WEBVTT 00:00.000 --> 00:02.202 Not long ago, I attended the college commencement 00:02.268 --> 00:04.738 exercises for my daughter. 00:04.804 --> 00:06.873 It was an exciting day for the students who had 00:06.940 --> 00:09.509 worked so hard to finish their studies. 00:09.576 --> 00:12.612 As I was watching, it was gratifying to think about 00:12.679 --> 00:15.248 the hard work and determination it took for 00:15.315 --> 00:18.051 each of those graduates just to be there. 00:18.118 --> 00:20.086 One of the top students in the class gave the 00:20.153 --> 00:22.122 valedictorian address. 00:22.188 --> 00:24.758 He was a young man, probably in his early 30s, 00:24.824 --> 00:26.960 who had distinguished himself as an outstanding 00:27.026 --> 00:28.495 student. 00:28.561 --> 00:30.563 He told his story, and gave a really remarkable 00:30.630 --> 00:32.399 speech. 00:32.465 --> 00:35.235 He spoke of challenges and obstacles--some very 00:35.301 --> 00:37.470 personal--that he had overcome. 00:37.537 --> 00:38.872 And it was quite touching. 00:38.938 --> 00:41.040 He was there with his wife and his young daughter, 00:41.107 --> 00:44.210 and I couldn't help but feel admiration for this 00:44.277 --> 00:47.213 man and what he was already making of his 00:47.280 --> 00:48.782 life. 00:48.848 --> 00:50.683 Toward the end of his talk, he spoke of the 00:50.750 --> 00:53.953 women in his life--his mother, his daughter, his 00:54.020 --> 00:56.956 wife--and how important they were to him. 00:57.023 --> 01:00.593 But then his speech went down a perplexing path. 01:00.660 --> 01:02.762 He addressed the men in the audience and said, 01:02.829 --> 01:05.899 "Really the best thing we can do for the women in 01:05.965 --> 01:10.336 our lives, is just get out of the way." 01:10.403 --> 01:13.306 I thought to myself, Wow, what a shocking statement! 01:13.373 --> 01:16.042 Out of all the things that we could say to a generation 01:16.109 --> 01:19.879 of young men, that's the best we can expect? 01:19.946 --> 01:21.614 At that moment, there were thousands of men in the 01:21.681 --> 01:22.849 audience. 01:22.916 --> 01:23.783 And I thought of them. 01:23.850 --> 01:26.119 And I asked myself, Is this going to inspire them to 01:26.186 --> 01:29.823 dream great dreams, to be builders of society, and 01:29.889 --> 01:32.392 to strive to serve and give of themselves to 01:32.459 --> 01:33.793 their families? 01:33.860 --> 01:36.196 When the best we expect of them is just "Get out of 01:36.262 --> 01:38.364 the way." 01:38.431 --> 01:40.166 I walked away shaking my head. 01:40.233 --> 01:42.802 Not because I'm against men learning to honor and 01:42.869 --> 01:45.872 respect and admire the women in their lives. 01:45.939 --> 01:47.974 No, quite the contrary. 01:48.041 --> 01:51.344 Rather, I thought, what a shame for the opportunity 01:51.411 --> 01:55.014 missed to show both men and women they can help 01:55.081 --> 01:56.883 each other. 01:56.950 --> 01:59.319 See, life is made up of relationships, the most 01:59.385 --> 02:01.287 important being marriage. 02:01.354 --> 02:04.424 And a marriage partnership between a man and a woman 02:04.491 --> 02:08.661 takes teamwork and sacrifice on both sides. 02:08.728 --> 02:11.231 So what is the best a man can do? 02:11.297 --> 02:15.802 How can he be successful in marriage and in life? 02:15.869 --> 02:18.104 The answer doesn't come from the woke agenda of 02:18.171 --> 02:21.341 our modern world that believes masculinity is 02:21.407 --> 02:22.542 toxic. 02:22.609 --> 02:25.545 Rather, the answer lies in understanding a man's real 02:25.612 --> 02:27.146 purpose. 02:27.213 --> 02:30.016 And that purpose is revealed in the Bible. 02:30.083 --> 02:31.985 Today on Tomorrow's World, I'd like to explore this 02:32.051 --> 02:33.253 topic. 