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Let's join Rick Renner.
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Welcome to today's program.
My name is Rick Renner.
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And friend, I'm so glad
that you've joined me.
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And today we're continuing the series called, What the Bible
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Says About Relationships.
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And we've been looking at a
wide gamut of relationships.
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And right now we're particularly looking at 1 Peter
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3:1, what Peter had to say
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to wives about winning
their husbands over to them.
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And today is really going to be fun.
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You're gonna learn a lot from it.
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I'm gonna tell you a personal
story about something
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that happened between me and Denise.
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You're gonna get a kick out of it,
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but this comes with a study guide.
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The study guide is just
loaded with all the points
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and all the principles.
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And we're also offering you
the Green Volume of the RIV:
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it's Vol.II.
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It's a study bible for people of faith.
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And this is 1st & 2nd Peter.
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And this week I'm teaching from 1 Peter 3
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about the roles, particularly between husbands and wives.
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But remember that if you need a prayer request,
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we're here to pray for you.
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We would love to hear from you.
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It doesn't matter what
you're going through
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or what you're facing.
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Maybe what I'm teaching right
now is identifying a need in
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your life and you wish
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that you had somebody to pray with you.
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We'll call that number or send us an email
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and we will pray with you.
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But reach for your Bible.
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And I want you to open your Bible
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to 1 Peter 3:1.
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And we're gonna dive right in
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and we're gonna review very
quickly what we saw yesterday.
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Peter has been married more than 50 years.
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He lived a very, very long life.
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And we knew from 1 Corinthians 9, that his wife traveled
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with him in the ministry.
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He had a happy wife, and
she lived out of a suitcase.
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So he was obviously doing
something right as a husband
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for his wife to be happy
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for living such an unstable life: going from place to place,
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to place to place.
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But yet their marriage thrived. They were so happy.
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And so when Peter addresses the relationship
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between husbands and wives, he's not just giving theory.
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This is an elderly man
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with more than 50 years of experience.
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Plus he's writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit,
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and we need to really listen
to what he had to say.
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So we're going to begin in the King James version in
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1 Peter 3:1, which says -
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Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands
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that if any obey not the word,
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they also may without the word
be won by the conversation
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of the wives.
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That is such a wonderful
verse of instruction.
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But there's a lot in their Greek text
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that is not carried into
the King James version.
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So the RIV gives it to us
like this. Listen to this.
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In the same way servants are
instructed to be submitted
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to their masters, it's
also essential for wives
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to recognize your own husband's authority
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and to align yourself
under it with a respectful
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and submissive attitude.
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This is so that - now here's the purpose -
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this is so that if your husband lives in disobedience
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to the word, he may,
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because of your attitude,
your behavior, your conduct
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and lifestyle be cleverly won
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without you ever preaching
a single word to him.
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Being respectful
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and submissive in your attitude toward him will enable you
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to win him without ever preaching to him.
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And as I told you in the previous episode,
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they were really in quite a fix. Here
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these women got saved.
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They were going to church, their lives were being changed.
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They were just thriving in the light.
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But when church was over
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and they went home, they went
home to their unsaved husbands
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and they wanted their
husbands to get saved.
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So naturally, they pleaded
with their husbands to repent.
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Honey, don't do this,
honey, don't do this, honey,
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don't do this, honey, don't do that,
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honey, do this, do this.
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They were preaching, preaching, preaching, preaching,
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preaching to their husbands who were not saved.
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And in fact, these husbands were wondering,
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who is this woman that has come home to me?
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This is not who I'm married.
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When they got married spiritually, they were equally yolked.
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They were both in darkness.
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But now the wife is in light,
the husband is in darkness,
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and he does not understand
what has happened to his wife.
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And she's preaching and
preaching and preaching
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and preaching to her husband,
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but not with a very good effect.
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It is pushing him further
and further and further away.
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So in the RIV, it says,
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because of your attitude,
behavior, conduct,
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and lifestyle, he can be cleverly won without you ever
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preaching a single word to him.
