REBECCA WEISS: HEY, WELCOME TO
THE REBECCA WEISS PODCAST.
I AM SUPER HAPPY TODAY
BECAUSE MY FAVORITE PERSON
IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD IS HERE,
MY HUSBAND, JONATHAN WEISS.
JONATHAN WEISS: I LOVE YOU. GOOD TO BE HERE.
REBECCA: THANKS FOR BEING ON THE SHOW WITH ME.
JONATHAN: MM-HMM.
REBECCA: MY FAVORITE PERSON TO FILM WITH IS YOU.
JONATHAN: OH, WOW.
AFTER ALL THE GUESTS YOU'VE HAD,
I'M STILL THE FAVORITE?
REBECCA: YOU'RE STILL THE FAVORITE.
JONATHAN: THAT IS A SHOCK.
REBECCA: AND WHAT ARE WE, BABE?
JONATHAN: PREGNANT?
REBECCA: YEAH.
JONATHAN: OH, OKAY.
REBECCA: I'M PREGNANT
AND I CAN FINALLY TALK ABOUT IT
BECAUSE WE FINALLY ANNOUNCED IT
AND I CAN FINALLY WEAR CLOTHING.
JONATHAN: CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR THIRD CHILD.
REBECCA: I KNOW, LOOK, WE DID IT TOGETHER.
WE'RE A TEAM.
JONATHAN: WE SAID WHEN WE WERE DATING
THAT WE BOTH WANTED THREE
SO WE'VE ACHIEVED THREE.
SO EVERYTHING PAST THIS IS JUST GONNA BE
EXTRA CREDIT OR BONUS CREDIT FOR US.
REBECCA: THAT'S SO TRUE.
I REMEMBER WHEN WE BOTH ASKED EACH OTHER
HOW MANY KIDS WE WANTED,
AND WE WERE GONNA SAY IT LIKE ON THE COUNT OF THREE,
AND WE BOTH SAID THREE IN UNISON.
WE WERE LIKE, WHOA,
MAYBE WE'RE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER.
JONATHAN: ALTHOUGH I FEEL LIKE THREE IS
A COMMON NUMBER THAT PEOPLE WANT, BUT YEAH.
REBECCA: NO, WE'RE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER.
JONATHAN: OKAY.
REBECCA: THAT'S EVEN ANOTHER THING,
IS YOU'RE MORE A REALIST
AND I'M MORE A DREAMER,
AND THAT'S WHY WE'RE GOOD TOGETHER.
JONATHAN: THAT'S TRUE.
REBECCA: OKAY. SO WHAT ARE WE DOING HERE?
JONATHAN: THERE'S A GAME PREPARED
BY YOUR PRODUCTION TEAM.
I THINK THE INSTRUCTIONS ARE RIGHT THERE
IF YOU WANT TO SHARE WITH EVERYONE
HOW IT'S GONNA GO DOWN.
REBECCA: OKAY.
THIS VALENTINE'S SPECIAL,
JONATHAN AND I WANTED TO INVITE THE VIEWERS
INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP.
AND OUR AMAZING PRODUCTION TEAM,
WHO I'M STARING AT OVER THERE,
PUT TOGETHER A Q AND A GAME
WHERE THERE ARE THREE DIFFERENT LEVELS.
SO WE'RE GONNA START WITH PERCEPTION.
PERCEPTION IS ALL ABOUT OUR IMPRESSIONS
ABOUT ONE ANOTHER.
JONATHAN: I'LL READ A QUESTION FIRST.
WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING
FOR YOU TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT ME EARLY ON?
WOW, THAT'S A GOOD QUESTION.
REBECCA: THAT IS SO DEEP.
WE HAVE NOT PREPARED FOR THIS AT ALL.
JONATHAN: DEEP IS WHAT PEOPLE WANT.
SO WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING -
REBECCA: GIVE THE PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT.
JONATHAN: - YOU HAD TO LEARN ABOUT ME EARLY ON?
REBECCA: I WOULD SAY...
I DON'T KNOW.
JONATHAN: YEAH, YOU DO.
REBECCA: IT'S A HARD QUESTION.
I THINK I WOULD SAY -
READ THE QUESTION ONE MORE TIME.
JONATHAN: WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING
THAT YOU HAD TO LEARN ABOUT ME EARLY ON?
REBECCA: I THINK THAT YOU ARE FOR ME
AND YOU WANT THE BEST FOR ME,
EVEN WHEN I DON'T NECESSARILY SEE THAT
IN HOW YOU ACT
BECAUSE YOU HANDLE THINGS DIFFERENTLY THAN I DO.
JONATHAN: I FEEL LIKE YOU'RE STILL LEARNING THAT.
REBECCA: YEAH.
[ LAUGHTER ]
REBECCA: BUT YOU ARE FOR ME MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE,
AND I FEEL MORE SUPPORTED BY YOU
THAN ANYONE IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.
SO THANK YOU, YOU'VE BEEN AMAZING.
BUT THAT'S TRUE, I THINK WHEN YOU'RE WITH SOMEONE
WHO'S SO DIFFERENT THAN YOU,
YOU HAVE TO LEARN THAT THEY'RE GONNA COMMUNICATE
DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU,
THEY'RE GONNA SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU.
