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This program is made
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of the God called partners
of Renner Ministries.
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Hello friend. My name is Denise Renner
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and I welcome you to my program.
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Today I have the privilege of sharing my program
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with my husband, and we are filming in his beautiful studio
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and we're doing teaching on
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how you can have a happy marriage.
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Oh, that's so important today.
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Oh, how we need teaching and instruction
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and help on how to have a happy marriage.
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And today we're going to be talking about
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how you can show mercy
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and give forgiveness.
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I've been asked so many times
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because in a few days we're
gonna be married 44 years.
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Isn't that awesome?
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And I've been asked so many
times through the years,
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how have you kept a happy marriage?
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And the first thing that
I say is forgiveness.
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You've got to become a good forgiver in
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your marriage.
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Now the Bible says that we're to forgive
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as we've been forgiven.
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It's in Ephesians 4 and it says in verse 32:
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And be kind one to another and tender hearted
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and forgiving one another,
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even as God in Christ forgave you.
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We have a mandate, a call
from God, that we are
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to forgive as we've been forgiven
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and God wouldn't ask us to do
something that we couldn't do.
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And in Romans 5:5,
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when you got born again, it says
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that the Holy Ghost shed
abroad all over your heart,
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the love of God.
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And you can forgive
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and you can show mercy.
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And I know that you're
gonna see some clues
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and wisdom of how Rick
and I have shown mercy
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and forgiveness to one another.
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But what the word of God says,
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there's gonna be an encouragement,
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there's an anointing on this teaching,
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and I don't want you to
miss one minute of it.
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So I want you to stay with
me, and I'm coming right back.
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I'm gonna be in Rick's studio
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and we're gonna talk about
how to have a happy marriage
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and stay with a tender
heart and give mercy
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and forgiveness to one another.
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It's time for big miracles
and changes in your life.
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Join Denise Renner
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and dive into the study of God's word, which has great power
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to strengthen faith, inspire change, heal physically
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and spiritually, and most importantly,
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help you learn about the power
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of Christ Jesus living in you.
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It's Time With Denise Renner.
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Welcome to today's program.
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My name is Rick Renner,
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and I'm here again with a
wonderful Denise Renner.
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Thank you Rick.
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I'm enjoying our time in
these programs so much,
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Denise.
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We're talking about, How To Have a Happy Marriage,
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and we have a happy marriage.
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And tomorrow is our 44th
wedding anniversary.
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But please order this series
comes with a study guide
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and get Denise's book which is called, Who Stole Cinderella:
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the Art of Happily Ever After.
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This is really a good book.
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And now you can order the RIV of 1 & 2 Peter.
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And today I'm gonna read a
little bit to you from the RIV
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of 1 Peter.
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But you can order all these
things by going online
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or by giving us a call;
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just call the number on
the screen or go online.
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And Denise, we really want people
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to tell us how to pray for them.
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We believe in prayer.
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Absolutely. - And you know,
sometimes when we're in Tulsa
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and we walk through the prayer ministry,
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it's like a roar of prayer.
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People are just fervently
praying for those
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that reach out to us.
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And not only do people reach out to us with prayer requests,
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they call back with testimonies.
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And the testimonies are amazing: testimony
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after testimony of people who
received an answer to prayer
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after they called or wrote to us.
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And we believe there's a testimony
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with your name on it just waiting for you.
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So let us know how to pray for you
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and we want to pray for you as well.
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But Denise, today we're gonna
move on. Are you ready? We're
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Ready.
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And we're gonna talk about
Embracing Forgiveness in the
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context of marriage.
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If you want to have a happy marriage, then you have to learn
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how to forgive and forget very quickly.
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And I want us to begin in Ephesians 4:27,
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which we covered in the last program.
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And it says, Neither give place to the devil.
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We saw in the last program
that when you give place
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to the devil, it often results in strife.
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And when strife gets in,
there is every evil work.
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And Denise and I shared that
early on in our marriage
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and I mean decades ago, we learned
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that when we would get into strife, one
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of our kids would get sick.
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And it took us a while to wake up to it.
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But we finally realized, you know what?
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There's some kind of a
connection between strife
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and our kids getting sick.
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And that one time that
Philip put his hand in
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that hot coffee,
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and we were in strife
right when that happened,
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and he got third degree burns on his hand
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and we, I mean, we had
to stop and stop and
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and get his hand treated every single day.