02:33.319 --> 02:35.021 And in a little while I'll give you an opportunity to 02:35.088 --> 02:38.491 request a copy of the free study guide, "God's Plan 02:38.558 --> 02:42.896 for Happy Marriage." The modern, secular, radical 02:42.962 --> 02:46.232 agenda is not giving our young men and boys the 02:46.299 --> 02:48.735 true perspective they need. 02:48.801 --> 02:51.638 What they need is to grow up to be strong and 02:51.704 --> 02:54.541 sensible husbands and fathers. 02:54.607 --> 02:57.744 This study guide can help them do just that. 02:57.810 --> 03:01.281 So, what is the Best a Man Can Do when it comes to 03:01.347 --> 03:03.917 navigating the relationships of marriage 03:03.983 --> 03:05.285 and family? 03:05.351 --> 03:07.887 I'll be right back with the answer. 03:07.954 --> 03:13.993 ♪ 03:14.060 --> 03:15.862 Welcome to Tomorrow's World, where we help you 03:15.929 --> 03:18.398 make sense of your world through the pages of the 03:18.464 --> 03:20.900 Bible. 03:20.967 --> 03:22.535 Is the highest ideal we can expect from a man, 03:22.602 --> 03:25.305 just to "get out of the way" of women? 03:25.371 --> 03:28.775 Or were men and women designed to work together 03:28.841 --> 03:30.376 to succeed? 03:30.443 --> 03:32.111 If you've been watching this program for any 03:32.178 --> 03:35.048 length of time, you know we hold the Bible to be 03:35.114 --> 03:37.050 the source of wisdom for life. 03:37.116 --> 03:38.651 It was inspired by God. 03:38.718 --> 03:40.820 And it gives us advice about how to make our 03:40.887 --> 03:42.689 relationships work. 03:42.755 --> 03:44.991 God made men to be men. 03:45.058 --> 03:46.926 He made women to be women. 03:46.993 --> 03:49.596 He put us in marriages and in families. 03:49.662 --> 03:52.398 And not surprisingly, He has instructions for men 03:52.465 --> 03:56.436 on what we can do to make our relationships work. 03:56.502 --> 03:59.806 So, what's the best a man can do, to achieve this 03:59.872 --> 04:02.075 God-given potential? 04:02.141 --> 04:05.678 We'll identify three things in today's program. 04:05.745 --> 04:10.850 Number 1: Love and honor your wife 04:10.917 --> 04:12.485 Now, that's simple, you might say. 04:12.552 --> 04:13.753 Everyone does that. 04:13.820 --> 04:15.688 If you're married, you love your wife--otherwise 04:15.755 --> 04:17.423 why would you get married? 04:17.490 --> 04:19.926 But stop and think for a moment. 04:19.993 --> 04:22.795 Maybe we don't fully understand what it means 04:22.862 --> 04:25.665 to love and honor your wife, since so many 04:25.732 --> 04:27.734 marriages end in divorce. 04:27.800 --> 04:29.569 Look at the statistics. 04:29.636 --> 04:31.771 In the United States, if you were married in the 04:31.838 --> 04:36.709 1950s, 25 years later you have about a 25% chance of 04:36.776 --> 04:38.444 being divorced. 04:38.511 --> 04:42.815 If you were married in the 1970s, 25 years later you 04:42.882 --> 04:46.452 have almost a 50% chance of being divorced. 04:46.519 --> 04:49.422 That's an American tragedy. 04:49.489 --> 04:51.758 But it's not just in the United States where so 04:51.824 --> 04:54.160 many marriages are failing. 04:54.227 --> 04:56.129 In England and Wales, a similar trend is 04:56.195 --> 04:57.664 occurring. 04:57.730 --> 05:00.299 In England and Wales, if you take all the marriages 05:00.366 --> 05:04.504 entered into in the year 2000, 17 years later, 05:04.570 --> 05:07.840 almost 35% of them had failed. 05:07.907 --> 05:10.376 This is not just an American problem, nor is 05:10.443 --> 05:12.779 it just in the British Isles. 05:12.845 --> 05:16.349 A Psychology Today article written in 2019 reports, 05:16.416 --> 05:20.953 "Globally, in the nearly four decades between 1970 05:21.020 --> 05:26.759 and 2008, the divorce rate has more than doubled...." 05:26.826 --> 05:29.328 The title of the article was "Divorce Rates Around 05:29.395 --> 05:32.165 the World: A Love Story." I wouldn't call that a 05:32.231 --> 05:33.332 love story. 05:33.399 --> 05:36.803 I'd call that a painful and heartrending disaster. 05:36.869 --> 05:40.440 So what is wrong with marriage today? 