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Being respectful
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and submissive in your attitude toward him will enable you
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to win him without ever preaching to him.
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Then we come to verse 2 where Peter continues
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and he tells the wives something important about
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their husbands.
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Listen to this: While they, that's speaking of the husbands,
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while the husbands behold
your chase conversation
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coupled with fear.
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And here Peter says,
women, you may not know it
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and your husbands may not even tell you,
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but they are watching you.
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They are really watching you.
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They're watching your attitude.
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They're watching your behavior.
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They're watching your conduct.
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They're watching what you say.
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They are really paying attention.
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And I will tell you why husbands are watching their wives.
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They recognize when their
wife has a bad attitude.
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They see it. They also
see when their wife has
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a great attitude.
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They see it when their wives are required to make sacrifices
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and they don't complain.
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That makes a very big impact on a husband.
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He feels her support.
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He feels such gratitude,
but husbands are watching
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and observing all of the time.
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And that is why the RIV says
it like this, for your husband
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has certainly been paying attention to
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and thoughtfully observing
your respectful in pure way
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of living.
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And when a husband sees his
wife have a good attitude,
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when she's in a bad
situation, she's willing
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to sacrifice when it's very difficult.
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He sees that and that wins
the heart of a husband.
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And that is why in verse one, he says,
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your husband can be cleverly
won without you ever preaching
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a single word to him.
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And cleverly won in Greek, the Greek word
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kerdaino, means to cast your dice.
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Or if you play your game right, you can win your husband
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with your life, not with your sermon.
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Now, I'm gonna give you an example.
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Many, many years ago we were
living back in those days in
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the country of Latvia.
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We were living en Riga.
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And Denise wanted me to
get up early, early, early
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and pray with her every day.
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Well, today I'm a very early riser.
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I got up today at four o'clock.
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In fact, I get up earlier than Denise.
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But back in those days,
I was not an early riser.
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I was working hard.
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I was working late into every night
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and I just wanted to sleep in the morning.
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I was tired and I needed sleep.
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But Denise wanted me to
get up in the morning
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and she wanted me to pray with her.
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And I would say, Denise, please don't make me get up early.
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I need to sleep, please.
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And she pestered me and she preached at me
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and I just thought she would never let up.
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She was just pushing
and pushing and pushing.
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I said, Denise, please stop this.
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I am not gonna get up early to pray.
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Please give me some
grace. I need some sleep.
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But she wanted me to pray with her.
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And I understand that
that was a good desire.
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But her method was not quite working.
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And finally she was so frustrated that I would not get up
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and pray with her that in the morning when she got up
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to pray, she would throw the covers off the bed
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and she would get outta bed.
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It was very dramatic.
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So I would know she was getting out of the bed to pray
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and I was not getting out of the bed with her.
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Well, we had a little adjoining room where there was a couch
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and Denise would get on her knees
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and she would pray loud enough that I could hear her.
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Now here I am trying to sleep,
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and here's where she would pray.
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God, please touch my husband.
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Tell him to get out of the
bed to be a spiritual leader
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of our home.
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God, I ask you to get
Rick to get out of the bed
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and get up early and pray with me.
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And I would lay in bed
and think to myself,
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she's not even talking to God.
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She's pretending to pray because she's preaching to me.
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She's not talking to God, she's talking to me.
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Why doesn't she go pray
in some other room?
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She is just in there preaching
at me in the guise of prayer
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to get me out of bed.
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And you know what? It closed my heart.
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And I remember thinking, 'hell' will freeze
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before I get outta bed and go in there
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and get on my knees with
her when her attitude is
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so bad she just won't let
me sleep a little bit.
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Well, this went on for quite a while.
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And then one day something happened.
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Something happened early in the morning.
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Denise got out bed
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and I could hardly feel
it when she got outta bed.
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It was so gentle. She
very, very quietly walked
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to the other room.
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She got on her knees
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and I expected that she
would say, God, please speak
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to my husband, preaching at me.
