WEBVTT
00:00.000 --> 00:03.236
Motherhood and Fatherhood
are under assault today.
00:03.303 --> 00:07.173
Broad based attempts by
academia, governments,
00:07.240 --> 00:10.110
businesses, and yes,
even some churches,
00:10.176 --> 00:12.512
are attempting to do
away with terms such as
00:12.579 --> 00:15.782
Mother and Father,
Mom and Dad.
00:15.849 --> 00:20.887
As reported in this March 10,
2021 New York Post article:
00:20.954 --> 00:23.690
"A Manhattan private
school aiming to use more
00:23.757 --> 00:27.193
"inclusive language" is
encouraging its students
00:27.260 --> 00:31.030
to stop using the terms
"mom," "dad" and "parents"
00:31.097 --> 00:33.933
because the words make
"assumptions" about
00:34.000 --> 00:35.602
kids' home lives."
00:35.668 --> 00:38.471
Grace Church School serves junior kindergarten
00:38.538 --> 00:42.108
through 12th grade
students in Noho, NY
00:42.175 --> 00:45.378
and offers a 12-page guide
for students and staff
00:45.445 --> 00:49.082
on making this Episcopal
school all inclusive.
00:49.149 --> 00:52.919
The guide explains that
instead of using Mom and Dad,
00:52.986 --> 00:58.057
students and staff should use "grown-ups, folks, or family."
00:58.124 --> 01:02.662
And instead of "husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend" they
01:02.729 --> 01:06.966
should use "spouse, partner,
or significant other."
01:07.033 --> 01:09.869
There's no end to guides
published by institutions
01:09.936 --> 01:13.173
of learning, businesses,
governments, and the media
01:13.239 --> 01:17.277
on how to revolutionize how
we speak to one another.
01:17.343 --> 01:20.313
Everything is included
except what has been
01:20.380 --> 01:23.416
normal for most of
mankind's history.
01:23.483 --> 01:26.419
Where is this downgrading
of Mothers and Fathers
01:26.486 --> 01:28.021
going to take us?
01:28.087 --> 01:31.124
Stay with me as I'll not
only use terms such as
01:31.191 --> 01:33.693
Mom and Dad on today's
program, but will
01:33.760 --> 01:36.696
honor mothers and
fathers everywhere.
01:36.763 --> 01:39.532
And I'll also be offering
you an important resource
01:39.599 --> 01:42.702
for parents and grandparents
and anyone else who
01:42.769 --> 01:46.139
desires to invest in
our future generations.
01:46.206 --> 01:49.375
This booklet--Successful
Parenting: God's Way--
01:49.442 --> 01:53.446
by Dr. Jeffrey Fall can
be yours free of charge,
01:53.513 --> 01:57.383
so be sure to have writing
material available to take
01:57.450 --> 02:00.286
down our contact information that will be given several
02:00.353 --> 02:02.222
times during this program.
02:02.288 --> 02:05.592
And stay tuned as I'll be
back in five seconds
02:05.658 --> 02:09.596
to talk about "The War
Against Parents."
02:09.662 --> 02:16.035
♪
02:16.102 --> 02:18.238
Every year in the
United States, Canada,
02:18.304 --> 02:21.174
and elsewhere, people
celebrate parents
02:21.241 --> 02:23.510
with Mother's Day
and Father's Day.
02:23.576 --> 02:25.645
In some countries,
especially in
02:25.712 --> 02:28.781
South American Catholic
countries, Mother's Day
02:28.848 --> 02:31.684
celebrates Mary, the
mother of Jesus, but that
02:31.751 --> 02:35.421
has no relevance to North
American celebrations.
02:35.488 --> 02:38.925
Thanks to the determination
of Anna Jarvis to honor
02:38.992 --> 02:41.728
her own mother, and the financial backing of
02:41.794 --> 02:44.464
Philadelphia merchant,
John Wanamaker...
02:44.531 --> 02:49.068
"[I]n 1914, President Woodrow Wilson approved a resolution
02:49.135 --> 02:53.773
that made the second Sunday
in May a holiday in honor of
02:53.840 --> 02:58.344
"that tender, gentle army,
the mothers of America."
02:58.411 --> 03:01.514
Honoring fathers was not
so easy for a variety of
03:01.581 --> 03:05.552
reasons, and it would
not be until 1972,
03:05.618 --> 03:09.155
that's 58 years later, that
President Richard Nixon
03:09.222 --> 03:12.592
would proclaim Father's
Day a federal holiday.
03:12.659 --> 03:16.129
Much of the reason it took
so long is because men
03:16.195 --> 03:19.365
and women are simply
different, as difficult
03:19.432 --> 03:23.369
as that is to accept by
today's social engineers.
03:23.436 --> 03:25.939
As History.com explains:
03:26.005 --> 03:29.275
"The campaign to celebrate
the nation's fathers
03:29.342 --> 03:33.446
did not meet with the same
enthusiasm--perhaps because,
03:33.513 --> 03:37.250
as one florist explained, "fathers haven't the same
03:37.317 --> 03:40.320
sentimental appeal
that mothers have."
