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Let's join Rick Renner.
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Welcome to today's program.
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My name is Rick Renner and
today I'm here with Denise.
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Thank you Rick. I am so happy
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to be on this program
talking about this subject
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And what's the subject,
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"How to Have a Happy Marriage".
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It's 5-parts and today is our 5th program
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and it's really been good.
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Please order this series.
Today is the last day.
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We're offering it on the
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And today is the last day this week
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that we're offering Denise's book called, Who
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Stole Cinderella.
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Denise, this is a good book. It
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Is really a great book, Rick.
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And that book is not
just for marriages, it's
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There's a lot of a lot of scripture,
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and I'm very candid in that book
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You, it's really a great book.
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But today we're gonna talk
about controlling the mouth.
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But first I need to say something.
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Today, I have been married
to this beautiful woman
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for 44 years.
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Denise, I
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Have 44
Years.
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This is our anniversary.
Happy anniversary.
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Happy anniversary. 44 years
ago you walked the aisle
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and I have a gift for you.
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So here comes Joel Renner, our youngest son
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and the CEO of our ministry.
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And Denise, I have 44 roses for you. Oh my Rick, thank you.
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You can count them. There's
44. - Oh - Happy Anniversary.
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Thank you honey. - And Joel,
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thank you for being the delivery
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man.
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Thank
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You, Joel.
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But today is our anniversary,
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Honey.
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That was so precious. Thank
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You.
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Thank you for 44 years.
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I love you.
Amen. I love you too.
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Thank you, Ricky.
But today we want to talk
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to you about controlling
your mouth in your marriage.
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And actually it applies
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to every single relationship in life.
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And I want us to begin in James 3,
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where Paul talks about the tongue.
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And when you come to James 3,
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beginning in verse 5, he says - Even
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so the tongue is a little member and boasteth
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of great things.
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Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
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And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity.
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So is the tongue among our members
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that it defileth the whole body
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and setteth on fire the course of nature
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and it is set on the fire of hell.
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Think about how many times
you've said something
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and it ignited something
terrible and you were later
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ao sorry that you said it. Words are powerful.
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Words start wars;
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words start strife.
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But the verse goes on to say verse 7 - For every kind
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of beasts and of birds and of serpents,
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and if things in the sea is tamed
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and half been tamed of mankind,
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but the tongue can no man tame,
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it is an unruly evil full of deadly poison.
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And Denise, I wanna read these verses from the
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RIV. Are you ready for this?
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I'm ready. - Alright, hold onto your seat.
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Listen to these verses from the RIV, James 3
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beginning in verse 5.
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In the same identical way,
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the tongue is a physically
small organ of the body,
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but in the same way our rudder controls
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and directs massive ships, the tongue,
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though small can make a remarkably big noise
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and stir a lot of commotion.
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Think, are you ready for this?
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Think of how remarkable
it is that a small fire,
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if it is kindled sufficiently to re-spark again
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and again, can stir a fire
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so great that it can burn down a whole forest.
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And the tongue is a fire, a world of its own
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that if not controlled is
filled with hurt, injustice,
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wickedness, and violations of every kind.
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The tongue is positioned
right in the middle
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of our physical organs.
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And if not controlled,
has a defiling spotting,
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staining negative effect
on the whole body.
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If not controlled, it
ignites raging passions
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that once released, get the
wheels moving in a regrettable
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series of events.
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Make no mistake, this is a
fire that is released from
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and inflamed by hell
itself for all of nature,
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including dangerous, ferocious, savage,
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wild four footed beasts, bird
snakes and other reptiles
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and things in the sea are
domesticated and tamed
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or have been tamed by the human race.
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But amazingly, absolutely no one from
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among mankind is able to control, domesticate
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or tame the tongue. For the tongue can be as painful
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as a thorn bush
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or a prickly plant, a
source of chaos, disorder,
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disturbance, instability, insubordination,
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unrest and upheaval.
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It is a real evil and it is fully loaded with deadly poison.
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Indeed, the untamed tongue
looks for opportunities
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to shoot its arrows of death at others.
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And like a poisonous ask
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or a viper, it wastes to
strike its next victim
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and press its fangs down deep enough
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to release its venom into him.
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The venom is ugly words that
produce death in relationships
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and situations.
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Denise, that is amazing. That is amazing.
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And the verse says, the
tongue can no man tame.
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But the good news is the Holy
Spirit contained the tongue.
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And if you will submit your
tongue to the Holy Spirit,
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he will help you control your tongue.
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But James says it's full of deadly poison
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and it really is two pictures in Greek.
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It's the pictures of somebody
pulling back an arrow
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that's loaded with all kinds
of poison, which once it hits,
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it doesn't just strike, it poisons.