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But instead, she was praying so quietly
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that I literally leaned forward
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and crawled to the edge of the bed
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because I wanted to hear
what she was saying.
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And I heard her say, God, my
attitude has been so wrong.
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My husband works so hard.
Lord, I ask you to bless Rick.
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I ask you to bless him with sleep.
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And I leaned back and
got back under the covers
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and thought, wow, something
has really happened.
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The next day she did the same thing.
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The next day she did the same thing.
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The next day she did the same thing.
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And finally, one day early
in the morning, she got up
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very quietly, gently went
into the adjoining room,
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got on her knees,
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and again, I crawled
to the edge of the bed.
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She didn't know I was doing it,
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but I crawled to the edge
of the bed trying to hear
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what she was saying.
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God, please bless my
husband. Rick worked so hard.
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She wasn't praying for my ears.
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She was really speaking to the Lord.
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I was training to hear
what she had to say.
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You know what happened? I was so convicted
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that she was praying for me
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and that she had such
a good attitude for me
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that eventually I got out of bed.
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I walked into the other
room, I got on my knees
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and I said, Denise,
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'cause I knew what this verse said,
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play the game right without preaching
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to your husband, you can win the game.
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I said, Denise, I can't stay in bed
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when I know you're
praying for me like that.
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I've got to come join you.
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And I said, Denise, you played
your game right? You won me.
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That was much more powerful
than her pestering me.
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Her attitude, her sweetness,
it just reached my heart.
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And now Peter is speaking to women who have
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...good intentions.
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They want their husbands to be right.
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They want their husbands to be saved.
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They want their husbands to quit drinking.
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They want their husbands to change,
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but they're pastoring their husbands.
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They're pushing their
husbands further and further
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and further and further away.
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And Peter says again in verse 1 in the RIV,
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Because of your attitude, behavior, conduct,
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and lifestyle, he can cleverly be won without you ever
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preaching a word to him.
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And then in verse two, the
RIV says, for your husband
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has certainly been paying attention to
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and thoughtfully observing your respectful
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and pure way of living.
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And wives, I want to tell you something. Now I'm not a wife
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of course, but I am a husband.
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Your life is a powerful
sermon. It's powerful.
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I know the price that my
wife has paid to serve God.
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I know the price that Denise
has paid to accompany me
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around the world.
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I know her attitude, her sweetness.
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It is so profound that it impacts me.
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Now, I've listened to
what Denise has to say,
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but a Denise did a lot of speaking to me
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and didn't have a life behind it.
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It probably wouldn't have much impact.
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But when Denise speaks
to me, she's got a life
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that backs up every
single word she speaks.
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And she has won me not
just with her words, which
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by the way are very respectful.
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She's won me with her life. Women,
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your life is your greatest sermon.
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And now Peter is speaking to you
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and he says, women, you can
win your husbands without ever
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preaching a single word to them.
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And by the way, wives, he says in verse 2,
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You may not know it and your husbands may not even tell you,
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but they're watching, they're noticing.
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They see when you've got a bad attitude.
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They see when you've got a good attitude.
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They see when you're cranky.
They see when you're joyful.
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They see when you've made
a decision to be nice.
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When you're tempted not to
be nice. They see it all.
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And that's why your
behavior is so, so powerful.
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And that's why verse one in the RIV says,
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because of your attitude,
because of the word,
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because of in Greek, is so very important.
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It describes agency
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because of your attitude,
the agency of your attitude,
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your behavior, your
conduct, and your lifestyle.
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He can be cleverly won
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without you ever preaching
a single word to him.
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Then again in verse 2, the RIV -
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For your husband has certainly been paying attention to
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and thoughtfully observing your respectful
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and pure way of living.
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And then we come to the King James version
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of verse 3.
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Are you ready? Now we're gonna move to verse 3.
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And the King James Version says - Who's adorning,
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let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair
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and of wearing of gold
or putting on of apparel.
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What in the world is this talking about?