AND I EVEN HAD TO LEARN
HOW TO HANDLE MYSELF DIFFERENTLY THAN I DO
BECAUSE FOR YOU TO WORK AS A TEAM -
JONATHAN: WHAT DID YOU THINK WHEN
WE WERE PROBABLY ON -
REBECCA: I WAS ALL OVER THE PLACE
WHEN WE STARTED DATING.
JONATHAN: OKAY, SO WHEN YOU VISITED ME
FOR THE FIRST TIME,
YOU CAME WITH A FRIEND.
REBECCA: YEAH.
JONATHAN: AND YOU GUYS WERE STAYING AT A HOTEL
AND I REMEMBER I WAS WAITING FOR LIKE 30 MINUTES
IN THE HOTEL LOBBY PAST THE TIME
WE WERE SUPPOSED TO MEET UP.
AND FINALLY I WAS JUST LIKE, THAT'S IT.
AND I WENT UP TO YOUR HOTEL ROOM
AND KNOCKED ON THE DOOR,
AND WHAT DID YOU THINK WHEN I DID THAT?
REBECCA: WAIT.
ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT,
I THINK YOU'RE MIXING NEW YORK WITH SAN FRANCISCO.
JONATHAN: I AM NOT. I REMEMBER SPECIFICALLY -
REBECCA: WAIT, SO THIS HAPPENED TWICE?
JONATHAN: YEAH, IT'S HAPPENED OUR WHOLE MARRIAGE.
INCLUDING BEFORE THIS EPISODE,
I SAT HERE WAITING FOR YOU.
SO WHAT DID YOU THINK WHEN I JUST LIKE
CAME TO THE DOOR?
REBECCA: I WAS LIKE, WOW,
THIS GUY IS ASSERTIVE.
JONATHAN: HE'S HARASSING ME.
[ LAUGHTER ]
REBECCA: NO, BUT I NEED THAT, SO IT'S GOOD.
BUT YOU'RE LIKE,
I'M NOT GONNA SIT AROUND AND WAIT,
I'M GONNA MAKE THIS HAPPEN.
AND THAT'S WHAT I WANTED IN A PARTNER.
IT'S JUST KICKED MY BUTT A FEW TIMES, THAT'S ALL.
JONATHAN: YOU READ ME QUESTION NUMBER ONE.
REBECCA: OKAY.
THIS QUESTION IS GONNA BE A SAVAGE ANSWER.
JONATHAN: ALL RIGHT. READ IT.
[ LAUGHTER ]
REBECCA: WHAT WAS I WEARING ON OUR FIRST DATE?
JONATHAN: OKAY.
OUR FIRST DATE.
REBECCA: THE GATEWAY OUTFIT.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
IT WAS LIKE A MAROON -
REBECCA: YEAH, IT WAS MAROON.
JONATHAN: I DON'T FORGET ANYTHING.
A MAROON AND LIKE FLORAL -
REBECCA: NO, IT WAS JUST MAROON, IT WAS LONG.
JONATHAN: OKAY, VERY MAROON.
SO MAROON THAT LIKE YOU ALMOST THOUGHT
THERE WERE FLOWERS IN IT.
AND BLACK PANTS AND BLACK BOOTS,
LIKE BOOTIE BOOTS, NOT BOOTS.
REBECCA: YEAH. BOOTIE BOOTS.
JONATHAN: WHAT DO THEY CALL THOSE,
LITTLE BOOTIES, I DON'T KNOW?
I'M NOT VERY GOOD WITH GIRLS FASHION.
AND YOU HAD ON WAY TOO MUCH PERFUME.
LIKE SO MUCH PERFUME THAT I THOUGHT I WAS GONNA -
REBECCA: THAT WAS LATER.
JONATHAN: OH, THAT WAS LATER?
REBECCA: THAT WASN'T THE FIRST TIME.
JONATHAN: ARE YOU SURE?
REBECCA: I'M POSITIVE.
OKAY.
NOW WE HAVE TO TELL THAT STORY.
O GOD, THESE ARE JUST ALL TERRIBLE STORIES ABOUT ME.
JONATHAN: NO. YOU'RE FINE.
REBECCA: SO WHEN JONATHAN AND I WERE DATING,
I WANTED TO IMPRESS HIM.
AND SO I WENT TO SEPHORA
AND I GOT A BUNCH OF SAMPLES OF PERFUME
THAT ARE LIKE THIS BIG.
JONATHAN: LITERALLY MY NIGHTMARE.
REBECCA: AND BEFORE I WENT ON THE PLANE,
I SPRAYED PERFUME.
WHILE I WAS ON THE PLANE, I SPRAYED PERFUME.
WHEN I GOT OFF THE PLANE,
I SPRAYED PERFUME.
AND JONATHAN IS REALLY SENSITIVE TO SMELL.
JONATHAN: OKAY, I MIGHT BE SENSITIVE.
YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SPRAY THAT STUFF
ONCE IN THE MORNING
IN FRONT OF YOU AND KIND OF WAVE IT AROUND.
AND YOU DIRECTLY SPRAYED IT ON YOURSELF.
REBECCA: I'M KIND OF THE PERSON,
JONATHAN CAN TELL YOU THIS,
I'M LIKE ALL OR NOTHING.
SO IT'S LIKE IF I'M GONNA DO SOMETHING,
I'M GONNA DO IT.
JONATHAN: YOU'RE LIKE I'M GONNA SMELL.