03:40.386 --> 03:44.157
The differences between men
and women go beyond perception.
03:44.223 --> 03:47.060
One woman who understands
not only the physical
03:47.126 --> 03:49.762
differences, but the
differences between
03:49.829 --> 03:53.666
what men ought to be, is
swimmer Riley Gaines.
03:53.733 --> 03:57.236
From this New York Post
article discussing Gaines'
03:57.303 --> 03:59.872
reaction to having to
share a locker room
03:59.939 --> 04:04.911
and swim against a 6'4 male
who claims to be a female,
04:04.978 --> 04:07.013
we read the following:
04:07.080 --> 04:10.516
"Trans rights activists say
trans women are real
04:10.583 --> 04:13.052
women and must be
included in sports.
04:13.119 --> 04:16.422
Gaines, who comes from
Tennessee and swam for the
04:16.489 --> 04:20.093
University of Kentucky
team, said America needs
04:20.159 --> 04:24.964
"more masculine men" and praised World War II veterans.
04:25.031 --> 04:29.035
"That's the last time we
had strong men," she said.
04:29.102 --> 04:33.706
"Think about this:
1940s, World War II.
04:33.773 --> 04:37.977
Men lied about their
age to get in to enlist.
04:38.044 --> 04:42.715
Now, in 2023, we have men
lying about their sex to
04:42.782 --> 04:46.619
get into women's sports or
women's prisons or domestic
04:46.686 --> 04:51.257
shelters or sororities or
bathrooms, locker rooms."
04:51.324 --> 04:54.727
She blames society for
rebranding "masculinity
04:54.794 --> 04:58.398
as toxic and bad
and undesirable."
04:58.464 --> 05:02.035
Now there's a strong woman,
not only in the pool,
05:02.101 --> 05:05.271
but in the public discourse,
ready to stand up for
05:05.338 --> 05:09.976
truth and fairness, and
frankly, plain sanity.
05:10.043 --> 05:12.378
Consider the reality
women swimmers face
05:12.445 --> 05:14.380
when competing against men.
05:14.447 --> 05:17.150
"By the conclusion of
Thomas's swimming career
05:17.216 --> 05:23.756
at UPenn in 2022, Thomas'
rank skyrocketed from 65th
05:23.823 --> 05:28.561
for men to 1st in the
female 500-yard freestyle,
05:28.628 --> 05:34.100
and from 554th for men
to 5th for women in
05:34.167 --> 05:36.202
the 200-yard freestyle."
05:36.269 --> 05:40.840
Who in his or her right mind
refuses to admit the obvious.
05:40.907 --> 05:43.910
Men and women are
different and those
05:43.976 --> 05:46.879
differences are critical
beyond athletics.
05:46.946 --> 05:49.348
They're critical in the
way we interact and in
05:49.415 --> 05:51.751
the roles we play in
society as a whole.
05:51.818 --> 05:54.721
Both dads and moms
are needed for a
05:54.787 --> 05:56.989
well-ordered society.
05:57.056 --> 05:59.225
Mothers tend to
be more nurturing.
05:59.292 --> 06:02.395
Fathers, even by the
nature of their deeper
06:02.462 --> 06:05.698
voices, but also by their
demeanor and ability to
06:05.765 --> 06:08.735
suppress emotions when
needed, tend to keep
06:08.801 --> 06:11.270
better discipline
in the family.
06:11.337 --> 06:14.207
There are exceptions,
of course, but these
06:14.273 --> 06:17.043
are general traits,
and both are needed,
06:17.110 --> 06:19.746
and sound-minded
people know this.
06:19.812 --> 06:22.448
Our world has always
been flawed and this
06:22.515 --> 06:24.917
is especially true when
it comes to male/female
06:24.984 --> 06:29.722
relationships, with extremes
at both ends of the pendulum.
06:29.789 --> 06:32.792
Women have been oppressed
in some cultures,
06:32.859 --> 06:35.228
especially in various parts
of the Middle East and Asia,
06:35.294 --> 06:38.965
where oppressive clothing styles, denial of formal
06:39.031 --> 06:44.003
education, and abusive punishments are a far cry
06:44.070 --> 06:46.639
from what God intended when
He created Eve to
06:46.706 --> 06:48.141
be Adam's helper.
06:48.207 --> 06:52.111
But in our Western nations,
many women have cast off
06:52.178 --> 06:56.349
all cooperative effort to
become competitors of men,
06:56.415 --> 06:59.685
and neither extreme
is working.
06:59.752 --> 07:03.055
We here at Tomorrow's World
believe in God-given roles
07:03.122 --> 07:04.490
for men and women.
07:04.557 --> 07:07.260
We believe in family values where both husbands
07:07.326 --> 07:09.529
and wives are
to be honored.