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Well, the RIV says it a little different.
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The RIV better explains it like this:
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For you must not let your focus be only on what has to do
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with your external appearance.
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And the words "you must not let your focus be"
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are explained in footnote No.512, which says,
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this is a translation of the Greek word ouk,
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which is the strongest form of no,
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and it categorically means Peter was telling these Christian
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women not
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to make their external appearance their primary focus.
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And again, the RIV says,
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you must not let your focus be only on what has to do
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with your external appearance.
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What does that mean - external appearance?
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Well, footnote No.513 says, The words "what has to do
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with your external appearance"
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are a translation of the Greek word exothen.
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The word exothen is a form of exo, which depicts
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that which is on the
exterior or on the outside.
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But here it is used
with a definite article
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to make sure the point
is clearly understood.
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Peter categorically states - the exterior
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or their outside appearance is fading and should
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therefore not be the primary
focus for a godly woman.
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This is in no way a prohibition against taking care
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of one's outward appearance
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or practicing physical self-care,
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but rather it is an admonition
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that godly women make sure their heart,
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the long lasting part
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of their being is their primary focus.
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And then he adds in the RIV,
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like spending an inordinate amount
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of time braiding your hair,
garnishing yourself with gold
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or other expensive jewelry or
putting on luxurious clothing.
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Well, I'm gonna tell you husbands appreciate it when their
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wives are beautiful.
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I appreciate the time that Denise puts into fixing her hair.
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She is just beautiful to me.
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And the older Denise gets,
I think they're prettier,
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she gets, but there was a
problem in the 1st century
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because Roman women would sit
in front of a mirror for hours
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and hours and hours.
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And that's why it says like
spending an inordinate amount
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of time braiding your hair.
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Well, if you see the statues
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that have survived from the
1st century when Peter was
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writing this, you will
see that women spent a lot
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of time braiding their hair.
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And their hair was literally
covered, covered, covered,
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covered with curls.
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And some women would work
on their hair more than four
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to five hours a day.
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I would say that's a little inordinate.
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And not only that,
garnishing yourself with gold
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or other expensive jewelry.
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Nothing wrong with wearing
gold, nothing wrong
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with wearing expensive jewelry.
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Then he goes on or it says,
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and putting on luxurious clothing.
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The word luxurious describes
very expensive clothing,
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which means these women were investing a
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lot in their hair.
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They were investing a lot in
the appearance of their faith.
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They were investing a lot in
their gold and their jewelry.
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They were investing a lot in their attire.
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Their wardrobe was very, very expensive.
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And Peter never says that
any of that is wrong,
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but he says it's wrong for you
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to make your exterior
bean your complete focus.
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That's wrong. Then he adds in verse 4 in the King James
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Version, But let it be the hidden man of the heart in
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that which is not corruptible,
even the ornament of a meek
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and quiet spirit, which
is in the sight of God,
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of great price,
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or the RIV interprets it like this - Instead
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of focusing solely on external features,
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you see he's not against it.
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The RIV says, instead
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of focusing solely on external
features, make it your aim
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to let your primary focus be
the hidden man of the heart.
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That is your inner self,
that inner part of you
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that does not suffer the
effects of wear, tear, and age
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and is indestructible,
immortal, and timeless.
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And know that in God's view, women
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who are forbearing patient
slow to respond to anger,
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who remain in control of
themselves, even in the face
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of insults or injuries,
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and who have the remarkable
ability to remain calm
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and steady in the face
of unpleasant situations.
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Women with this kind of spirit
are cherished, esteemed,
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respected, treasured, valued,
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and deemed of grade worth by him.
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Wow, that's a tall assignment.
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But Peter says to the women,
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the most beautiful
thing you have to offer,
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your husband is not your body.
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Your body's gonna change over time.
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Gravity is gonna take its effect.
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Even if you work hard on your
body, things are gonna fall,
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things are gonna change,
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but your heart, your
heart is that part of you
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that does not suffer the
effects of wear, tear, and age
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and is indestructible,
immortal, and timeless.