05:40.506 --> 05:43.543 Maybe we don't know what "love your wife" really 05:43.609 --> 05:45.411 means. Now of course, 05:45.478 --> 05:47.847 we can't lay all the blame for divorces on men. 05:47.914 --> 05:51.017 Both men and women have a part to play. 05:51.084 --> 05:53.486 But in the context of our topic today, shouldn't we 05:53.553 --> 05:56.322 be looking at what men contribute to their side 05:56.389 --> 05:59.559 of the marriage, so they can be better at truly 05:59.625 --> 06:01.260 loving their wives? 06:01.327 --> 06:04.564 Many have overlooked the fact that the Bible gives 06:04.630 --> 06:07.500 practical and direct advice to men about love 06:07.567 --> 06:08.634 and marriage. 06:08.701 --> 06:11.170 So notice what the Apostle Paul said in Ephesians 06:11.237 --> 06:14.440 chapter 5, and verse 28... 06:14.507 --> 06:17.877 "So husbands ought to love their own wives as their 06:17.944 --> 06:21.681 own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 06:21.748 --> 06:24.717 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes 06:24.784 --> 06:27.186 and cherishes it...." 06:27.253 --> 06:28.621 So, think about this, men. 06:28.688 --> 06:30.690 Do you take care of yourself? 06:30.757 --> 06:33.126 Do you look after your health, your well-being, 06:33.192 --> 06:33.960 your needs? 06:34.026 --> 06:35.128 Of course you do. 06:35.194 --> 06:36.229 We all do. 06:36.295 --> 06:39.165 Paul is saying, if you're married, treat your wife 06:39.232 --> 06:41.267 like you would treat yourself. 06:41.334 --> 06:42.502 Talk with her. 06:42.568 --> 06:44.270 Be aware of her needs. 06:44.337 --> 06:47.740 Be patient and thoughtful even when she's down or 06:47.807 --> 06:48.341 upset. 06:48.407 --> 06:50.209 That's what love is. 06:50.276 --> 06:52.712 It's not just a passing feeling or romantic 06:52.779 --> 06:53.846 notion. 06:53.913 --> 06:57.450 It's a commitment to care for another human being as 06:57.517 --> 07:01.120 you'd care for yourself in good times or bad. 07:01.187 --> 07:02.488 Now, think about it. 07:02.555 --> 07:06.058 Would men and women be happier if real love was 07:06.125 --> 07:07.960 emphasized in our culture? 07:08.027 --> 07:10.096 I think the answer is obvious. 07:10.163 --> 07:13.032 The Apostle Peter echoed the same instruction to 07:13.099 --> 07:13.966 men. 07:14.033 --> 07:17.370 In 1 Peter 3:7... 07:17.436 --> 07:19.639 "Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with 07:19.705 --> 07:22.575 understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to 07:22.642 --> 07:26.179 the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of 07:26.245 --> 07:28.948 the grace of life, that your prayers may not be 07:29.015 --> 07:29.882 hindered." 07:29.949 --> 07:32.718 The Bible tells men to honor women. 07:32.785 --> 07:33.686 Not to demean them. 07:33.753 --> 07:34.921 Not to put them down. 07:34.987 --> 07:37.523 Not to insult or abuse them. 07:37.590 --> 07:39.525 But to honor them. 07:39.592 --> 07:42.094 Now, some will take issue with Paul for saying women 07:42.161 --> 07:44.063 are the weaker vessel. 07:44.130 --> 07:46.999 But it's really not hard to understand. 07:47.066 --> 07:49.836 In fact, in the article, "What Science Tells Us 07:49.902 --> 07:53.472 About Transgender Women Athletes," the authors put 07:53.539 --> 07:56.843 it succinctly: "Men are, on average, bigger, 07:56.909 --> 07:59.779 faster, stronger and have greater endurance than 07:59.846 --> 08:00.913 women...." 08:00.980 --> 08:03.115 There are exceptions of course. 08:03.182 --> 08:05.084 But by and large, this is true. 08:05.151 --> 08:09.021 But why did God create men to be bigger and stronger? 08:09.088 --> 08:10.556 To dominate women? 08:10.623 --> 08:13.392 To crush them physically or emotionally? 08:13.459 --> 08:14.393 No. 08:14.460 --> 08:16.662 Rather, it was God's intention that a man 08:16.729 --> 08:19.832 learns to care for, nourish and protect the 08:19.899 --> 08:22.501 woman he's committed himself to. 08:22.568 --> 08:25.104 You know, there was a time in naval history when the 08:25.171 --> 08:28.741 unwritten rule was, if a ship went down, the women and 08:28.808 --> 08:31.577 children would get the lifeboats first. 