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Or it's a picture of a poisonous snake
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that puts its fangs into
its victim and then pushes
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and pushes and pushes and pushes.
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And every time it pushes, it pushes deeper
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that venom into its victim.
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Have you ever been in a
situation when somebody began
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to really lay into you
and they just kept pushing
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and pushing and pushing and pushing,
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and you just felt like they were trying
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to put their venom into you?
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It's really bad.
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And that's what the tongue
does in relationships,
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and that's what you gotta
bring it under control.
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And you have to bring it under the control
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of the Holy Spirit, whether
it's in your marriage,
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with your sibling, with a
friend, with a coworker.
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You've gotta bring your
tongue under the control
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of the Holy Spirit and realize
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that your tongue can be
an instrument of healing
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or it can be a weapon that brings death
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and you decide who's gonna
control your tongue. Denise,
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You know Rick Proverbs 12:
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18 says, there is one who speaks like the piercing
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of the sword, but the tongue
of the wise promotes health.
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And it just like Rick said,
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it is the piercing of a sword.
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Maybe somebody has pierced
you with that sword
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and you're still trying to get over it.
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Or maybe you with your own
tongue, you pierced a soul,
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a sword into somebody else's soul.
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But on the same....line here,
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but the tongue
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of the wise promotes health.
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You and I, by making a choice and
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and submitting ourselves
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to the Holy Spirit can bring health
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to our hearers.
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And I wanna share this with you in Proverbs 15
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and it's verse 28.
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It says, the heart of the righteous
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learns to answer - studies
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how to answer. This is
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a process.
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You have to study how
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to answer; like we've said on other programs,
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maybe you have to take yourself away from that argument
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and then go maybe count to 10 or 100,
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but take control of yourself and study -
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how should I go back into
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that discussion - and the
Holy Spirit as their teacher
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and our guide, the lover of
our soul, he is right there
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to say what you should say.
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Maybe you shouldn't say anything.
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Maybe you should say, you
know, I love you so much
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and I don't have any more words to say,
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or just not to or not to say one word
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because the Holy Spirit, he is the spirit
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who brings peace.
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And when we submit ourselves
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and our tongue to him,
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he's gonna bring peace into
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that discussion.
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And Proverbs chapter 15:1 says
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that a soft answer
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will turn away wrath.
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Well, that means that a soft answer,
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if wrath is coming towards you,
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that soft answer has the
power, more power than
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that wrath to rebuke wrath
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because it comes from
that place of listening
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to the Holy Spirit.
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You're joined with the Holy
Spirit, you're in confidence
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because of the Holy Spirit.
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And you come back into that discussion
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and you come with a soft answer and that turns away wrath.
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You know Denise, in relationships, when you're in a
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conversation that can be difficult, really you need
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to do more thinking than you do talking.
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That's really good. Rick
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James 3 says, The tongue is like a rudder.
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Well, what does a rudder do? The rudder
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of a ship sets the direction of a ship.
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And wherever the rudder is pointed, that's
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where the ship is going to go.
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And the tongue is like a rudder.
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And so if I have set my
tongue to speak something
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that is spiteful,
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or if I've set my tongue to
say something that is harsh,
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it's gonna lead me into
really rough water.
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So before I speak, I need
to determine where do I want
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to go in this relationship?
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Do I wanna go into peace?
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Do I wanna sail into clear
waters, peaceful waters?
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And you gotta stop and think about
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where your words are gonna take you.
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You gotta think about it.
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So let's use the context of you and me.
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If you and me are in a
conversation, I think about
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how I answer you; you gotta have a filter.
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You can't just say any old thing that comes into your head:
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that always leads to trouble.
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That always leads to trouble.
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So for me personally, and
Denise, you do it too,
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'cause I watch you,
there's a lot of pauses
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in relationship.
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When you pause to think about - how should I say this?
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Should I say this?
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Will there be a benefit to me saying that.
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Maybe I need to recount
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those words and say that in a different way?
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How would I feel if
someone said that to me?
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And sometimes you gotta
just pause and think
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and surrender your
tongue to the Holy Spirit
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and realize - Okay, here's an opportunity for my tongue
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to bring healing and help or
for my tongue, like a rudder,
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to really take us into rougher waters.
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You gotta pause, you gotta think,
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you gotta surrender your tongue
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and you don't need to say
everything fast all at once;
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you don't need to do that. Better to slow down,
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submit your thinking to the spirit of God,
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submit your tongue to the spirit of God,
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and choose your words very carefully
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and make sure that you're
gonna say something
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that's gonna minister grace to the hearer
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that it's gonna be helpful
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and it's not going to be destructive.
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And again, in marriage, sometimes you need
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to be more quiet than talking.