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But strife opened the door
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for that accident.
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And we really learn.
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And after that, one day Denise
and I were driving in the car
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and told you we were in a little tiny Isuzu I Mark.
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I mean, it was tiny. With all of our luggage:
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we had a tape duplicator, a typewriter,
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we had all of our luggage.
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Paul was in the backseat.
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He refused to stay in the car seat.
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That was a great frustration.
Phillip was on Denise's lap.
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We were nearly joined at the hip
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because the car was so compact.
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And one day we got into strife
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and I said, Denise, if we allow this,
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something's going to happen.
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We finally learned strife opened a door to every evil work.
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So you know what we did? I said, Denise, let's tell strife
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to get out of our car.
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We literally rolled down the window on
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both sides of the car we did.
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And we said, strife, get out of this car.
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And we realized strife is
a spirit. It is a spirit.
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And when you allow it in,
it creates bad things.
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And we commanded it to get out of our car
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and we developed a no
strife policy in our home.
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But when you go to Ephesians 4:27, it says,
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Neither give place to the devil.
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The word place is the Greek word topos.
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It describes a real geographical location like a door
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or window or a crack.
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The devil's looking
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So you've gotta be sure
that you give him no place.
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But then when you go to verse 29, it says -
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Let no corrupt communication
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Well, I always thought
that meant curse words,
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but the word corrupt is the Greek word sapros.
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It describes anything that is rotting.
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You don't have to speak curse words to speak
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corrupt communication.
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Corrupt communication is anything that produces rot.
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It doesn't produce anything that's good.
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It just produces rot. It's just corrupt.
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And he goes on to say instead,
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but that which is good
to the use of edifying,
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that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
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And sometimes we just need to stop
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and ask ourselves - Is there a benefit to what I'm saying?
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Am I gonna take Denise higher
or am I gonna take her lower?
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Maybe I need to find a way
to represent my argument
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or represent what I'm trying to say.
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I need to repackage my words
to make them a blessing
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and not something that's just corrupt
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and is gonna produce something bad.
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And then it goes on and says
in verse 30 - And grieve, not
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the Holy Spirit whereby you're sealed
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unto the day of redemption.
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Sometimes you just need to stop
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and say - Is this communication
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blessing the spirit of God?
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Or is this grievous to the
spirit of God? You'll know.
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You'll know the answer.
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And if the way that you're behaving,
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the way you're speaking is
grieving to the Holy Spirit,
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then you ought to stop it.
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If it's grieving to the Holy Spirit,
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it's gonna be grieving to your spouse.
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And guess what? It's gonna grieve you too.
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You're gonna be sorry later
that you talked like that.
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But these, you have
to do this on purpose.
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It's, it's very intentional.
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It doesn't happen accidentally.
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You have to do this on purpose.
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And the following verse says, let all bitterness and wrath
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and anger and clamor
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and evil speaking be put away
from you with all malice.
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Verse 32:
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And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted,
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forgiving one another even as God
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for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
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And do you know what I've learned?
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If you can just be nice, you're pretty mature Christian.
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I am really impressed by people that are just nice.
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But you know what? That's a decision. You choose to be nice.
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And rather than put all of your emotion
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and spend all of your
emotions in bitterness
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and spend all your emotions
on wrath and anger and clamor
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and evil speaking, put it
away from you with all malice.
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And he says, be ye kind one to another.
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Be ye - in Greek is a form of the Greek word, ginomai.
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A better translation will be, be in the process
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of becoming kind one to another,
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which means this is
something you have to learn.
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You have to learn how
to put on the brakes,
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and you have to learn how
to reverse your action.
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You gotta get involved in the
process of becoming kind one
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to another, tender hearted
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and forgiving one another even as God
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for Christ sake hath forgiven.
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You - and Denise - the word forgiving, here
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would be better translated - are you ready for this -
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gracing one another as God,
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for Christ's sake hath graced you.
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Powerful.
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Well, how many times have
you ever just thought,
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I just wish somebody would give me grace in this situation.
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I just wish, I just wish
she would just give me
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grace in this.
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Well, in the same way you want somebody to grace you,
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sometimes the best thing you can do is just
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to grace somebody else.
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Just let it go.
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You don't have to correct every single thing that happens.
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Now I'm a teacher and so
I'm one that wants to teach.
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I'm one that wants to put things in order.