08:31.644 --> 08:35.681 This code of conduct was popularized in 1852 at the 08:35.748 --> 08:39.919 sinking and evacuation of the Royal Navy ship 08:39.986 --> 08:41.254 HMS Birkenhead. 08:41.320 --> 08:44.056 It was thereafter called the "Birkenhead drill" 08:44.123 --> 08:47.627 because of the ship captain's insistence that 08:47.693 --> 08:50.029 the men give up their lives for the protection 08:50.096 --> 08:53.499 of the women and children that were on that ship. 08:53.566 --> 08:56.369 The same standard was applied at the sinking of 08:56.435 --> 08:57.703 the Titanic. 08:57.770 --> 09:00.206 Many men gave up their spot on lifeboats to their 09:00.273 --> 09:02.108 wives and children. 09:02.174 --> 09:05.344 And they themselves died in the icy waters of the 09:05.411 --> 09:06.913 north Atlantic. 09:06.979 --> 09:09.482 But one has to wonder, have we come to the point in our 09:09.548 --> 09:12.919 history where men today would feel no sense of 09:12.985 --> 09:16.923 responsibility to protect women in an emergency such 09:16.989 --> 09:18.024 as that? 09:18.090 --> 09:20.826 Is that who we are? 09:20.893 --> 09:23.062 Men were designed to stand up for 09:23.129 --> 09:26.565 and cherish and protect their wives to their last 09:26.632 --> 09:28.234 breath. 09:28.301 --> 09:30.102 But marriage is under attack. 09:30.169 --> 09:32.238 And that's why we're offering a free study 09:32.305 --> 09:34.774 guide that can help you learn what true love 09:34.840 --> 09:36.175 really means. 09:36.242 --> 09:37.777 Written by the late Roderick C. 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In it he explains the husband's 09:43.816 --> 09:45.985 responsibility to his wife. 09:46.052 --> 09:48.955 He shows that too many have confused "love" with 09:49.021 --> 09:52.024 "lust," and that true love involves giving and 09:52.091 --> 09:53.693 sharing. 09:53.759 --> 09:55.795 He challenges men to not grow critical with their 09:55.861 --> 09:58.831 wives, if they don't measure up to perfection. 09:58.898 --> 10:01.667 Your marriage is the most intimate relationship in 10:01.734 --> 10:02.668 your life. 10:02.735 --> 10:04.070 Cherish it. 10:04.136 --> 10:07.640 This booklet can help men and women grow, to be what 10:07.707 --> 10:09.575 God wants them to be. 10:09.642 --> 10:13.612 So order online, call, or write today. 10:13.679 --> 10:20.586 For today's free offer call... 10:20.653 --> 10:26.092 Or go to... 10:26.158 --> 10:28.661 This clear and straight-forward resource 10:28.728 --> 10:31.497 will help you understand this vital truth-- 10:31.564 --> 10:34.567 straight from the pages of the Bible. 10:34.633 --> 10:36.969 If you're calling for the first time, you will also 10:37.036 --> 10:39.238 receive a free annual subscription to 10:39.305 --> 10:41.474 Tomorrow's World magazine. 10:41.540 --> 10:44.677 Ten inspiring issues discussing news, science, 10:44.744 --> 10:47.680 and modern culture will help you make sense of 10:47.747 --> 10:51.150 your world from a biblical perspective. 10:51.217 --> 10:54.086 Call today and join millions around the world 10:54.153 --> 10:56.889 who are turning to Tomorrow's World for 10:56.956 --> 11:02.695 truth, prophecy, and hope in these confusing times. 11:02.762 --> 11:03.696 Call now! 11:03.763 --> 11:13.305 Or go to... 11:13.372 --> 11:15.141 In the last segment of our program we 11:15.207 --> 11:17.910 saw that just telling men to "get out of the way" of 11:17.977 --> 11:21.313 women is not the solution to our relationship 11:21.380 --> 11:22.615 problems. 11:22.681 --> 11:25.718 Husbands and wives are to work as a team, not as 11:25.785 --> 11:26.819 competitors. 11:26.886 --> 11:29.922 And men need to be inspired and challenged to 11:29.989 --> 11:33.025 care for and care about their wives. 11:33.092 --> 11:36.462 So loving and honoring wives is vital. 