got so encouraged
and I wanna share that with you.
And it comes also with a study guide.
And I wanna offer you my book, Who Stole Cinderella?
Now this book can really help you in marriages.
It it, even if you're not married,
there's word of God -
this book's filled with the word of God in helping us
through relationships and our attitudes.
And I've been teaching on marriage for 16 years
and I've used this book as a foundation.
And so many people have been helped in their marriages.
Even divorces have been stopped,
husbands have started esteeming their wives
more: wives started respecting their husbands more.
There was forgiveness given to one another.
And I want you to have this book.
And also, today. I wanna offer you a
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It's my 2-little books: one's called Redeem from Shame -
that Jesus took our shame on the Cross.
You don't have to live with shame in your life
and also The Gift of Forgiveness.
You say, well, these are just so little,
but I'm telling you, I've gotten
so many testimonies from both of these books.
I even got a testimony from a prisoner from this book
and he said,
I got set free from all the
unforgiveness that I had in my life.
And he said, I shared it with everybody.
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So I want you to stay with me 'cause I'm gonna be right back
and we're gonna talk about - How You Can Love Others Better.
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-: Well, I think this teaching's really gonna help you today,
but before I give this teaching,
I wanna give you a testimony.
And this woman says that there was a word
of knowledge on one of our programs and
and what the word was,
that God was healing someone's eyes
because they had stressed in their life
and it had affected their eyes.
Well, this woman wrote
and she had muscular degeneration.
And when she received that word of knowledge, she received
that healing.
It was gone. It was gone. I love what she says -
she says her eyes were healed completely
and she's going to surprise the doctor later this afternoon.
Isn't it that great?
I tell you, friend, I love when the healing power comes
and interrupts our lives.
I love the power of God to come
and interrupt what's going: on our problems, sickness,
disease, bitterness,
financial problems, relational problems,
any kind of problems.
And the power of God comes to interrupt those problems.
And that's what happened to that woman.
I'm so thrilled about that.
Well, I wanna share with you today about
how we can stop ourselves,
understand what Jesus said about judging
and what judging does to not only somebody else,
but also does to ourself.
And we're gonna start in Matthew
7, and it's verse 1.
And I wanna give you a little story before I start this.
I was teaching, oh, many years ago in, in a marriage class.
And so I said, I said, ladies,
I want you to raise your hand if you absolutely believe a
hundred percent
that you are better person than your husband.
Well silence in the room.
And then this one woman on the front row
raises her hand so boldly.
And I said, okay, now you are saying
that you are a better person than your husband.
She said - 100%.
Well, I didn't know what to say to her.
So I said, well, let's turn to
Matthew 7:1,
and let's see what Jesus has to say.
So it says - Judge not
that you be not judged.
Now friend, this is Jesus talking.
This is his command.
And he's saying that when we judge,
we will be judged.
I've meditated on this for hours and hours.
And I believe Jesus was saying -
Don't judge, and you won't be judged.
Because if you've ever been judged yourself,
I'm sure looking at thousands of people who have been judged
by somebody and you didn't like it.
I've been judged by others. I didn't like it either.
So, but when I judge, I'll be judged.
So when you judge somebody, I'm not talking about, you know,
a mental judgment of like, okay,
now the traffic light was red, now it's green.
That's a mental judgment. No, I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about criticism.
I'm talking about if you were in their situation,
you would never do that.
You are better than them.
We kind of put on these self-righteous robes
and say, you know, I would never do that.
And of course I'm better than them.
This judgmental kind of attitude, this is
what Jesus is talking about.
And he's saying, when we judge,
judgment will come back on us.
Well, the next verse says, for with what judgment you judge,
you will be judged.
And with the measure you use,
it will be measured back to you.
Jesus is so clear, he,
he's saying in the very same way that you judge
that very same way, that very same amount
you will be judged.
So let's say that you have a friend and,
but you start seeing things about this friend
that you don't like.
And and so you start to think, well, I would never do that.
Or, or, well, I'm better than that.
And, and you start putting on those,
those self-righteous kind of judgment outfits.
Well it, with all the thoughts that you have towards
that person with all the attitudes, the amount, that's
what Jesus is talking about - is amount.
That very same amount is gonna come right back to you.
This is amazing that Jesus would say the very same way,
the very same measure, you can measure it.