REBECCA: IF I'M GONNA COOK SOMETHING,
THERE'S PROBABLY TOO MANY SPICES IN IT.
LIKE I JUST, I GO A LITTLE TOO HARD.
JONATHAN: THAT'S TRUE.
REBECCA: BECAUSE I'M A LITTLE OVERENTHUSIASTIC.
JONATHAN: THAT'S SO TRUE.
REBECCA: AND SO LITERALLY I GET OFF THE PLANE,
I SPRAY IT AGAIN.
AND THIS WASN'T LIKE SOME SUBTLE PERFUME.
THIS WAS LIKE SOME FLORAL LADY PERFUME.
JONATHAN: LIKE A JAPANESE FLOWER DAY.
REBECCA: DON'T KNOW WHY I CHOSE THE STRONGEST,
MOST PERFUMIEST PERFUME.
AND SO JONATHAN PICKS ME UP FROM THE SF AIRPORT,
AND I GET INTO HIS CAR
AND IT'S LIKE A BOMB HAS GONE OFF.
A FLOWER BOMB.
AND HE CAN'T EVEN BREATHE
BECAUSE WE'RE IN YOUR LITTLE NISSAN.
JONATHAN: IT WASN'T LITTLE,
IT WAS A FOUR DOOR SEDAN.
REBECCA: I'M JUST SAYING WE'RE IN A SMALL CAR.
THERE'S NOT EVEN SPACE FOR THE PERFUME TO AIR OUT.
SO TELL ME, WHAT DO YOU -
SO JONATHAN IMMEDIATELY -
JONATHAN: I THINK I ROLLED DOWN MY WINDOW
AND YOUR WINDOW.
REBECCA: HE ROLLS DOWN ALL THE WINDOWS
AND IT WAS SO FUNNY THE MOMENT I GOT IN,
BECAUSE IT'S ALREADY KIND OF AWKWARD
WHEN YOU'RE DATING LONG DISTANCE
AND YOU HAVEN'T SEEN EACH OTHER.
BECAUSE WE DATED LONG DISTANCE AT FIRST.
AND WHEN I GOT IN,
YOU IMMEDIATELY WERE UNCOMFORTABLE.
JONATHAN: I THINK I SAID SOMETHING, RIGHT,
OR NO?
REBECCA: AT FIRST, YOU JUST ACTED KIND OF WEIRD.
AND THEN YOU WERE LIKE,
I HAVE TO ROLL DOWN THE WINDOWS.
AND I REMEMBER BEING SO EMBARRASSED.
JONATHAN: ALL RIGHT. I HAVE A QUESTION FOR YOU.
REBECCA: SO ANYWAYS, I DON'T WEAR PERFUME ANYMORE.
JONATHAN: BUT YOU SMELL GOOD NATURALLY,
WHICH IS PERFECT.
REBECCA: THANK YOU.
JONATHAN: WHAT HAS THIS RELATIONSHIP TAUGHT YOU
ABOUT YOURSELF?
REBECCA: I THINK THAT HONESTLY GETTING MARRIED,
WHICH I DID NOT KNOW GOING INTO IT,
I THINK MARRIAGE IS A REALLY GOOD WAY
TO ACTUALLY SEE YOURSELF IN A NEW LIGHT;
I THINK TO SEE YOUR BLIND SPOTS
AND TO SEE THE THINGS
THAT NEED WORKING ON.
AND SO THIS RELATIONSHIP NOT ONLY TAUGHT ME
A LOT ABOUT MYSELF IN TERMS OF THINGS
THAT NEEDED TO BE WORKED ON,
THINGS THAT NEEDED TO BE HEALED,
BUT ALSO I THINK YOU SHOWED ME
POTENTIAL WITHIN MYSELF THAT I DIDN'T EVEN SEE.
AND YOU HELPED STEWARD AND HELPED FOSTER THAT
AND HELPED MAKE THAT GROW.
NOW I'M GONNA SAY IF YOU'RE IN A MARRIAGE,
IT'S NOT GONNA AUTOMATICALLY HAPPEN.
YOU HAVE TO HAVE A SPOUSE
WHO'S GOING TO BE SUPPORTIVE OF YOU
AND I THINK EVEN GOING INTO YOU MARRYING ME,
YOU SAW THE POTENTIAL,
EVEN THOUGH IT WASN'T PRESENTING IN THAT MOMENT.
YOU KNEW THAT IN TIME,
THINGS COULD CHANGE AND WE COULD GROW,
I COULD GROW,
AND WE COULD REALLY BE SOMETHING TOGETHER.
SO IT'S TAUGHT ME A LOT.
IF YOU ALLOW MARRIAGE -
IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE OPEN,
AND TO HEAR THE GOOD AND THE NOT SO EASY,
THE HARD,
BUT KNOWING IT'S COMING FROM A PLACE OF LOVE,
YOU REALLY CAN GROW AND CHANGE
AND BECOME A BETTER PERSON.
AND THERE'S ACTUALLY A BOOK
THAT THE TITLE IS,
MARRIAGE IS NOT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY,
IT'S TO MAKE YOU HOLY.
AND I JUST THINK THAT'S TRUE.
I THINK GOD PUTS US,
WHEN WE GO INTO A UNION,
WE'RE GONNA BECOME MORE HOLY PEOPLE
AND WE'RE GONNA REFLECT GOD'S GLORY.