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You need to pause, you
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to really think about what you're gonna
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say before you say it.
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Rick, in Proverbs 16:23, it says
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that the heart of the wise teaches his mouth
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and adds learning to his lips.
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So if we're gonna be wise
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and we're gonna control our our tongue,
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then it's a teaching process.
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You have to speak to your mouth and you have to say - Mouth,
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I'm teaching you right now.
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You're not gonna say that
you are gonna say this
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because you see the Holy
Spirit inside of you,
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he's the greater one.
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So he's actually the greater
one over this situation if we
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yield to him.
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And so when we yield to him
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and we say, okay, I'm in
line with the Holy Spirit,
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I'm gonna teach my mouth
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and mouth, you are not going
to be bring destruction
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to this conversation.
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You are going to bring peace.
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That's the kind of power that we have
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with the Holy Spirit
to correct our speech.
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And the Bible tells us in James 1, listen
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to this - Wherefore my beloveth brethren,
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let every man be swift
to hear, slow to speak,
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slow to wrath.
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I love that
You need to be quick to hear
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the Holy Spirit speaking to you.
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He'll probably tell you
to slow down, slow down.
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The very next thing says be slow to speak.
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The word slow, is the Greek word, bradys.
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It really describes a person
that has an impediment.
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They don't have the ability to speak fast.
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They have a hard time getting it out,
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Which means rather than just rush to release a slew of words
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that you're going to regret, you need
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to have a hard time getting
it outta your mouth.
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And then it says, slow to wrath. You know why
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slow to speak, slow to wrath are connected: because wrath
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and speech are connected.
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When you begin to speak
things that you don't like
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and speak vile words
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and begin to spew words,
it's connected to your wrath.
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Your wrath follows, you stir it up.
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That's how powerful the tongue is.
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But when you say, okay,
I'm gonna be swift to hear,
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I'm gonna hear what God is saying to me
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and I'm gonna zip my
lips, I'm gonna listen to
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what she is saying to me.
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Sometimes you're thinking so much about
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what you're gonna say next,
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that you're not really hearing
what's being communicated.
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You need to hear what's
being communicated.
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So I'm gonna zip my
lips, gonna open my ears,
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and after I hear I'm gonna
be slow in my response.
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And if you're slow to speak,
you'll also be slow to wrath.
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You can put on the brakes by choosing to control your mouth.
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Proverbs 21:23 says,
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whoever guards his mouth
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and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.
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What a fabulous
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verse to tell us.
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If we just guard our mouth,
if we just teach our mouth
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and our tongue, we are going
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to keep ourselves from troubles.
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Like you are a person who
keeps your mouth, your tongue,
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so you are like in a bubble.
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I am keeping myself from troubles.
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I've been teaching on marriage
for like 16 years to women.
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I've taught thousands of
women and online especially,
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and face-to-face.
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So I was teaching the ladies about
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controlling their mouth.
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And I said, let your
speech - don't criticize,
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don't correct, don't complain and don't correct.
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And so I was teaching 'em that.
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And so this woman, she went home
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and she did what I said the whole week.
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She kept her mouth closed from correction
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and criticizing and teaching.
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And she came back the next Sunday
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and she said, you know, this
was the most peaceful week
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that I've ever had in my marriage.
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Well why? Because she guarded her mouth
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and her tongue
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and it kept her soul from troubles.
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A lot of times we say, oh well
this is just outta control.
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No, it's not outta control.
You can bring it in control.
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And you know, Peter says
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that our speech should
be seasoned with salt.
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I like that
Salt is used for healing.
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And so you need to, you need to say, okay,
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is this gonna bring healing or
is this gonna bring trouble?
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This is really powerful
what we're talking about.
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We could stop so much strife
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and trouble by just controlling our mouth.
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And let me ask you - how many times have you ever been in a
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conversation and you've said
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to yourself, I shouldn't say that.
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I'm not gonna say that.
I'm not gonna say that.
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And whoops, there goes, you said it. Immediately,
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it's like the venom was injected
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through your fangs into your victim,
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and immediately it brings a bad result.
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And you just wish, oh,
why hadn't I listened to
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what the Holy Spirit was telling me
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and just kept that to myself.
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And you wish that you
could pull those words
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back, but it's too late.
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But in that kind of a case,
lemme tell you what to do -
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just stop right then
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and minister words seasoned with salt to say; You know what?
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I shouldn't have said that.
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That was harsh, that was
unkind, that was not helpful.
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Would you please forgive me for saying
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that? Immediately apply salt to that wound.
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You do what you can to
bring healing to a situation
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that you just created with your own mouth.
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God has given us so much power
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to bring healing instead of
destruction. Amen, Denise?