07:09.595 --> 07:12.198
In a few minutes I want
to give some honor to
07:12.265 --> 07:15.334
my very own parents for
shaping my life.
07:15.401 --> 07:18.271
But first I want to
mention a special resource
07:18.337 --> 07:22.708
for parents, grandparents,
aunts, uncles, and anyone else
07:22.775 --> 07:25.978
interested in investing
in the future generation.
07:26.045 --> 07:30.850
Successful Parenting--God's Way, can be yours free of charge
07:30.917 --> 07:34.187
by simply letting us know
that you want this resource.
07:34.253 --> 07:37.590
Dr. Fall begins chapter
one with this
07:37.657 --> 07:39.692
thought-provoking paragraph:
07:39.759 --> 07:43.563
"For millennia, the cycle of
human life has continued.
07:43.629 --> 07:47.233
Children are born,
they grow up, and most
07:47.300 --> 07:49.969
eventually produce
children of their own.
07:50.036 --> 07:53.606
One generation dies and
is replaced by the next.
07:53.673 --> 07:56.976
Yet few have understood
the answer to the age-old
07:57.043 --> 08:00.613
question "What is the
purpose of this repeating
08:00.680 --> 08:02.148
cycle of life?"
08:02.215 --> 08:05.151
To those steeped in the
mistaken belief system
08:05.218 --> 08:09.088
of evolution, their only
conclusion is that this cycle
08:09.155 --> 08:13.593
of human life exists solely
to reproduce the species.
08:13.659 --> 08:18.497
Life has no meaning, they
believe; it just exists."
08:18.564 --> 08:21.100
Dr. Fall addresses this
question of the purpose
08:21.167 --> 08:24.103
of life, so even if you
don't have children,
08:24.170 --> 08:26.606
or if your children are
already grown, the
08:26.672 --> 08:30.142
question of life's purpose
is relevant to you.
08:30.209 --> 08:34.914
Successful Parenting--God's Way
goes well-beyond parenting.
08:34.981 --> 08:38.284
It has general interest
for all our viewers,
08:38.351 --> 08:41.988
but it is a must for
parents and grandparents.
08:42.054 --> 08:44.857
So be sure to order your
copy today by calling
08:44.924 --> 08:47.894
the toll-free number or
going to our website
08:47.960 --> 08:51.831
at TWTV.ORG/Parenting.
08:51.898 --> 08:55.568
And after this short break,
I want to give some honor to
08:55.635 --> 08:59.238
my own parents for shaping
my life, and show why both
08:59.305 --> 09:02.041
moms and dads are
different, why their
09:02.108 --> 09:04.010
natural roles are
different, and why both
09:04.076 --> 09:08.080
are vital to a peaceful
and productive society.
09:08.147 --> 09:08.948
♪
09:09.015 --> 09:15.688
For today's free
offer call...
09:15.755 --> 09:21.127
Or go to...
09:21.193 --> 09:23.696
This clear and
straight-forward resource
09:23.763 --> 09:26.499
will help you understand
this vital truth--
09:26.565 --> 09:29.502
straight from the
pages of the Bible.
09:29.568 --> 09:32.038
If you're calling for the
first time, you will also
09:32.104 --> 09:34.974
receive a free annual
subscription to Tomorrow's
09:35.041 --> 09:36.475
World magazine.
09:36.542 --> 09:39.845
Six inspiring issues
discussing news, science,
09:39.912 --> 09:42.715
and modern culture will
help you make sense of
09:42.782 --> 09:46.452
your world from a
biblical perspective.
09:46.519 --> 09:49.355
Call today and join
millions around the world
09:49.422 --> 09:51.991
who are turning to
Tomorrow's World for
09:52.058 --> 09:57.797
truth, prophecy, and hope
in these confusing times.
09:57.863 --> 09:59.031
Call now!
09:59.098 --> 10:03.269
Or go to...
10:03.336 --> 10:08.441
♪
10:08.507 --> 10:11.310
Welcome back, where I'm
discussing the need for
10:11.377 --> 10:14.480
both fathers and mothers
and the vitally important
10:14.547 --> 10:17.049
roles they play in
creating and maintaining
10:17.116 --> 10:19.385
an orderly society.
10:19.452 --> 10:22.455
Before the break I said I
wanted to give some honor to
10:22.521 --> 10:26.692
my own parents for shaping my life, so please indulge me
10:26.759 --> 10:30.196
as I make a few personal comments about them and
10:30.262 --> 10:33.566
the way that they profoundly
impacted my life.
10:33.632 --> 10:37.036
Neither of my parents were
perfect, as no parents are,
10:37.103 --> 10:40.473
but I don't doubt the
love they had for me.
10:40.539 --> 10:43.676
Many years ago I used to
spend a lot of time with
10:43.743 --> 10:46.345
a deacon visiting our
members in Michigan.
10:46.412 --> 10:49.815
I saw him as an "old
timer" at the time,
10:49.882 --> 10:52.785
but I'm now older than he
was during those years
10:52.852 --> 10:54.387
that we spent together.