JONATHAN: I LOVE THAT.
SO WELL SAID.
REBECCA: THANKS.
JONATHAN: ALL RIGHT, YOUR TURN.
QUESTION NUMBER TWO.
OR CATEGORY NUMBER TWO.
REBECCA: OH, THIS IS -
FINALLY A POSITIVE QUESTION ABOUT ME.
JONATHAN: OKAY, GOOD.
REBECCA: WHEN DO YOU THINK I'M AT MY BEST,
AND WHO AM I WITH AND WHAT AM I DOING?
JONATHAN: YOU'RE DEFINITELY 100 PERCENT AT YOUR BEST
AFTER YOU'VE HAD TIME WITH THE LORD.
REBECCA: I KNEW YOU WERE GONNA SAY THAT.
IT'S TRUE.
JONATHAN: BECAUSE THAT'S LIKE MY GO TO,
IF I EVER FEEL LIKE YOU'RE IN A FUNK
OR SOMETHING'S GOING ON AND IT'S NOT CORRECT,
OR, YOU KNOW, THERE'S AN ATTITUDE OR SOMETHING,
I'LL JUST SAY, HAVE YOU HAD YOUR QUIET TIME?
AND THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS NO.
AND THEN ONCE YOU HAVE THE QUIET TIME,
IT'S LIKE A WHOLE NEW PERSON.
I ALWAYS SAY IT TO YOU.
I'M LIKE, THIS IS THE GIRL THAT I MARRIED.
THIS IS THE ONE THAT I LOVE.
SO, YEAH, THAT'S DEFINITELY THE FIRST PART,
IS YOU'RE DEFINITELY AT YOUR BEST,
THE MORE TIME YOU'RE SPENDING WITH THE LORD.
I MEAN YOU'RE -
WE'RE ALL WIRED AND CREATED
TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
BUT NO ONE TO ME HAS MODELED IT
MORE THAN YOU AS FAR AS
HOW MUCH IT CAN CHANGE YOU.
I MEAN, YOU'RE TRULY A REFLECTION OF HIM
AFTER YOU'RE WITH HIM.
YOU'RE MORE SERVING, YOU'RE MORE LOVING,
YOU'RE MORE NURTURING,
YOU'RE KINDER, YOU'RE SWEETER, YOU'RE FUNNIER.
YOU'RE ALL THE THINGS AFTER YOU
SPEND TIME WITH HIM.
SO THAT'S DEFINITELY, AT LEAST THE FIRST PART
OF THAT QUESTION.
WHAT WAS THE SECOND PART OF THAT QUESTION?
REBECCA: NO, YOU ANSWERED IT.
JONATHAN: OH, OKAY.
AFTER YOU'RE WITH THE LORD.
REBECCA: EXACTLY.
AND I THINK IT'S LIKE A CARB,
YOU CAN'T RUN ON EMPTY.
YOU HAVE TO CONSISTENTLY FILL IT BACK UP.
WE'RE THE SAME WAY.
WE CAN'T JUST HAVE ONE ENCOUNTER WITH GOD,
WE CAN'T JUST READ OUR BIBLE ONCE,
WE'RE TRANSFORMED FROM GLORY TO GLORY,
FROM ENCOUNTER TO ENCOUNTER,
THAT WE HAVE WITH HIM.
JONATHAN: BUT LET ME JUST SAY,
YOU SAY THE SAME THING TO ME.
I MEAN, THERE'S TIMES WHERE I'M GRUMPY
OR NOT IN THE RIGHT HEAD SPACE,
AND YOU SAY YOU NEED TO GO, YOU KNOW,
GO OUTSIDE, GO FOR A WALK,
GO HAVE PRAYER TIME,
GO TO A NOTHING AREA.
AND I LIKE TO BE OUTSIDE IN NATURE
AND CONNECT WITH GOD.
REBECCA: YEAH, IT'S SO TRUE.
JONATHAN: ALL RIGHT.
I'M GONNA READ YOU A QUESTION
FROM CATEGORY THREE.
REBECCA: OKAY.
JONATHAN: ONE THING YOU'D NEVER CHANGE
ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP.
REBECCA: AWW, OUR FRIENDSHIP
AND ALL THE GOOD TIMES THAT WE HAVE TOGETHER.
I WOULD NEVER CHANGE THAT.
I THINK, YOU KNOW,
YOU HAVE TO HAVE PHYSICAL CHEMISTRY, OBVIOUSLY,
AND A LOVE AND A PASSION FOR ONE ANOTHER,
BUT I THINK THE FRIENDSHIP IS MUCH MORE FOUNDATIONAL.
JONATHAN: I WOULD NOT CHANGE
OUR MUTUAL HUNGER TO SERVE THE LORD TOGETHER.
I FEEL LIKE THAT'S ONE THING
THAT LIKE VERY EARLY ON WHEN WE WERE JUST TALKING,
THAT'S WHAT REALLY DREW ME SUPER CLOSE TO YOU WAS -
REBECCA: THAT DREW US TOGETHER.
JONATHAN: IT DID.
REBECCA: A SENSE OF MISSION.
JONATHAN: AND WHAT'S AMAZING ABOUT THAT,
IT SAYS ALL THROUGH THE BIBLE
THAT A THREE-CORD IS NOT EASILY BROKEN.