11:36.529 --> 11:38.798 But that's not all there is. 11:38.864 --> 11:41.500 In this segment we'll examine a second challenge 11:41.567 --> 11:43.636 for men to be their best. 11:43.702 --> 11:47.239 About 3,000 years ago there lived a very wise 11:47.306 --> 11:48.207 king. 11:48.274 --> 11:50.376 His reputation spread far and wide. 11:50.443 --> 11:52.711 We have many of his teachings preserved in the 11:52.778 --> 11:53.446 Bible. 11:53.512 --> 11:55.514 His name was Solomon. 11:55.581 --> 11:58.317 And from Solomon we get our second challenge to 11:58.384 --> 11:59.351 men: 11:59.418 --> 12:03.489 Number 2: Fear God and keep His commandments 12:03.556 --> 12:06.158 What does this have to do with a man's relationship 12:06.225 --> 12:07.159 with his wife? 12:07.226 --> 12:08.260 Well, let me explain. 12:08.327 --> 12:10.463 The phrase is actually taken straight out of the 12:10.529 --> 12:11.330 Bible. 12:11.397 --> 12:12.465 Let's read it together. 12:12.531 --> 12:17.470 It's found in Ecclesiastes 12:13... 12:17.536 --> 12:19.905 "Let us hear the conclusion of the whole 12:19.972 --> 12:23.843 matter: Fear God and keep His commandments, For this 12:23.909 --> 12:25.878 is man's all." 12:25.945 --> 12:28.914 When Solomon summed up the purpose of life, the 12:28.981 --> 12:30.850 meaning of life, and why we're here, 12:30.916 --> 12:32.284 this is what he said. 12:32.351 --> 12:33.219 Fear God. 12:33.285 --> 12:34.787 Keep His Commandments. 12:34.854 --> 12:36.522 This is man's all. 12:36.589 --> 12:39.692 Now, we understand "man" here to be "mankind," or 12:39.758 --> 12:42.862 "humanity." But let's step back and apply this 12:42.928 --> 12:45.464 scripture to the half of humanity that is called 12:45.531 --> 12:46.532 men. 12:46.599 --> 12:49.802 What if every last man on this earth was doing 12:49.869 --> 12:51.370 this today? 12:51.437 --> 12:52.972 How would it change the world? 12:53.038 --> 12:55.708 How would it change the world for women? 12:55.774 --> 12:58.978 Well, first of all, if all men feared God, there 12:59.044 --> 13:00.279 would be no crime. 13:00.346 --> 13:02.882 There would be no domestic abuse. 13:02.948 --> 13:05.518 There would be no fear for women walking down a dark, 13:05.584 --> 13:08.087 abandoned alley late at night. 13:08.154 --> 13:10.823 Now, what does "fear God" mean? 13:10.890 --> 13:13.325 God doesn't want us to be frightened or terrified of 13:13.392 --> 13:14.426 Him. 13:14.493 --> 13:17.463 It just means, He wants our attention, our focus 13:17.530 --> 13:19.365 and our obedience. 13:19.431 --> 13:22.735 He wants us to deeply respect Him and hold Him 13:22.801 --> 13:23.802 in awe. 13:23.869 --> 13:25.437 Why is that? 13:25.504 --> 13:28.140 Well, because He's in Heaven and we're on earth. 13:28.207 --> 13:31.410 He made us. He controls everything around 13:31.477 --> 13:32.511 us. 13:32.578 --> 13:35.447 And He knows us better than we know ourselves. 13:35.514 --> 13:39.051 He knows what we need to do that will really make 13:39.118 --> 13:40.920 us happy in the long run. 13:40.986 --> 13:42.521 What about the commandments? 13:42.588 --> 13:46.192 They simply are the Ten Commandments, as found in 13:46.258 --> 13:48.594 the book of Exodus, in the Old Testament. 13:48.661 --> 13:50.996 You know, the Ten Commandments often get a 13:51.063 --> 13:52.164 bad rap today. 13:52.231 --> 13:55.234 They are seen as harsh or demanding dictates from an 13:55.301 --> 13:58.037 unloving and uncaring God. 13:58.103 --> 14:01.140 But have you ever actually looked at them to see what 14:01.207 --> 14:02.808 they say? 14:02.875 --> 14:05.744 Many of them actually teach us how to love our 14:05.811 --> 14:06.845 neighbor. 14:06.912 --> 14:09.548 Let's look at the command against adultery: 14:09.615 --> 14:16.755 This is found in Exodus 20:14 "You shall not commit adultery." 14:16.822 --> 14:18.991 Well, what's adultery? 14:19.058 --> 14:21.694 That's an old word that means having sexual 14:21.760 --> 14:24.997 relations with someone who is not your wife. 14:25.064 --> 14:27.600 Now how out of fashion is that? 14:27.666 --> 14:31.203 And yet, imagine all of the broken marriages torn 14:31.270 --> 14:34.039 apart because of infidelity. 