10:54.453 --> 10:57.356
One observation he made
was that everything
10:57.423 --> 10:59.792
in life appears
to be backward.
10:59.859 --> 11:03.329
"We get married," he said,
"when we know little about
11:03.396 --> 11:04.964
what real love is.
11:05.031 --> 11:07.666
We have children when we
have little understanding
11:07.733 --> 11:09.568
of how to raise them.
11:09.635 --> 11:13.039
We have little income when
starting out and when we
11:13.105 --> 11:14.106
need it the most.
11:14.173 --> 11:17.576
Our first home is usually
small when we need
11:17.643 --> 11:20.079
a larger one for
raising a family.
11:20.146 --> 11:23.883
But after the children move
out we have a large home,
11:23.949 --> 11:26.952
a full bank account,
and better understanding
11:27.019 --> 11:28.888
of how to raise children."
11:28.954 --> 11:31.657
Now he stated this with
a sense of humor,
11:31.724 --> 11:34.527
but there is much
truth in it.
11:34.593 --> 11:38.130
And one point that most
children fail to recognize is
11:38.197 --> 11:42.101
that parents are learning how
to raise them in real time.
11:42.168 --> 11:45.371
The book of Hebrews hints
at this concept in
11:45.438 --> 11:48.174
the context of how God
shows His love for us
11:48.240 --> 11:51.410
by chastening us
from time to time.
11:51.477 --> 11:55.281
Here it is in chapter
12 and verses 9-10:
11:55.347 --> 11:58.150
"Furthermore, we have
had human fathers who
11:58.217 --> 12:01.487
corrected us, and we
paid them respect.
12:01.554 --> 12:04.390
Shall we not much more
readily be in subjection
12:04.457 --> 12:07.226
to the Father of
spirits and live?
12:07.293 --> 12:11.163
For they indeed for a
few days chastened us as
12:11.230 --> 12:15.267
seemed best to them, but
He for our profit, that
12:15.334 --> 12:18.104
we may be partakers
of His holiness."
12:18.170 --> 12:21.006
As with most children,
I received some painful
12:21.073 --> 12:24.376
correction from time
to time, but corporal
12:24.443 --> 12:28.280
punishment ended by the time
I reached the age of 12.
12:28.347 --> 12:31.617
And even after that, while
I was told no on numerous
12:31.684 --> 12:36.388
occasions, I never remember being "grounded" as they say.
12:36.455 --> 12:40.259
But, yes, there was some loving correction, administered
12:40.326 --> 12:45.097
for my good, as we read in
verse 11 of Hebrews 12:
12:45.164 --> 12:48.868
"Now no chastening seems to
be joyful for the present,
12:48.934 --> 12:52.505
but painful; nevertheless,
afterward it yields
12:52.571 --> 12:54.974
the peaceable fruit of
righteousness to those
12:55.040 --> 12:57.376
who have been
trained by it."
12:57.443 --> 13:03.516
And so parents are instructed
in Proverbs 29:17...
13:03.582 --> 13:06.752
"Correct your son, and
he will give you rest;
13:06.819 --> 13:09.989
yes, he will give
delight to your soul."
13:10.055 --> 13:13.125
When my father said to do
something he expected it
13:13.192 --> 13:16.595
to be done, but I never
remember him telling me to
13:16.662 --> 13:19.698
do something that was not
reasonable or that wasn't
13:19.765 --> 13:21.066
for my good.
13:21.133 --> 13:25.304
Well, I guess there is one exception to that.
13:25.371 --> 13:28.674
One evening when we lived
in Alaska, and that's before
13:28.741 --> 13:32.111
it became a State, the
older girl who lived next
13:32.178 --> 13:35.781
door, came over to show
off that she could smoke.
13:35.848 --> 13:38.584
Now my father thought it
would be funny for his
13:38.651 --> 13:41.487
six-year-old son to go
over to her parents and
13:41.554 --> 13:45.891
show that he could do one
better--smoke a cigar.
13:45.958 --> 13:51.163
That didn't exactly work out
as planned, but I never smoked
13:51.230 --> 13:55.935
again--so I guess it worked
out well in the long run.
13:56.001 --> 13:58.737
My parents were not
"helicopter parents."
13:58.804 --> 14:01.340
They didn't hover over me
and prevent me from
14:01.407 --> 14:04.376
learning cause and effect
lessons on my own.
14:04.443 --> 14:07.580
They did want to know what
I was doing and where
14:07.646 --> 14:10.716
I was going, but I could
be gone most of the day
14:10.783 --> 14:13.586
playing in the woods,
fishing, or playing
14:13.652 --> 14:16.956
"pick up" games of
baseball or football.
14:17.022 --> 14:18.958
We learned a lot about
how to set rules
14:19.024 --> 14:21.694
for ourselves, how to
negotiate differences--
14:21.760 --> 14:24.363
in general, how
to get along.