YOU KNOW, BRINGING THE HOLY SPIRIT
INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
AND WE DID THAT WHEN WE WERE DATING.
AND I FEEL LIKE HAVING THAT BE THE CENTERPIECE
HAS KEPT US THROUGH HARD TIMES.
BECAUSE YOU'RE GONNA GO THROUGH HARD TIMES.
WE'VE GONE THROUGH HARD TIMES.
REBECCA: OH, MY GOODNESS.
JONATHAN: HAVING CHILDREN'S HARD.
HAVING FAMILIES THAT YOU BRING TOGETHER.
REBECCA: BEING CALLED INTO MINISTRY IS HARD.
JONATHAN: BEING IN MINISTRY FULL TIME IS HARD.
SO THERE ARE ALL OF THESE CHALLENGES
AND EVERYBODY WATCHING HAS THEIR OWN
SET OF CHALLENGES.
BUT I'D SAY IF YOU BRING THE HOLY SPIRIT
AND MAKE HIM, MAKE JESUS THE CENTER
OF THE RELATIONSHIP,
THEN EVERYTHING CAN WORK OUT.
REBECCA: THAT'S SUCH A GOOD ANSWER.
AND I THINK, TOO, THE OTHER THING THAT I LOVE
ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP
IS THE SENSE OF PARTNERSHIP,
THAT WE HAVE LIKE THE SAME VISION.
JONATHAN: YEAH, OUR FAVORITE DATES IS WHEN -
NOT OUR FAVORITE DATES BUT SOMETIMES
OUR FAVORITE DATES IS WHEN WE DO SOMETHING
LIKE PRODUCTIVE TOGETHER.
WE'RE RUNNING ERRANDS TOGETHER,
BUT WE'RE ON THE SAME MISSION.
WE HAVE LIKE A MISSION OBJECTIVE.
REBECCA: WE HAVE THE SAME -
IT'S LIKE YOUR DREAMS ARE MY DREAMS
AND MY DREAMS ARE YOUR DREAMS,
IN TERMS OF I WANTED TO DO THIS PODCAST.
JONATHAN: THAT'S SO TRUE.
REBECCA: AND I COULDN'T HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT YOU.
JONATHAN: RIGHT.
REBECCA: AND THEN EVERYTHING,
ALL THE DREAMS THAT YOU HAVE,
IT'S LIKE THEY'RE MINE.
IT'S LIKE WHEN I'M HELPING YOU
ACCOMPLISH THOSE DREAMS,
IT'S ONE OF THE MOST FULFILLING THINGS,
TO KNOW THAT WE HAVE A VISION
AND DREAMS TOGETHER, AND WE'RE HELPING -
IT'S LIKE WE'RE THE ULTIMATE TEAM.
AND IT'S ONE OF THE MOST -
YOU'RE RIGHT, ONE OF THE MOST SATISFYING THINGS
IN OUR RELATIONSHIP IS US ACCOMPLISHING
THOSE THINGS TOGETHER.
JONATHAN: MM-HMM.
ALL RIGHT. READ ME A QUESTION
FROM CATEGORY NUMBER THREE.
REBECCA: FINISH THIS SENTENCE -
JONATHAN: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ME AND YOU,
IS YOU PREREAD, PRESCREEN EVERY QUESTION.
I JUST PICK IT UP AND READ IT.
REBECCA: YEAH.
WHICH IS, ONCE AGAIN, AN EXAMPLE
OF WHY BEING DIFFERENT IS GOOD.
CELEBRATE YOUR DIFFERENCES.
DON'T FIGHT OVER THEM.
UNDERSTAND THAT THEY'RE DIFFERENT FOR A REASON.
JONATHAN: YEAH. AND IT'S A MUSCLE,
YOU HAVE TO WORK AT IT.
LIKE, IT'S NOT GONNA COME NATURALLY.
YOU'RE GONNA WANT TO -
REBECCA: WHAT DID ANNA KENDALL SAY TO YOU ABOUT ME?
JONATHAN: ANNA KENDALL IS SOMEBODY
THAT WE WORKED WITH IN PREMARITAL COUNSELING
WHO IS AMAZING.
I MEAN, SHE GAVE ME SO MUCH COUNSEL ABOUT YOU.
REBECCA: SHE SAID SOMETHING LIKE
SHE'S GOING TO DO IT,
NOT THE WAY YOU WOULD DO IT.
JONATHAN: YES.
THIS WAS MONUMENTAL.
YEAH, SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
SHE'S GONNA DO IT, NOT NECESSARILY THE WAY
THAT YOU WOULD HAVE DONE IT, YOU KNOW.
BUT I DON'T REMEMBER EXACTLY HOW SHE SAID IT,
OR EVEN THE CONTEXT IN WHICH WE WERE
TALKING ABOUT THIS,
BUT IT WAS SOMETHING TO THE EFFECT OF
IT'S GONNA GET DONE.
REBECCA: IT'S GONNA GET DONE.
JONATHAN: YOU KNOW, IT'S JUST GONNA HAPPEN
IN A WAY THAT YOU'RE NOT USED TO.
REBECCA: SO DON'T GET FRUSTRATED.
YOU KNOW, DON'T GET FRUSTRATED.
AND SO THAT'S A HUGE WORD OF ADVICE IS,
LEARN TO CELEBRATE THE DIFFERENCES
AND KNOW THAT IT HELPS BRING BALANCE
TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP
VERSUS BEING FRUSTRATED BY THEM.