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But you know what? Sometimes
teaching is not the answer.
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Sometimes you just need to
overlook it and let it go.
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You just need to grace somebody in their situation:
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just grace them.
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Just like you want to be
graced and it's powerful.
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And when you just grace somebody
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and just love them in spite
of them, it is so powerful.
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It frees them to hear from God.
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It frees them to want
to change on their own.
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And I want to give another
verse, but go ahead Denise.
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You know I'm thinking of Proverbs
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because it says that there is learning
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in sweet talk.
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If people are arguing,
there's no learning going on.
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We have one son that says,
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if people are shouting at each
other, nobody hears anything
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and there's no learning going on.
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And that verse says, to be tenderhearted.
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Now to be tenderhearted,
you've gotta guard your heart.
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Yes.
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Because if that person is railing against you,
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you can't say, well, I'm just going
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to guard my heart against them
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and they're not gonna hurt me.
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And they're thinking
about how to answer back.
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That is not a tender heart.
No, it's not.
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That's a hard heart.
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And and God didn't call marriage for us
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to be hard hearted towards each other,
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but he called us to be tender
hearted toward each other.
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Marriage is not supposed to be like this.
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It's supposed to be like this: under understanding,
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supporting giving grace to one another
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and keeping a
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tender heart towards your spouse.
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And gracing each other as God,
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for Christ's sake has graced us.
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Denise, think how God has just graced us.
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Oh, I mean, how can I be judgmental of anybody else
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when I think about how un-judgmental God has been of me.
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He has just graced me and graced me
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and graced me and friends.
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We are obligated to grace others.
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Well, and that verse says, you forgive
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as you've been forgiven.
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That's right.
That's a very high standard.
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You say, well, I don't
wanna forgive anymore.
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I'm tired of their actions.
They always do that.
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I say something to them and
they say this back to me
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and we, we never get along.
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Well you got to press
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through - and sometimes pressing through is backing off.
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Exactly. Just
Back off and just give grace
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And, and just give grace.
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Give time. Think of a good thought.
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Think you know that's, that's a good,
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that's a good attribute about them.
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I can think of things, I can be thankful
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for them about my spouse.
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Oh, I, oh that's good. He is
like that. She is like that.
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Lord, thank you for that.
Because the enemy's coming in
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Call to remembrance good things.
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Well the enemy's coming
in with accusation Rick,
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Right?
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Because he is an accuser.
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So he's either gonna accuse you
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or he is gonna accuse
your spouse in your mind.
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And that's when you've got to keep -
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No - I'm keeping a tender
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heart.
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Alright, I wanna share
something from the RIV one.
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Peter, are you ready for this?
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Where Peter is speaking
to husbands and wives?
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And remember what I said
in a previous program,
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Peter had been married about 60 years,
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so he knew something about marriage.
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So when most people read 1 Peter 3, they think
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that all speech about marriage ends in verse 7.
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But he really continues in verse 8.
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And in verse 8, the King James Version says - Finally -
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it's kind of a wrap up to everything that he said: Be ye all
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of one mind having compassion one of another,
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love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous.
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Well, this verse really helps me,
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and I'm gonna tell you how it helps me.
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It says finally - so he's wrapping it up - be of one mind.
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That's a goal. That's a
goal to be of one mind.
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I'm gonna give you the RIV of this in just a moment.
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It says have compassion of one another.
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And you know, sometimes in
the context of marriage,
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you just need to have compassion.
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Sometimes that is what is needed. just to be very honest,
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Sometimes Denise doesn't need my words; She needs my hug.
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And a hug can fix a lot of things.
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And sometimes she'll just say, Rick,
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would you please just hug me?
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And I always feel so silly at that moment
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because sad that she had to tell me.
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But sometimes we need to be reminded
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that sometimes people
don't just need correction,
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correction, correction, they
just need a hug to help them.
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And I wanna say something right there -
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because wives, we expect our husbands to read our minds.
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We think they know how we feel.
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We think they know that
we've had a bad day
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or that we're exhausted
and that a hug will help.
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Well, they just might not
be thinking about that.
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And so a real practical thing
is just to say, I need a hug.
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But the verse goes on
to say, love is brethren.
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Now that really helps me. You know why?
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Because before Denise was
my wife, she was my sister.
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One day when we go to heaven,
she will still be my sister.
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Right now in life, God has joined us
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for the purpose of marriage.