14:24.430 --> 14:27.566
Now frankly, I marvel that
my parents gave me as much
14:27.633 --> 14:30.936
freedom as they did, but
that does not mean there
14:31.003 --> 14:33.672
were no boundaries
or expectations.
14:33.739 --> 14:35.541
They never held the
religious convictions
14:35.608 --> 14:39.345
I came to embrace at age 16,
and I never saw my father
14:39.411 --> 14:42.815
read the Bible, but
he somehow innately
14:42.881 --> 14:45.084
understood some
biblical principles.
14:45.150 --> 14:47.953
As an example, he
understood a principle
14:48.020 --> 14:51.190
found in Proverbs 29:15...
14:51.257 --> 14:54.827
"The rod [switch] and
rebuke give wisdom,
14:54.893 --> 14:58.697
but a child left to himself
brings shame to his mother."
14:58.764 --> 15:01.867
Before sharing more about
my parents, I want to
15:01.934 --> 15:03.535
remind you of today's offer:
15:03.602 --> 15:06.839
Successful Parenting-God's Way.
15:06.905 --> 15:10.042
As explained earlier,
this easy-to-understand
15:10.109 --> 15:12.678
resource goes
beyond parenting.
15:12.745 --> 15:15.447
It explains the purpose
of marriage and family;
15:15.514 --> 15:17.950
and answers a
bigger question:
15:18.017 --> 15:21.253
What is the purpose
for our existence?
15:21.320 --> 15:25.324
In a world where man/woman,
father/mother are not
15:25.391 --> 15:28.794
only downplayed, but
actually spoken against,
15:28.861 --> 15:33.565
Successful Parenting-God's Way
is as a breath of fresh air.
15:33.632 --> 15:36.702
Yes, there are still people
who do appreciate the
15:36.769 --> 15:39.972
differences between men
and women and recognize
15:40.039 --> 15:43.175
the importance of moms
and dads in creating
15:43.242 --> 15:45.844
and maintaining an
orderly society.
15:45.911 --> 15:49.982
Successful Parenting-God's Way is yours free of charge.
15:50.049 --> 15:52.351
Just call the toll free
number that will be shown
15:52.418 --> 15:58.390
on the screen, or go to
TWTV.ORG/Parenting
15:58.457 --> 16:00.159
to obtain your copy.
16:00.225 --> 16:03.362
And when I come back, in
15 seconds, I'll share a
16:03.429 --> 16:06.865
few more insights that I
learned from my parents.
16:06.932 --> 16:07.933
♪
16:08.000 --> 16:10.002
This clear and
straight-forward resource
16:10.069 --> 16:12.638
will help you understand
this vital truth--
16:12.705 --> 16:15.307
straight from the
pages of the Bible.
16:15.374 --> 16:16.375
Call now!
16:16.442 --> 16:20.579
Or go to...
16:20.646 --> 16:22.614
♪
16:22.681 --> 16:26.118
I'm discussing the subject of how God created mankind
16:26.185 --> 16:29.888
male and female, how we
are innately different,
16:29.955 --> 16:33.192
how both sexes are needed,
and how both should
16:33.258 --> 16:34.927
be rightfully honored.
16:34.993 --> 16:37.429
Before the break I said
I would share with you
16:37.496 --> 16:40.532
a few more insights
into my own parents.
16:40.599 --> 16:43.135
Even though they are no
longer living, I want
16:43.202 --> 16:45.738
to give them the
honor they deserve.
16:45.804 --> 16:50.075
My parents endured the Great
Depression and World War II.
16:50.142 --> 16:53.245
My father served in the Army
and when the war was over,
16:53.312 --> 16:57.015
he made the newly formed
Air Force his career.
16:57.082 --> 17:01.153
I once asked him, why he
left being a photographer
17:01.220 --> 17:04.089
taking pictures of celebrities and plane crashes,
17:04.156 --> 17:06.024
to become a
first sergeant.
17:06.091 --> 17:08.594
He explained that the man
in that position before
17:08.660 --> 17:11.764
him was not getting the
job done, so his squadron
17:11.830 --> 17:14.733
commander offered
the position to him.
17:14.800 --> 17:17.803
I knew from the testimony
of others that he was
17:17.870 --> 17:21.774
highly respected in that
responsibility, so I asked
17:21.840 --> 17:25.611
him why he was successful when
the man before him was not.
17:25.677 --> 17:27.813
Without hesitation, he said,
17:27.880 --> 17:29.415
"It was my upbringing.
17:29.481 --> 17:32.651
It did not matter whether
it was my father or my
17:32.718 --> 17:35.788
older brother who also had
a farm, when they told me
17:35.854 --> 17:38.891
to take the wagon down
to the south forty, they
17:38.957 --> 17:40.592
expected me to do it.
17:40.659 --> 17:43.829
And they didn't
always say please."