BECAUSE WHEN YOU GET MARRIED,
YOUR DIFFERENCES ALL COME TO THE FOREFRONT.
JONATHAN: BUT I'D ALSO ADD TO THAT AND SAY,
LOOK, THERE'S A REASON WHY YOU'RE MY PARTNER
AND I'M YOUR PARTNER,
IS BECAUSE YOU CAN SHED LIGHT INTO BLIND SPOTS
THAT I WOULDN'T NECESSARILY SEE AND VICE VERSA.
I CAN SHED LIGHT INTO BLIND SPOTS.
SO WHERE YOU MIGHT THINK EVERYTHING'S OKAY,
AND I'M DOING THIS AND IT'S GREAT,
I CAN SAY ACTUALLY THERE'S THIS LITTLE AREA,
AND THEN YOU CAN RECEIVE THAT AND THEN SAY IT FOR ME.
I COULD BE DOING SOMETHING,
YOU KNOW, SAY I'M TALKING TO MY KIDS THE WRONG WAY,
OR, YOU KNOW, WHATEVER IT IS,
AND THEN YOU CAN SHED LIGHT INTO THAT.
AND IF YOU'RE OPEN AND TRANSPARENT
AND TRUSTING THAT OTHER PERSON,
YOU CAN RECEIVE THAT AND NOT BE DEFENSIVE
AND BE LIKE, OH, NO, THAT'S THE WAY YOU DO IT.
OR THIS IS THE WAY I DO IT.
AND YOU JUST LEARN.
AND IF YOU CONTINUE TO GO WITH THAT MODEL,
IT'S LIKE IRON SHARPENING IRON,
AND YOU JUST GET BETTER AND BETTER TOGETHER.
REBECCA: AND I THINK THE QUICKER YOU CAN LEARN
TO JUST HAVE THE MINDSET OF SERVING ONE ANOTHER,
FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER,
AND DOING THAT QUICKLY
SO THAT YOU'RE NOT IN A PLACE OF CONTENTION,
BUT YOU'RE IN A PLACE OF HARMONY,
I THINK THAT'S HUGE.
DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.
DON'T FIGHT OVER THE SMALL STUFF.
AND JUST, IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING RIGHT.
IT'S ABOUT BEING RIGHTLY RELATED TO ONE ANOTHER.
JONATHAN: RIGHTEOUS.
REBECCA: EXACTLY.
JONATHAN: WHAT'S THE QUESTION?
YOU NEVER READ THE QUESTION.
REBECCA: FINISH THIS SENTENCE.
I'M PROUDEST OF YOU FOR WHAT?
JONATHAN: I'M PROUDEST OF YOU FOR
THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE.
I'M PROUDEST OF YOU FOR -
WHAT?
I'M PRACTICING MY ANSWERS.
I HAD NO TIME TO THINK ABOUT THIS.
REBECCA: NO, THESE ARE -
JONATHAN: I'M PROUDEST OF YOU FOR
THE MOTHER THAT YOU'VE BECOME.
REBECCA: AWW.
JONATHAN: I'M REALLY PROUD OF YOU.
I MEAN, I'VE SEEN YOU HAVE ONE KID, TWO KIDS,
AND NOW YOU'RE PREGNANT WITH OUR THIRD.
AND WHAT AN INCREDIBLE, LIKE, BLESSING
YOU HAVE BEEN TO MY CHILDREN
AND TO ME AS NOT JUST MY WIFE
BUT AS THEIR MOTHER.
AND THAT'S SOMETHING THAT YOU REALLY,
WHEN YOU'RE DATING SOMEONE
YOU GET TO KNOW THEM,
BUT YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY'RE GONNA BE LIKE
AS A PARENT.
THAT'S A WHOLE NOTHER THING.
UNLESS YOU GO INTO, YOU KNOW,
A SECOND MARRIAGE OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT
AND THEY ALREADY HAVE KIDS.
THAT'S SOMETHING THAT YOU'RE GONNA FIGURE OUT
IN REAL TIME.
REBECCA: THAT'S TRUE.
JONATHAN: SO I AM SO PROUD OF YOU BECAUSE OF THAT,
AND NOW WE HAVE OUR THIRD KID COMING.
SO THERE'S GONNA BE A WHOLE NEW LEVEL
FOR ME TO BE PROUD ABOUT YOU.
REBECCA: THANK YOU.
AND I THINK BEING A PARENT,
I THINK WE BOTH CAN AGREE IS
SUCH A FULFILLING THING.
I THINK IT'S ONE OF THE BEST JOBS WE HAVE.
JONATHAN: IT'S SO TRUE THAT GOD CREATED US
TO HAVE FAMILIES.
REBECCA: IT'S TRUE.
JONATHAN: AND THAT'S WHY IT'S SAD
THERE'S SUCH AN ATTACK ON PEOPLE AND CULTURE,
RAISING CHILDREN, HAVING KIDS.
IT'S LIKE BECAUSE GOD MOST DEFINITELY CREATED US.
'CAUSE HE SHOWED ME AND YOU
SO MUCH OF OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM,
GOD THE FATHER,
THROUGH OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR CHILDREN.