14:34.106 --> 14:37.643 Certainly, infidelity can be the cause of actions of 14:37.710 --> 14:39.645 either the husband OR the wife. 14:39.712 --> 14:41.914 But let's focus on the men right now. 14:41.981 --> 14:44.617 What if men, from little on, were taught to be 14:44.683 --> 14:47.820 faithful to their wives, till death? 14:47.886 --> 14:51.624 That sex is a precious gift that only belongs in 14:51.690 --> 14:55.561 a lifelong, committed marriage relationship. 14:55.628 --> 14:58.530 Do we see how keeping this and other of the 10 14:58.597 --> 15:02.067 Commandments would make the world a safer and more 15:02.134 --> 15:04.737 secure world for women? 15:04.803 --> 15:07.973 Women don't need men to get out of the way. 15:08.040 --> 15:11.977 Women need men to fear God and keep His commandments. 15:12.044 --> 15:15.514 That would make a radical and monumental change for 15:15.581 --> 15:16.882 the better. 15:16.949 --> 15:19.084 But we can take this one step further. 15:19.151 --> 15:23.756 Because Jesus explained in Matthew 5:27 that there is 15:23.822 --> 15:26.892 physical adultery, and then there is adultery of 15:26.959 --> 15:32.097 the heart. Matthew 5:27... 15:32.164 --> 15:34.767 "You have heard that it was said to those of old, 15:34.833 --> 15:37.369 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to 15:37.436 --> 15:40.339 you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her 15:40.406 --> 15:43.809 has already committed adultery with her in his 15:43.876 --> 15:45.044 heart." 15:45.110 --> 15:48.080 Pornography is a curse in our western nations. 15:48.147 --> 15:50.683 It's not just a curse for men--women get hooked, 15:50.749 --> 15:51.784 too. 15:51.850 --> 15:55.421 In fact, according to a 2016 working paper by 15:55.487 --> 15:58.123 researchers for the University of Oklahoma, 15:58.190 --> 16:01.293 "Men who started watching pornography partway 16:01.360 --> 16:04.096 through a 2-year period doubled their chances of 16:04.163 --> 16:05.130 divorce. 16:05.197 --> 16:08.167 For women, that number tripled." 16:08.233 --> 16:11.236 At a 2002 meeting of the American Academy of 16:11.303 --> 16:14.440 Matrimonial Lawyers, attorneys gathered were 16:14.506 --> 16:18.410 surveyed about the effects of porn on divorce. 16:18.477 --> 16:21.180 What were the results of the survey? 16:21.246 --> 16:24.783 "'An obsessive interest in Internet pornography' was 16:24.850 --> 16:28.887 a significant factor in 56 percent of their divorce 16:28.954 --> 16:30.989 cases the prior year." 16:31.056 --> 16:32.891 So, stop and think this through. 16:32.958 --> 16:35.728 What if men were taught, from a young age, that 16:35.794 --> 16:38.464 it's not only wrong to commit fornication or 16:38.530 --> 16:41.934 adultery, but it's wrong to even harbor lustful 16:42.000 --> 16:43.669 thoughts toward a woman? 16:43.736 --> 16:46.438 What if our culture would support parents' efforts 16:46.505 --> 16:49.942 to protect their children from inappropriate images 16:50.008 --> 16:53.212 in the media, in movies, and on the Internet? 16:53.278 --> 16:56.548 What a different world this would be. 16:56.615 --> 16:59.585 If you are a man and watching this now, think 16:59.651 --> 17:00.986 about your life. 17:01.053 --> 17:03.255 Think about your relationships. 17:03.322 --> 17:06.392 If you have a porn problem, get help. 17:06.458 --> 17:07.426 Get past it. 17:07.493 --> 17:08.260 Overcome it. 17:08.327 --> 17:10.062 Porn is sin. 17:10.129 --> 17:12.197 And sin destroys trust. 17:12.264 --> 17:15.601 Sin tears apart marriages. 17:15.667 --> 17:17.369 Yes, God can forgive. 17:17.436 --> 17:20.005 And He will forgive, if we repent. 17:20.072 --> 17:23.809 But first we must admit we've sinned and must have 17:23.876 --> 17:27.746 a deep desire to overcome it with God's help. 17:27.813 --> 17:30.983 As men, let's aspire to do more than just "get out of 17:31.049 --> 17:33.285 the way" of the women in our life. 17:33.352 --> 17:35.921 How about giving our life to God. 17:35.988 --> 17:38.791 How about committing to keep His laws, so that our 17:38.857 --> 17:41.527 wives and our families will be blessed. 