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Now, I told you that I think
Denise is beautiful and I do.
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I think the older she gets,
the more elegant she is.
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She is just beautiful.
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But the part of Denise that won me
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and still wins me is her heart.
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I love my wife's heart.
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It is the greatest treasure
that she has to offer to me.
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It's the most beautiful part of her.
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I'm very grateful that she's pretty.
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I'm very grateful for
everything that she does
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with her exterior.
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She works hard on it,
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but her heart, wow,
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that is the greatest
treasure she has to offer.
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And now Peter says to the women, remember,
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don't just focus on your exterior instead
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of focusing only on exterior features.
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Make it your aim to let your primary focus be the hidden man
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of the heart.
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That is the greatest
treasure that a woman has
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to offer her spouse.
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We've covered a lot today, but
I'll be back in just a moment
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and I'm going to pray for you.
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What do I do if I keep messing up?
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Will God still use me? Well,
let me tell you what I do.
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mistake or I've messed up
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and we all do, I always go to 1 John 1:
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9, that gloriously says - If we confess our sins,
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he's faithful and just to forgive us of our sins
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This was wrong. And when you
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the Bible says, God forgives us.
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or go online now.
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Hey, this is Rick Renner,
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and today I'm in the Tulsa office
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and this is the conference
room or the boardroom.
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This room is used all the
time for strategic planning
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for the gospel and for
the teaching of the Bible,
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which we're taking around the world.
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And all around this room we
have scriptures about wise
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counselor and wise planning.
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Of course, we have the great
commission on the screen
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behind us and we even have
photographs of all the Board
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of directors of Rick Renner
Ministries who are real board
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of directors and regularly provide us
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with the most wonderful
godly counsel and advice.
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But right now we're in the process
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of paying off this facility in Tulsa.
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And guess what? We've already paid off 81%
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of the whole project,
and that is just amazing.
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If you consider how long
we've been doing this,
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it's really not that long.
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But because of the grace of God and
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because of people like you,
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we are really making significant progress.
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And when we're finished
paying off the debt on this
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building, it's gonna
release all these finances
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to help us take the teaching
of the Bible further
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to the ends of the earth.
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So if you want to become a part of the Giving Team,
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we welcome you and together
we're gonna remove this debt
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and release finances to go
further in taking the teaching
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of the Bible to the ends of the earth.
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Well, today we have covered a lot from 1st Peter
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3, about the relationship between women
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and their husbands.
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And I pray that it's
being a blessing to you.
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By the way, if you need
prayer for your marriage,
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reach out to us, call us.
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We wanna pray for you or send us an email.
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We are very sincerely waiting
to hear from you right now.
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And please order the series,
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What the Bible Says About Relationships.
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It comes with a study guide.
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And be sure to order the RIV,
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that's the Green Volume of the RIV.
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It's Vol.II, which is 1st & 2nd Peter.
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Hey, I wanna pray for you. So
put your hand on your heart.
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Father, thank you that
you address every issue
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of our lives.
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Help us, Lord, whether men
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or women, not just to
deal with our exterior,
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but to deal with our heart.
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Help us Lord, to develop our heart
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and to inwardly be what we need to be.
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In Jesus' name, amen.
Thanks for being with me.
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I'll see you in the next program.
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But until then, remember Ecclesiastes 8:4 says
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"Where the word of a king is, there is power."
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If you've never received Jesus as your Savior
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and Lord, now is the time for
you to experience a new life
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Jesus has to give you.
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Pray this prayer with me right now - Lord,
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I repent of my sin and receive you as my Savior
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and Lord. Wash away my sin
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and make me completely new.
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I thank you that my sin is removed
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and Satan no longer has any
right to lay claim on me.
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I faithfully promise that
I will serve you as my Lord
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for the rest of my life -
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Amen. Thank you for joining Rick Renner today.
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For more information about Renner Ministries
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and product resources, visit renner.org.