REBECCA: AND JUST LIKE I WAS TALKING ABOUT,
HOW MARRIAGE WILL CHALLENGE YOU AND MAKE YOU GROW,
CHILDREN ARE A WHOLE NOTHER LEVEL OF CHALLENGE
AND MAKING YOU GROW.
BUT IF YOU EMBRACE IT,
YOU'LL BECOME A WAY BETTER PERSON.
IT REALLY WORKS OUT SELFISHNESS WITHIN YOU,
WHICH IS SO IMPORTANT.
BECAUSE TO BE IN THE KINGDOM OF GOD
AND TO SERVE CHRIST
WE HAVE TO LEARN SELFLESSNESS.
JONATHAN: OKAY.
DO YOU WANT A QUESTION
FROM CATEGORY ONE, TWO OR THREE?
REBECCA: SHOULD WE EVEN EXPLAIN
WHAT THE OTHER CATEGORIES WERE?
ONE WAS PERCEPTION.
TWO IS CONNECTION, IS GOING DEEPER.
AND THEN THREE IS REFLECTION,
WHERE WE REFLECT.
DO ANOTHER NUMBER THREE SINCE IT'S THE DEEPEST LEVEL.
JONATHAN: NUMBER THREE IS REFLECTION?
REBECCA: YEAH.
JONATHAN: OKAY.
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU FELT LUCKY
TO BE BY A SIGNIFICANT OTHER?
GET SPECIFIC.
DON'T SAY ALL THE TIME.
THAT DOESN'T COUNT.
IT'S A DETAILED QUESTION.
REBECCA: I REALLY DO FEEL THAT WAY ALL THE TIME.
JONATHAN: THEY SAID YOU CAN'T SAY THAT.
REBECCA: I KNOW, BUT DIDN'T I JUST SAY THIS TO YOU LAST NIGHT?
I SAID YOU'RE DOING SUCH A GOOD JOB -
JONATHAN: YOU DID.
REBECCA: OF BEING A HUSBAND AND TAKING CARE OF ME
AND LOVING ME.
JONATHAN: DID YOU SAY THAT BECAUSE YOU'RE PREPARING FOR
THE VALENTINE'S EPISODE?
REBECCA: NO. NO.
IT'S BECAUSE I THINK WE'RE IN A REALLY GOOD SEASON
OF OUR MARRIAGE.
JONATHAN: I AGREE.
REBECCA: AND YOU HAVE BEEN DOING,
I'LL SAY IT ON THIS PUBLIC PLATFORM,
I'VE BEEN SAYING IT TO YOU IN PRIVATE ALL THE TIME,
YOU'RE DOING A GREAT JOB,
NOT ONLY BEING A FATHER,
BUT BEING A HUSBAND SPECIFICALLY.
JONATHAN: OKAY, SO THE ANSWER WAS YESTERDAY.
REBECCA: ALL THE TIME.
JONATHAN: NO, THE ANSWER WAS YESTERDAY.
REBECCA: LAST NIGHT.
JONATHAN: ALL RIGHT. LAST QUESTION.
WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOURSELF
ON OUR FIRST DATE IF YOU HAD THE CHANCE?
DON'T WEAR PERFUME.
REBECCA: STOP.
I WOULD SAY IF I COULD TELL MYSELF ANYTHING
ON THE FIRST DATE, I WOULD SAY,
ENJOY THIS MOMENT, THIS SEASON OF YOUR LIFE,
BECAUSE IT'S GONNA GO BY FAST
BECAUSE LIFE ACCELERATED SO QUICKLY FOR US
WHEN WE GOT MARRIED.
WE GOT PREGNANT.
JONATHAN: NOT EVEN GETTING MARRIED,
ONCE WE STARTED DATING.
BECAUSE FROM THE TIME WE STARTED DATING -
REBECCA: THE WHOLE THING WAS FAST.
JONATHAN: - TO GETTING ENGAGED WAS LIKE, WHAT,
SEVEN MONTHS?
REBECCA: IT WAS A VERY FAST PROCESS
BECAUSE YOU MOVED HERE
AND IT WAS A LOT OF CHANGE.
JONATHAN: WELL, I DIDN'T MOVE HERE
UNTIL WE WERE ENGAGED.
REBECCA: BUT I'M SAYING WE DIDN'T DATE VERY LONG
UNTIL WE WERE ENGAGED.
AND WHEN WE WERE ENGAGED YOU MOVED HERE
AND THEN WE PLANNED OUR WEDDING
AND THEN WE GOT MARRIED
AND THEN WE GOT PREGNANT.
JONATHAN: HOW LONG AFTER WE WERE ENGAGED -
REBECCA: LIKE SEVEN MONTHS LATER.
JONATHAN: - DID WE GET MARRIED?
REBECCA: FROM DATING TO MARRIED,
IT WAS ABOUT A YEAR AND A COUPLE MONTHS.
JONATHAN: BUT ENGAGED TO MARRIED WAS WHAT?
REBECCA: WE GOT ENGAGED IN NOVEMBER.
NO, WE GOT ENGAGED AT THE VERY END OF OCTOBER.
YOU MOVED IN NOVEMBER,
AND THEN WE GOT MARRIED IN MAY.
JONATHAN: WOW, THAT IS FAST.
REBECCA: AND IT WAS A LOT.
WE GOT A HOME, YOU MOVED HERE.
LIKE WE DID A LOT OF CHANGE VERY QUICKLY.