17:43.896 --> 17:47.199
Now don't misunderstand,
I was taught to say,
17:47.266 --> 17:50.269
"Please pass the potatoes," or "Please pass the butter,"
17:50.335 --> 17:51.770
at the dinner table.
17:51.837 --> 17:54.807
But there is a time for
"please" and a time to
17:54.873 --> 17:57.176
simply be told what to do.
17:57.242 --> 17:59.378
Is this not scriptural?
17:59.445 --> 18:02.748
Notice Jesus' parable of
the Unworthy Servants,
18:02.815 --> 18:06.885
as found in Luke 17,
beginning in verse 7.
18:06.952 --> 18:10.289
"And which of you, having a
servant plowing or tending
18:10.355 --> 18:13.292
sheep, will say to him
when he has come in from
18:13.358 --> 18:17.196
the field, "Come at once
and sit down to eat"?
18:17.262 --> 18:20.766
But will he not rather say
to him, "Prepare something
18:20.833 --> 18:24.002
for my supper, and gird yourself and serve me till I have
18:24.069 --> 18:28.140
eaten and drunk, and afterward you will eat and drink"?
18:28.207 --> 18:31.510
Does he thank that servant
because he did the things
18:31.577 --> 18:33.879
that were commanded him?
18:33.946 --> 18:35.948
I think not.
18:36.014 --> 18:38.984
So likewise you, when you
have done all those things
18:39.051 --> 18:42.955
which you are commanded, say,
'We are unprofitable servants.
18:43.021 --> 18:46.692
We have done what
was our duty to do."
18:46.758 --> 18:49.361
Without a strong guiding
hand from my father,
18:49.428 --> 18:53.031
I very well could have ended
up as many of my fellow
18:53.098 --> 18:57.703
classmates in those turbulent decades of the 1960's and 70's.
18:57.769 --> 19:01.507
While my father contributed to building self-discipline,
19:01.573 --> 19:04.843
my mother contributed to broadening my education.
19:04.910 --> 19:07.679
She made sure that I knew
how to read and write.
19:07.746 --> 19:11.049
She enrolled me in swim
lessons, got me involved
19:11.116 --> 19:15.220
in organized sports, taught
me music and social graces.
19:15.287 --> 19:18.390
And, yes, she was the one
who taught me how to use a
19:18.457 --> 19:22.160
hammer and a saw--something
that many boys today
19:22.227 --> 19:23.662
don't know how to do.
19:23.729 --> 19:26.632
She also taught me how to
iron my clothes and make
19:26.698 --> 19:29.801
my bed, but it was my
father who taught me
19:29.868 --> 19:31.670
how to polish my shoes.
19:31.737 --> 19:34.873
There was a year, that I
can look back upon, that
19:34.940 --> 19:37.543
emphasizes the importance
of fathers in the lives
19:37.609 --> 19:39.111
of their children.
19:39.177 --> 19:43.582
My father was deployed to
Morocco in 1956 and for a
19:43.649 --> 19:46.385
full year there was not
that masculine guiding
19:46.451 --> 19:48.120
hand that I needed.
19:48.186 --> 19:51.857
My mother did her best,
but she simply could
19:51.924 --> 19:54.226
not carry the weight
fully needed to keep
19:54.293 --> 19:58.130
a rambunctious and sometimes
rebellious eleven-year-old
19:58.196 --> 19:59.965
boy in line.
20:00.032 --> 20:02.901
One constant conflict
we had was over
20:02.968 --> 20:04.870
doing my piano lessons.
20:04.937 --> 20:08.774
In retrospect, it's
abundantly evident to me
20:08.840 --> 20:12.177
that as wonderful as my
mother was, I also needed
20:12.244 --> 20:14.379
my father at that time.
20:14.446 --> 20:16.481
Remember, there was
no Internet back then
20:16.548 --> 20:19.484
and transatlantic phone
calls had to be set
20:19.551 --> 20:22.888
up in advance and
were infrequent.
20:22.955 --> 20:26.358
Each parent plays a different,
but pivotal role,
20:26.425 --> 20:27.793
in raising children.
20:27.859 --> 20:30.162
Each, by nature,
is different.
20:30.228 --> 20:33.465
The sexes are not the same
and to assert that they
20:33.532 --> 20:37.869
are is to deny the unique
qualities of both man and
20:37.936 --> 20:40.739
woman, mother and father.
20:40.806 --> 20:43.642
Our world is in confusion.
20:43.709 --> 20:47.512
Men and women have become
fearful to express openly
20:47.579 --> 20:51.617
that they recognize the
obvious--that men and women
20:51.683 --> 20:54.519
are different, that it's
important for children
20:54.586 --> 20:56.989
to address parents with
the loving terms, mother,
20:57.055 --> 20:59.925
father, Mom, and Dad.
20:59.992 --> 21:03.428
In discounting the differences,
the unique roles each
21:03.495 --> 21:06.164
play in the family
relationship is lost.
21:06.231 --> 21:09.301
That's why we're offering
you a special resource--
21:09.368 --> 21:12.204
Successful Parenting-God's Way.