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Amen. And and we are the ones
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with the authority over our mouth.
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You can't say, oh, well
they made me say that.
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No they didn't. You made
that choice to to say that.
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But you can make the
choice to bring healing.
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Like Rick's talking about that.
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You know, the Bible says that death
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and life are in the power of the tongue.
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Choose which one.
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So we can choose by the
power of the Holy Spirit
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to choose life.
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Yes.
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And healing and blessing coming out of our tongue.
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Denise, we're out of
time, but happy anniversary.
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Happy anniversary. Thank you
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for my beautiful roses. You're
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Welcome.
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And thank you for a
happy, wonderful marriage.
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Thank you for being
my wonderful husband,
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And thank you for being with us today.
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We'll be back in just a moment
and we're gonna pray for you.
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Tell us about your pet.
Well, we do have a pet.
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We have a Sharpe named Precious.
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Now, when Precious first
came into our life,
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she came with another Sharpe.
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There were two of them. One
was a boy, one was a girl.
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The boy's name was Mighty,
the girl's name was Precious.
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So when we would call for them,
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we would say Mighty, Precious.
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Precious adores your mother.
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But we do have a pet,
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she is absolutely beautiful
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Thousands of phone calls every day
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And this is my precious
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and she established this
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But these are the principles
we are dedicated to:
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To feed the entire flock God has brought to this ministry.
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To strengthen those who are diseased in any area
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of their lives. To bring healing to those in need
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of any type of healing. To bind up those
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who are broken in any area of their lives.
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to hear the voice of this ministry
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and to help them grow in their relationship with Christ
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and become powerful Bible-based believers equipped
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for these last days.
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to partners whose sacrificial
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ministry to fulfill his
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And we are very committed
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And if you're a partner,
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serious about that.
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But hey, right now we're trying to pay off this facility
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and those who are part of the Ministry Expansion Project are
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And if you're a part already, thank you.
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So would you please become a part
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of the Ministry Expansion Giving Team
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so we can pay off this facility
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and then keep taking the gospel to the ends of the Earth
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where people really are crying out for someone
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And that's us, that's our call
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and my friends together, we can do this.
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And I want to say thank you so much.
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Well, we just wrapped up a 5-part series called, How
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to Have a Happy Marriage, and
it comes with a study guide.
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And we're also offering you,
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and by the way, today's the
last day we're offering it
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Denise's book called, Who Stole Cinderella.
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This book is so good.
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And we're offering you the RIV of 1st & 2nd Peter.
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But you can order all these
things by going online.
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And Denise, I wanna say
again, happy anniversary.
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Happy anniversary, right?
I hope you like your roses.
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They're gorgeous.
Thank you for being
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with us this week, and
thank you for communicating
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to let us know that you
have enjoyed this series.
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We really enjoy hearing from you.
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And your comments means
so much to me and Denise,
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And I just wanna say,
value your marriage.
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Don't throw it away.
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Value what GA God gave
you and value your spouse.
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Think about what's good about them,
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not just what's bad about them.
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And if you need prayer,
please reach out to us
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because we're waiting for
the phone to ring right now.
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Please call us or send us an email.
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Let us know how we can pray for you.
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Whatever it is that's on your heart.
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And according to 1 John 5:14
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and 15, If we pray anything according to his will,
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and we'll pray according to
the scripture, he'll hear us
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and we will have the petitions
that we request of him,
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which means Jesus will
do what needs to be done.
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But thank you for being with me
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and Denise for all of these programs
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and we wanna pray with you.
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Father, we thank you, first of all for us today,
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celebrating 44 years of marriage.
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Thank you, Jesus.
Father, we pray for people
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that are trying to bring
corrections to their marriage.
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Lord, we pray for people
that have made mistakes.
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Lord, your restorative is
available for them right now.
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We thank you Lord, that with
you there is always hope
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and there's always restoration, in Jesus' name
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Amen. Thank you for being with us.
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We'll see you in the next program.
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But remember, Ecclesiastes 8:4 says, "Where the word
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of a king is, there is power."
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If you've never received
Jesus as your Savior
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and Lord, now is the time for
you to experience a new life
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Jesus has to give you.
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Pray this prayer with me right now - Lord,
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I repent of my sin and receive you as my Savior
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and Lord. Wash away my sin
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and make me completely new.
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I thank you that my sin is removed
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and Satan no longer has any
right to lay claim on me.
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I faithfully promise that
I will serve you as my Lord
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for the rest of my life -
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Amen.
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If you just prayed the
prayer of salvation with us,
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would you please let us know by going
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to renner.org/salvation?
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We would love to connect with you.
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Thank you for joining Rick Renner today.
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For more information about Renner Ministries
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and product resources, visit renner.org.