17:41.593 --> 17:43.629 Our relationships will grow. 17:43.695 --> 17:46.231 Their trust in us will strengthen. 17:46.298 --> 17:49.701 We'll be happier and they'll be happier. 17:49.768 --> 17:51.937 Again, we only have time to scratch the surface of 17:52.004 --> 17:52.938 this topic. 17:53.005 --> 17:54.273 And that's why we are offering this free 17:54.339 --> 17:58.210 publication, "God's Plan for Happy Marriage." 17:58.277 --> 18:00.913 In it, Roderick Meredith explains the importance of 18:00.979 --> 18:02.848 "commitment and trust". 18:02.915 --> 18:04.817 He shows that it takes effort to build a 18:04.883 --> 18:07.653 God-centered marriage, but it's worth it. 18:07.719 --> 18:10.856 And he reminds us, we must "learn to forgive". 18:10.923 --> 18:13.826 There is so much more than we can go into right now. 18:13.892 --> 18:16.662 But you can order your free copy today. 18:16.728 --> 18:20.532 So, call us, write, or order online. 18:20.599 --> 18:22.568 This clear and straight-forward resource 18:22.634 --> 18:25.404 will help you understand this vital truth-- 18:25.471 --> 18:28.307 straight from the pages of the Bible. 18:28.373 --> 18:29.441 Call now! 18:29.508 --> 18:30.209 Or go to... 18:35.414 --> 18:37.382 A few years ago, a well-known men's 18:37.449 --> 18:40.953 skin-care products company set off a firestorm by a 18:41.019 --> 18:42.821 commercial they ran. 18:42.888 --> 18:45.524 The commercial not-so-subtly suggested 18:45.591 --> 18:48.494 that we should accept the progressive media view 18:48.560 --> 18:51.497 that men in general are toxic bullies and need to 18:51.563 --> 18:53.599 improve. 18:53.665 --> 18:55.701 The slogan of the commercial was, "The Best 18:55.767 --> 18:57.769 Men Can Be." 18:57.836 --> 19:00.339 Now we've already seen that God intended for men to 19:00.405 --> 19:02.908 care for their wives, to cherish them, and to 19:02.975 --> 19:03.842 protect them. 19:03.909 --> 19:06.578 So, yes, men should not be bullies. 19:06.645 --> 19:09.414 But the commercial didn't tell the whole story. 19:09.481 --> 19:12.184 It didn't finish the narrative of what men 19:12.251 --> 19:13.819 should attain to. 19:13.886 --> 19:17.322 How can a man be "the best that he can be?" 19:17.389 --> 19:19.525 Let's talk about that now. 19:19.591 --> 19:20.359 Number 3: 19:20.425 --> 19:23.562 Become like Jesus Christ 19:23.629 --> 19:25.697 Almost 2,000 years ago, there was a man who walked 19:25.764 --> 19:28.667 this earth, whose name was Jesus Christ. 19:28.734 --> 19:31.069 Many in our secular, humanistic culture of 19:31.136 --> 19:34.473 today don't want to hear about Him, but He was the 19:34.540 --> 19:35.874 ultimate man. 19:35.941 --> 19:37.543 He was the standard. 19:37.609 --> 19:40.445 In fact, He was God in the flesh. 19:40.512 --> 19:42.648 He had been at the throne of the Father for all 19:42.714 --> 19:46.418 eternity past, and He emptied Himself of His 19:46.485 --> 19:47.986 divinity. 19:48.053 --> 19:51.323 We read of that in Philippians 2:6. 19:51.390 --> 19:54.359 Referring to Jesus Christ, Paul writes... 19:54.426 --> 19:57.095 "who, though he was in the form of God, did not count 19:57.162 --> 20:00.732 equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made 20:00.799 --> 20:03.969 himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, 20:04.036 --> 20:06.238 being born in the likeness of men. 20:06.305 --> 20:09.474 And being found in human form, he humbled himself 20:09.541 --> 20:12.911 by becoming obedient to the point of death, even 20:12.978 --> 20:15.447 death on a cross." That was from the 20:15.514 --> 20:17.449 English Standard Version. 20:17.516 --> 20:20.052 He had been at the throne of God, with the Father. 20:20.118 --> 20:22.521 He gave that up for us. 20:22.588 --> 20:24.189 To become flesh and blood. 20:24.256 --> 20:25.324 To walk with us. 20:25.390 --> 20:26.692 He humbled Himself. 