21:12.270 --> 21:16.074
Whether you're a mother,
father, grandparent, aunt,
21:16.141 --> 21:19.244
uncle, or merely someone
interested in helping the
21:19.311 --> 21:22.681
next generation toward
success; you need
21:22.748 --> 21:24.516
this refreshing resource.
21:24.583 --> 21:27.719
No, we're not the product
of blind evolution.
21:27.786 --> 21:32.024
We are not here merely to breed
and preserve the species.
21:32.090 --> 21:35.727
No, we are the creation of
God, and He has a purpose
21:35.794 --> 21:37.295
for you and for me.
21:37.362 --> 21:41.867
Successful Parenting-God's
Way explains that purpose.
21:41.933 --> 21:43.902
May I ask you, dear friends,
21:43.969 --> 21:47.706
why would you not want to
know what that purpose is?
21:47.773 --> 21:50.409
So to learn Godly
principles of child
21:50.475 --> 21:54.046
rearing, and to learn
your purpose for being,
21:54.112 --> 21:58.016
order your free copy of
Successful Parenting-God's Way.
21:58.083 --> 22:00.819
And do it today
before you forget.
22:00.886 --> 22:03.622
If you get a busy signal,
wait five or ten minutes,
22:03.689 --> 22:05.157
and try again.
22:05.223 --> 22:06.558
And when I come back,
22:06.625 --> 22:09.327
I'll show you what God says about the subject
22:09.394 --> 22:12.798
of men and women,
fathers and mothers.
22:12.864 --> 22:13.665
♪
22:13.732 --> 22:20.672
For today's free
offer call...
22:20.739 --> 22:26.144
Or go to...
22:26.211 --> 22:28.580
This clear and
straight-forward resource
22:28.647 --> 22:31.483
will help you understand
this vital truth--
22:31.550 --> 22:34.586
straight from the
pages of the Bible.
22:34.653 --> 22:37.055
If you're calling for the
first time, you will also
22:37.122 --> 22:40.025
receive a free annual
subscription to Tomorrow's
22:40.092 --> 22:41.293
World magazine.
22:41.359 --> 22:44.996
Six inspiring issues
discussing news, science,
22:45.063 --> 22:47.699
and modern culture will
help you make sense of
22:47.766 --> 22:51.803
your world from a
biblical perspective.
22:51.870 --> 22:54.239
Call today and join
millions around the world
22:54.306 --> 22:56.908
who are turning to
Tomorrow's World for
22:56.975 --> 23:02.781
truth, prophecy, and hope
in these confusing times.
23:02.848 --> 23:04.015
Call now!
23:04.082 --> 23:08.053
Or go to...
23:08.120 --> 23:13.291
♪
23:13.358 --> 23:15.660
Today I've been discussing
what it means to be
23:15.727 --> 23:19.231
male and female--to
be a father or mother.
23:19.297 --> 23:21.767
These distinctions
are being blurred
23:21.833 --> 23:23.769
and discounted today.
23:23.835 --> 23:27.506
Social engineers are
running amok in academia,
23:27.572 --> 23:32.010
government, the media, and businesses large and small.
23:32.077 --> 23:34.846
Is it any wonder that we
find ourselves in such
23:34.913 --> 23:38.016
confusion and conflict
when we allow confused
23:38.083 --> 23:42.053
or opportunistic men to
compete in women's sports?
23:42.120 --> 23:45.290
None of this could happen
in a world educated in the
23:45.357 --> 23:48.460
word of our Creator, but
the understanding that
23:48.527 --> 23:52.230
we are a product of an
all-wise and all-powerful
23:52.297 --> 23:56.334
God, has been under assault
since the time of Darwin.
23:56.401 --> 23:59.538
And the correct understanding
of God's plan and way
23:59.604 --> 24:02.440
of life has been under
assault for millennia.
24:02.507 --> 24:05.710
Contrary to social
activists, and those
24:05.777 --> 24:09.114
they have successfully
confused, God created us
24:09.181 --> 24:11.550
as male and female.
24:11.616 --> 24:14.186
When confronted by the
Pharisees about the grounds
24:14.252 --> 24:18.657
for divorce, Jesus quoted from the first chapter of Genesis.
24:18.723 --> 24:23.762
Here we read it in Matthew the 19th chapter, and verses 4-5:
24:23.829 --> 24:25.764
"And He answered and
said to them,
24:25.831 --> 24:29.034
"Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning
24:29.100 --> 24:33.104
'made them male and female,'
and said, 'For this reason
24:33.171 --> 24:37.142
a man shall leave his father
and mother and be joined
24:37.209 --> 24:41.413
to his wife, and the two
shall become one flesh'?"
24:41.479 --> 24:44.449
The Bible points out
differences--different
24:44.516 --> 24:48.520
strengths and weakness--
with both men and women.