If you judge this much, you'll be judged this much.
If you judge this much,
you're gonna receive this much judgment.
He's not talking about judgment from him.
He's talking about judgment from others.
The way that you judge others is the exact same way
that others will bring back that same judgment on you.
You know, many times you might hear somebody
and they're gossiping.
Well, I think, I think to myself if that person's gossiping
and about that person, then that person will
be just as capable of gossiping about me.
That character, that that ability to gossip,
that ability to, to judge that's character.
And Jesus is saying, if you, if you judge this much,
you're gonna be judged this much.
It's so serious what he's saying.
And then it says,
and why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye,
but do not consider the plank that's in your own eye.
So let's say that, let's say a husband and wife. Okay?
So you see something in your husband
or you see something in your wife
and your mind, your mind, you see it
and then you think about it, you see it,
and then you think about it.
It says right there, it says,
why do you look
at the speck that's in your brother's eye,
but do not consider the plank that is in your own eye.
So you are looking at a tiny
speck in their eye, but you're looking and you're looking
and you're thinking, and you're
looking and you are thinking.
And then it says, but you don't consider the board
or the plank that's in your own eye.
Now this - let me explain. This plank
that Jesus is talking about.
It's not just, you know, it's not just this big, you know,
or it's not just this big.
It is a complete board
that you would put under the foundation
of your house.
This board
that you have decided that you are so right,
that you can judge
and criticize in your eye
as the judger is so huge,
it is sticking out grotesquely
out of your eye.
If somebody was to walk by,
they would bump into your judgment.
That's how big in the spirit that that board is.
But the spec that's in your brother's eye,
and I looked this up in the Greek,
it means it's just a tiny little splinter.
It's just a,
a small moral defect.
So why are we so captivated by their spec
and we don't see the board -
because we don't see the board
because all we're thinking about is their speck.
If you think about this friend,
if you actually pictured in your mind,
and I'm very visual
of a board coming out of my eye,
and
so I standing there looking ridiculous
with this huge board coming out of my eye,
but I don't notice that all
that I notice is this tiny little speck
that's in my brother's eye.
And my all of my attention
is on that speck.
That's what Jesus is saying: he said,
he said -
Why don't you consider, why don't you consider?
Think about that board that's in your eye.
And then the next verse says,
and how can you say to your brother,
let me remove the speck from your eye
and look, there's a plank in your own eye.
So, you know, stay with me and,
and to visualize with me
that huge board coming out of your eye.
And people wanna get close to you,
but they keep bumping up into that board.
And then, then,
but you're so captivated on the spec
that's on your brother's eye.
And now you've become so deceived
by this speck
and your, your board, your are bored sticking outta your eye
that now you've decided - you know what -
I'm gonna say to my friend
what I think is wrong with them.
Now in the spirit, you are gonna talk
to them about a tiny little spec, a splinter.
And in the spirit, as Jesus describes it,
that board is just sticking outta your eye.
And now you stand there - Brother,
let me tell you what's wrong with you.
And let me tell you
how you can fix it.
Haven't you seen this in relationships?
Haven't you ever seen this in marriages?
I know that I have done that,
that I've had a huge board in my own eye
and I've looked at the speck in my husband's eye
and been so captivated by the spec that I didn't even know
that there was a board sticking out of my own eye.
But that's the power of that, that judgment
that we've decided to take on that it,
it builds that board.
You know, some people, you get around them
and maybe you're in a great mood,
but they're not in such a great mood
and they're just being critical of everybody.
Well, that board is sticking outta their eye
and you come up to 'em and you bump up into that board.
You don't even enjoy their company so much. Well why?
It's because they got a board sticking out of their eye.
Their concentration is on the speck of somebody else's eye.
Oh Jesus. He is really telling us, look what Jesus says,
in verse 5: he says, hypocrite
first remove the board.
Remember this huge grotesque board sticking out of our eye
from your own eye.
And then you will see clearly
to remove the tiny little speck
or the tiny moral deflect from your
brother's eye.
You know, friend, I'm telling you the truth that when,
when I've done this and then I say, God, I know I'm wrong.
I know I'm wrong. I must look ridiculous in front of you
with this huge board in front of my eye
and staring at somebody's spec.
And I get before the Lord and I
and I start seeing what, how He's forgiven me.
And I think, Lord, you've forgiven me.