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But before she was my wife
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and long after the grave,
when we're all in heaven,
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she'll still be my sister.
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And do you know what? She deserves
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the same behavior I would give
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to any sister in the body of Christ.
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I'm not gonna be ugly
with a woman at church.
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I'm not gonna get into strife
with any woman at church.
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You know why? Because they
are my sister in Christ
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and they deserve my respect.
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And sometimes you just
gotta put on the brakes
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and say, now wait a minute, you're talking
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to a sister in Christ.
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It doesn't matter if she's your wife,
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it doesn't matter if you're in
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strife or you're in disagreement.
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She's your sister.
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And she deserves respect
and honor as a sister.
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That really helps me.
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But then it goes on to say - be pitiful, be courteous.
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And you know what? Now Denise,
I'm just gonna be honest.
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Sometimes Denise just kind of gets into
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maybe an emotional squandary.
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Doesn't make any sense, doesn't even make any sense to her.
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And rather than correct her, sometimes I think of this verse
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that says, be pitiful.
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And sometimes I just look at her, I say,
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that is just pitiful.
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She just needs me.
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She doesn't need my correction, she needs my pity,
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she needs my love, she
needs my compassion.
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And the next thing the
verse says is be courteous.
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Be courteous, be polite. Be courteous
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in your relationship. You'd be courteous
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to anybody else;
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you're talking about the most important person in your life.
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It's your husband, it's your wife.
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You should be courteous
in your relationship.
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And I want to give you the RIV
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of 1 Peter 3:8.
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Are you ready for this Denise?
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I want to interrupt.
Okay.
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I want to say that Rick
was courteous to me today
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because I had less time to get ready than he did.
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And I said, Rick, would you
just please make the bed?
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And he was courteous in. Yeah, I'll do that.
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Not resentful, not - Oh, I don't have time.
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No, I don't wanna do that.
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No, he, he said he would do
it in a very courteous way.
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Well, thank you sweetheart.
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But I want to give you the RIV 1 Peter 3:8.
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And Denise has never heard it.
So this is new. Here it is.
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But I have a really important
additional final word.
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Corporately, all of you are
to be synchronized as much
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as possible in your mind,
perception and understanding.
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You must also be sympathetic
and be compassionate
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and empathetic with each other.
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Love each other as those
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who are really related to each other.
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You must have emotions for each other
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so deeply felt that it moves you from a gut level
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to reach out to do whatever
you can to help each other.
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Denise, you do that for me.
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So many times, be
unassuming, unpretentious,
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without airs about yourself,
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even if you are more gifted than others.
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Nevertheless, do not be self-promoting,
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but intentionally think
modestly of your self.
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Now that is just amazing to me.
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And then the next verse says, Not rendering evil for evil
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or railing for railing.
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But you know what? The Bible
tells us to be courteous,
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to be polite, to be pitiful,
to be compassionate,
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to love his brethren.
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And to me that really elevates marriage.
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It really elevates marriage.
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You know, Denise is my wife,
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but Denise is my sister,
and I'm her brother.
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We are both blood washed individuals.
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And even in the context of marriage,
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that just brings a lot of honor to the
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relationship.
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It says in 1 Corinthians 12,
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that even though we're different,
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we all drink from the same spirit.
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Spirit. - We are so one, not just 'cause in marriage,
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but we are one because we're one in him.
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And we and and this world, we
want it tries to separate us.
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It tries to say, oh, you
are this, you are this.
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Oh you are that. Oh, I don't need you.
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I can do this myself, but
not in the body of Christ.
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We do need one another
and to esteem one another
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because we drink from the same spirit.
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Denise, I wanna give the RIV of 1 Peter 3:9 one more time.
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But you absolutely must not try to get even:
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to get revenge
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or to pay someone back for what he did
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to you or someone else.
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Don't try to settle the score
by repaying someone's bad,
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evil, malicious rotten attitudes
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and behaviors in exchange
for more bad, evil,
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malicious rotten behaviors.
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Or if someone has verbally
abused, berated, damaged,
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debased, harassed, humiliated,
insulted, or misused you
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or someone else, do not
make it your business
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to pay them back with the
same kind of verbal abuse.
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But on the contrary, into the farthest opposite end
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of the spectrum, you must instead speak a verbal blessing in
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response to them.
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For it is this very purpose that you've been
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prestigously called -
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that you should be the recipients of a blessing.