JONATHAN: SO WHAT WAS THE QUESTION?
REBECCA: SO I WOULD TELL MYSELF, ENJOY IT,
BECAUSE THAT REALLY WAS SUCH A FUN SEASON OF LIFE,
TO JUST BE DATING, NOT A TON OF RESPONSIBILITY.
JONATHAN: BUT THE THING IS WE'VE NEVER NOT DATED.
REBECCA: NOW LIFE IS MORE, YOU KNOW, INTENSE.
WE HAVE ALWAYS DATED.
JONATHAN: WE'VE ALWAYS DATED.
SO EVER SINCE WE'VE BEEN MARRIED,
WHICH IS NOW OVER FIVE YEARS,
WE'VE ALWAYS GONE ON A DATE ONCE A WEEK.
WE'VE NEVER MISSED IT.
REBECCA: WHICH NOW MORE THAN EVER
I'M MORE THANKFUL FOR THOSE DATE NIGHTS.
JONATHAN: YEAH, BUT THAT'S MONUMENTAL.
I MEAN, MOST PEOPLE DON'T CARVE OUT
THAT AMOUNT OF TIME FOR ONE ANOTHER.
REBECCA: THEN I WOULD SAY CARVE OUT THAT TIME.
JONATHAN: YOU HAVE TO, HONESTLY.
REBECCA: BECAUSE I MEAN,
YOU CAN JUST BE DROWNING.
JONATHAN: ESPECIALLY ONCE YOU START HAVING KIDS.
REBECCA: ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU START HAVING KIDS.
AND I WOULD SAY DON'T TURN ALL YOUR AFFECTION
TOWARDS YOUR CHILDREN.
YOU NEED TO HAVE AFFECTION FOR ONE ANOTHER.
JONATHAN: AND THEY'RE LITTLE ATTENTION -
OR AFFECTION SUCKERS.
REBECCA: YEAH.
AND IT'S EASY TO GET SO CAUGHT UP IN YOUR KIDS
AND YOU CANNOT GET CAUGHT UP IN YOUR KIDS
AND LEAVE YOUR SPOUSE AT THE WAYSIDE.
YOU CAN'T.
AND I THINK PEOPLE SAY THAT A LOT,
BUT I THINK IT'S HARDER TO PRACTICE.
IT'S EASIER TO SAY THE ADVICE
THAN TO PUT IT INTO PRACTICE.
AND SO, YES, WE GO ON A DATE NIGHT EVERY NIGHT,
BUT I MEAN, UP UNTIL THIS YEAR,
I'M GLAD WE ALWAYS HAD THE HABIT OF IT,
BUT THIS YEAR, AND I THINK IT'S BECAUSE
OUR LIFE IS MORE FULL,
AND IT'S FULL OF BLESSINGS,
WE'RE BUSY, I LOVE OUR LIVES,
BUT I'M MORE THANKFUL THAN EVER
FOR THAT DATE NIGHT.
EVERY NIGHT THAT WE GET TO GO,
WE'RE LIKE, OH, THANK GOD.
JUST SPENDING TIME ONE-ON-ONE.
JONATHAN: AND IT'S NOT SOME EPIC THING.
IT'S JUST THREE HOURS THAT WE CARVE OUT.
REBECCA: NO, IT'S REALLY NOT EPIC,
IT'S NOT OVERLY ANYTHING.
IT'S JUST GETTING TO SPEND TIME WITH JUST YOU.
IT'S MY FAVORITE THING IN THE WORLD.
JONATHAN: MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE WE BOTH HAVE
THE LOVE LANGUAGE QUALITY TIME.
BECAUSE MAYBE SOMEBODY WHO'S NOT QUALITY TIME,
THEY DON'T NEED TO DO DATES, I DON'T KNOW.
REBECCA: IT'S NOT THE SAME WHEN YOU
HAVE KIDS WITH YOU.
JONATHAN: WE CAN ONLY SPEAK FROM OUR MARRIAGE.
REBECCA: IT'S NOT THE SAME WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR KIDS
OR OTHER PEOPLE WITH YOU.
IT'S THAT ONE-ON-ONE TIME.
JONATHAN: WELL, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HAVING ME
ONTHE REBECCA WEISS PODCAST.
REBECCA: THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE.
JONATHAN: I'LL BE BACK IN 2025
FOR VALENTINE'S EPISODE.
REBECCA: HERE, SHAKE ON IT.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
SORRY I MADE YOU LEAN BACK LIKE THAT.
HEY, ANY LAST WORDS?
JONATHAN: NO, I WOULD JUST SAY,
I'M SO PROUD OF YOU,
AND I'M SO BLESSED BY THIS PODCAST
AND WHAT WE'RE ACHIEVING WITH IT.
I THINK IT'S REACHING SO MANY PEOPLE
IN SO MANY DIFFERENT WALKS.
AND I KNOW THAT YOU'RE CALLED TO DO
INCREDIBLE MINISTRY,
AND SO I'M BLESSED THAT DAYSTAR IS PROVIDING
THIS AWESOME PLATFORM FOR YOU.
AND I'M EXCITED FOR THIS NEXT SEASON.
REBECCA: I'M EXCITED, TOO.
THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE.
AND THANK YOU FOR LISTENING OR WATCHING
THE REBECCA WEISS PODCAST.