If you could judge me, I mean you,
our judgment friend, our judgment came on Jesus.
The wrath of God came on Jesus.
If you're a Christian,
you are not under condemnation anymore.
So, so he's taken away condemnation off of us,
but yet we would put condemnation
and judgment on somebody else.
And when I come before him
and I say, Lord, there's no condemnation in you.
Oh Lord, forgive me. Oh Lord, cleanse me of this.
And I remove Lord by my own repentance,
my own acknowledgement,
this huge board sticking out of my eye.
And Lord, I'm not that speck in my brother's eye
that is nothing.
And I wanna thank you Lord for your forgiveness
to me. When I receive that
that forgiveness,
I don't want to look at somebody else's spec
because I forgiven so much.
Do you remember when Jesus came,
and it's in, it's in John 8,
and he was teaching in the synagogue
and there came these religious leaders,
Pharisees,
and they're dragging with them a woman
who was caught in the act of adultery.
And they throw that woman down in front of Jesus
and they talk, start talking
to Jesus about judging him and what her
and what, what is he going to do?
What are you gonna do Jesus? What are you gonna do?
And Jesus knows the law, he knows the Roman law,
he knows the Jewish law.
And Jesus, he doesn't speak to him.
He just gets down on the ground
and he starts writing on the ground.
And he says, which one of you, the one
with you without any sin, you go ahead
and you throw your first stone.
Well, they had stones in their hands
and they were ready to stone her to death.
Well, when we've got that huge board sticking out of our eye
and we're ready to condemn someone
and judge them
and we repent - for me,
it's like the stones that I wanted to throw,
I wanted to, in my heart, I'm better than you.
I'd never do that.
The stones that I wanted to throw, they just drop out
of my hands.
And I say to the Lord - Lord,
I don't have any stones to throw.
And I refuse
to judge and criticize that person.
Thank you for forgiving me and not condemning me.
You know this series is called How Can We Love Better?
We Can Love Better by Looking How We've Been Loved.
You can love better by looking
and thinking about how you've been forgiven
and how there's no condemnation on you and Christ Jesus.
And how can we say to ourselves, I have the right
to judge you.
No we don't.
And Jesus said, if we do that,
then we are a hypocrite.
I know every one of you that I'm talking to,
you wanna love others better.
And you certainly...don't want Jesus
to call you a hypocrite.
And we gotta get rid of our stones, get
that plank out of our eye
and quit looking at the speck that's in our brother's eye.
This is a amazing way how we can show love
to one another better.
And I wanna remind you - love is the highest law.
It is the highest law.
And getting rid of that board
and refusing to look at that spec, we are coming up into
that level of high level love
and loving our brother.
Well, I want you to stay with me
'cause I'm gonna be right back and we're gonna pray together
because I know the God spirit is working in your heart.
Maybe you're thinking of somebody, I need to quit judging.
I need to release them.
I need to stop trying to fix them,
and I need to think about me.
Maybe that's what you're thinking right now.
Anyway, stay with me and I'm gonna be right back
and we're gonna pray together.
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-: Well friend, wasn't that wonderful?
I say, that's wonderful
because I mean, maybe I stepped on somebody's toes,
but when Jesus steps on her toes, it's his mercy.
It's his mercy.
When he says, I wanna show you something
that I need you to work on.
That is mercy.
So I want you to have this 10 part video series
of How Can I Love Others Better?
It's gonna encourage you.
Maybe you wanna create a Bible study around that
with your friends.
I think it's gonna be a very encouraging
and what a discussion subject.
And then it comes with a study guide.
And also I wanna offer you my book, Who Stole Cinderella?
This book is gonna help you love others better,
especially husbands and wives.
But also this book is not just to women who are married,
this is for women who are never been married,
maybe a new bride, maybe somebody who's getting married,
maybe somebody who's divorced and you wanna see
and get some wisdom from God's word.
This book has helped a lot of people.
So I want you to have that.
And then finally, I wanna offer you again,
my free offer to you,
these little books - The Gift of Forgiveness
and Redeemed From Shame.
Redeem From Shame, is really a powerful little book
that shows you how that
when we're carrying shame, it's extra baggage.
Because Jesus took our shame,
became shame on the cross for us,
and we don't have to carry it around.
Father, I thank you so much that we had this time together
and we love you and praise you in Jesus' name
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