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And you know what the next verse says - For he
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that will love life and see good days,
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Right?
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Let him refrain his tongue from evil
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and his lips that they speak no guile.
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The RIV says - For the person who fully intends
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to have a life that's full of gusto
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and zest, that is a life
really worth living.
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And who wishes to firsthand see
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and experience their really good and profitable day, times
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and seasons in life,
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then let him make sure his tongue refrains from,
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ceases and permanently stops from speaking evil.
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For if a person wants to have
a life really worth living,
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then he must purposely put distance
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between himself and evil.
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And that includes watching what he says
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and no longer allowing his
mouth to spew reckless words.
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And that's what we're gonna talk about in the next program.
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We're gonna talk about
watching your mouth in the
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context of marriage.
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It's really going to be
good, but we're out of time.
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But Denise, I'll be back to
pray for you in just a moment.
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How did you begin your
ministry in the Soviet Union?
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Well, Joel, when we first moved to the former Soviet Union,
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which at that time was still the Soviet Union,
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I was invited here to speak
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as a regular teacher in a Bible school.
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And every day I'd walk
down to that Bible school
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and I would stand in front
of about 220 students, people
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who were so hungry,
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and it was such an amazing moment
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because it was the first
time they could openly
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study the Bible.
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Because in the Soviet Union
that had been forbidden.
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And now here they were sitting
in a Bible school studying
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the scriptures, and my beginning here was
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to be their teacher.
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And what is amazing is that many of those students who were
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with me in the very
beginning today, pastor,
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the largest churches in the
entire former Soviet Union.
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Everywhere we go, we see the fruit
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of those wonderful students
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Want a marriage filled with peace, purpose, and joy?
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In this new series, How to
Have a Happy Marriage, Rick
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and Denise Renner share biblical wisdom
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and real life lessons
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that have helped them
strengthen their relationship
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with one another, overcome strife
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and experience the joy of
a God-centered marriage.
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In this 5-part series, you will learn: How
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to find purpose in your marriage - How to eliminate strife
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and maintain peace - The power of forgiveness - How
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to let the Holy Spirit guide your tongue -
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available in digital
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or physical formats starting at just $11.
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This series will equip you
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to strengthen your marriage on
a solid biblical foundation.
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In addition to this teaching series,
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you can order Denise's book, Who Stole Cinderella?
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and Rick's book, the RIV of 1st
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& 2nd Peter; order today.
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Don't miss this special offer
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Call the number on your screen
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Well, today we've been
talking about the need
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to embrace forgiveness in
the context of marriage.
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Sometimes you just need
to grace each other.
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The Bible says we're to grace each other as God
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for Christ's sake has graced us.
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And sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is just
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to grace somebody.
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And you need to learn to do that in the context of marriage.
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But please order the whole series, which is called. How
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to Have A Happy Marriage by Rick
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and Denise Renner - comes with a study guide
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and be sure to order Denise's book,
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which is called, Who Stole Cinderella, the Art
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of Happily Ever After.
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And be sure to order the RIV of 1st & 2nd Peter. Denise,
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these resources are just amazing
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and I want people to have them.
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And you can get them by going
online or by giving us a call.
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And please let us know how to pray for you
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because we really want to pray for you
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and put your hand on your
heart right now because Denise
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and I are gonna pray for
you together just now.
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Father, in the name of Jesus, we thank you
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that you've given us
the power to overlook,
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to let go, and to grace.
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And just like we want people
to grace us, help us to learn
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that there are moments when
we just need to close our lips
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and just give grace to people.
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Help us to be compassionate,
to love his brethren,
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to be pitiful and
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to be courteous like we are commanded in 1 Peter
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3, we thank you for this in the wonderful name of Jesus
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Amen. You know, Denise, if somebody can just be nice,
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they've already really attained something, let's all pray
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that we can be nice.
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But remember, Ecclesiastes 8:4 says, "Where the word
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of a king is, there is power."
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If you've never received
Jesus as your Savior
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and Lord, now is the time for
you to experience a new life
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Jesus has to give you.
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Pray this prayer with me right now; Lord,
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I repent of my sin and
receive you as my Savior
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and Lord. Wash away my sin and make me completely new.
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I thank you that my sin is removed
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and Satan no longer has any
right to lay claim on me.
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I faithfully promise that
I will serve you as my Lord
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for the rest of my life.
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Amen.