24:48.587 --> 24:51.857
We see these differences
in the way Paul spoke of the
24:51.923 --> 24:57.262
roles of each in bringing up children in 1 Thessalonians 2.
24:57.329 --> 25:00.265
First, we see the gentle
nature of a women,
25:00.332 --> 25:04.469
in verse 7, where Paul uses a
motherly characteristic to
25:04.536 --> 25:07.339
explain how he first came
to the Thessalonians:
25:07.405 --> 25:10.542
"But we were gentle among
you, just as a nursing
25:10.609 --> 25:13.144
mother cherishes
her own children."
25:13.211 --> 25:15.780
Paul later uses the
masculine, fatherly
25:15.847 --> 25:18.383
approach to further
explain this relationship
25:18.450 --> 25:20.051
with the Thessalonians.
25:20.118 --> 25:23.021
While still gentle, we
see the more authoritative
25:23.088 --> 25:26.524
demanding characteristic
of a father, with an
25:26.591 --> 25:28.426
eye for long-term success.
25:28.493 --> 25:32.297
Again, chapter 2, this
time in verses 10-12.
25:32.364 --> 25:36.568
"You are witnesses, and
God also, how devoutly and
25:36.635 --> 25:39.771
justly and blamelessly we
behaved ourselves among
25:39.838 --> 25:43.475
you who believe; as you
know how we exhorted, and
25:43.541 --> 25:46.945
comforted, and charged
every one of you, as
25:47.012 --> 25:49.981
a father does his own
children, that you would
25:50.048 --> 25:53.151
walk worthy of God who
calls you into His
25:53.218 --> 25:55.487
own kingdom and glory."
25:55.553 --> 25:58.723
The Bible also points out
pitfalls for both men and
25:58.790 --> 26:02.594
women, natural weaknesses
expressed by both sexes
26:02.661 --> 26:05.597
that can seriously
harm their households.
26:05.664 --> 26:10.936
In Proverbs 21, verse 9,
we read of a pitfall women
26:11.002 --> 26:13.672
are more inclined
to fall into:
26:13.738 --> 26:16.174
Better to dwell in a
corner of a housetop,
26:16.241 --> 26:19.344
than in a house shared with
a contentious woman.
26:19.411 --> 26:22.914
This is also repeated for emphasis in chapter 25
26:22.981 --> 26:24.783
and verse 24.
26:24.849 --> 26:29.054
So women should not disregard
this instruction.
26:29.120 --> 26:33.825
But Paul warned fathers about
a tendency they can have.
26:33.892 --> 26:36.795
In their zeal, they can be
overly demanding of their
26:36.861 --> 26:40.932
children and cause them
to want to give up trying.
26:40.999 --> 26:45.804
Here it is explained in
Ephesians 6, and in verse 4:
26:45.870 --> 26:48.540
"And you, fathers, do not
provoke your children to
26:48.606 --> 26:51.543
wrath, but bring them
up in the training and
26:51.609 --> 26:53.611
admonition of the Lord."
26:53.678 --> 26:56.881
God has made us uniquely
male and female.
26:56.948 --> 27:00.085
There are obvious variations
and exceptions in terms
27:00.151 --> 27:04.689
of personalities, but we're still made, male and female.
27:04.756 --> 27:08.893
Both sexes are necessary
for procreation, but both
27:08.960 --> 27:12.931
are needed for an orderly
and stable society.
27:12.998 --> 27:15.433
Neither should
be discounted.
27:15.500 --> 27:18.770
If others care to enter
someone else's fantasy land,
27:18.837 --> 27:22.173
then so be it, but those
grounded in the values
27:22.240 --> 27:25.710
given to us by God
ought to know better.
27:25.777 --> 27:29.080
We invite you to join us every
week on Tomorrow's World.
27:29.147 --> 27:32.183
In this world of growing
chaos and confusion,
27:32.250 --> 27:36.388
you need the solid guidance
that comes from your Bible.
27:36.454 --> 27:39.424
Richard Ames, Wallace
Smith, Rod McNair, and I
27:39.491 --> 27:42.360
will continue to share
with you the teachings of
27:42.427 --> 27:45.397
Jesus Christ, the good
news of the coming Kingdom
27:45.463 --> 27:48.366
of God, and the exciting
end-time prophecies
27:48.433 --> 27:50.268
and their meaning.
27:50.335 --> 27:53.104
We'll see you next week right here, at the same time.
27:53.171 --> 27:54.072
♪
27:54.139 --> 28:00.445
For today's free
offer call...
28:00.512 --> 28:05.450
Or go to...
28:05.517 --> 28:07.786
Call today and join
millions around the world
28:07.852 --> 28:10.455
who are turning to
Tomorrow's World for
28:10.522 --> 28:14.559
truth, prophecy, and hope
in these confusing times.
28:14.626 --> 28:16.961
♪
28:17.028 --> 28:19.064
The preceding program
is produced by the
28:19.130 --> 28:20.131
Living Church of God.
28:20.198 --> 28:24.669
♪