20:26.758 --> 20:28.627 But He wasn't a weakling. 20:28.694 --> 20:31.163 There is a common misconception about Jesus 20:31.229 --> 20:35.200 Christ as being a sort of an effeminate individual who 20:35.267 --> 20:36.535 was soft and weak. 20:36.602 --> 20:39.304 Perhaps it's because many pictures portray Him that 20:39.371 --> 20:40.472 way. 20:40.539 --> 20:41.707 But think about it. 20:41.773 --> 20:42.941 He was a carpenter. 20:43.008 --> 20:44.576 He was a builder. 20:44.643 --> 20:46.678 And back then there were no power tools. 20:46.745 --> 20:50.749 His hands were strong and used to work. 20:50.816 --> 20:53.352 Again, it doesn't mean He was weak because He cared 20:53.418 --> 20:55.120 for the interests of others. 20:55.187 --> 20:58.590 In fact, here's an example of the type of man He was, 20:58.657 --> 21:02.661 found in Matthew 21:12... 21:02.728 --> 21:04.997 "Then Jesus went into the temple of God and drove 21:05.063 --> 21:08.233 out all those who bought and sold in the temple, 21:08.300 --> 21:11.103 and overturned the tables of the money changers and 21:11.169 --> 21:14.439 the seats of those who sold doves." 21:14.506 --> 21:16.608 Jesus Christ wasn't a bully. 21:16.675 --> 21:19.144 But He also wasn't afraid of taking strong action 21:19.211 --> 21:20.679 when it was required. 21:20.746 --> 21:23.348 The Temple was the house of God. 21:23.415 --> 21:26.685 And when He found crooks there taking advantage of and 21:26.752 --> 21:29.221 cheating the people, He stopped them, and He 21:29.287 --> 21:30.489 threw them out. 21:30.555 --> 21:33.792 Notice what Paul wrote to the church in Ephesus, in 21:33.859 --> 21:37.362 Ephesians 4:13... 21:37.429 --> 21:40.565 "Till we all come to the unity of the faith and of 21:40.632 --> 21:43.969 the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, 21:44.036 --> 21:46.905 to the measure of the stature of the fullness of 21:46.972 --> 21:48.573 Christ." 21:48.640 --> 21:51.510 If you're a man who cares about your family and your 21:51.576 --> 21:55.147 wife, commit to becoming like Christ. 21:55.213 --> 21:57.582 If you want to make a difference in your world 21:57.649 --> 22:00.519 and build something worthwhile, become like 22:00.585 --> 22:02.387 Christ. 22:02.454 --> 22:04.756 If you want to set a strong and solid example 22:04.823 --> 22:08.393 for others to follow, become like Christ. 22:08.460 --> 22:09.628 He's the standard. 22:09.695 --> 22:10.796 He's the measure. 22:10.862 --> 22:12.164 He set the pace. 22:12.230 --> 22:14.666 And that's what this world needs more of. 22:14.733 --> 22:16.168 That's what women need. 22:16.234 --> 22:18.804 Men like Christ. 22:18.870 --> 22:21.239 I think one of the most touching and powerful 22:21.306 --> 22:23.975 passages in the Bible is at the end of Christ's 22:24.042 --> 22:27.179 life, when He's hanging on the stake, and He speaks 22:27.245 --> 22:29.815 to John, the disciple He was closest to. 22:29.881 --> 22:31.516 Let's read it together... 22:31.583 --> 22:35.053 "Now there stood by the cross of Jesus His mother, 22:35.120 --> 22:38.724 and His mother's sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, 22:38.790 --> 22:40.225 and Mary Magdalene. 22:40.292 --> 22:43.261 When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the 22:43.328 --> 22:46.431 disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to 22:46.498 --> 22:49.601 His mother, 'Woman, behold your son!' 22:49.668 --> 22:51.570 Then He said to the disciple, 'Behold your 22:51.636 --> 22:52.971 mother!' 22:53.038 --> 22:55.741 And from that hour that disciple took her to his 22:55.807 --> 22:57.042 own home." 22:57.109 --> 23:01.179 That was in John 19:25-27. 23:01.246 --> 23:03.281 Jesus loved the whole world. 23:03.348 --> 23:04.783 Every human being. 23:04.850 --> 23:06.752 That's why He gave His life. 23:06.818 --> 23:09.387 That's why He allowed men to kill Him. 23:09.454 --> 23:12.624 So you and I could have a way out of sin. 23:12.691 --> 23:15.994 But even as He was hanging there, in his last 23:16.061 --> 23:19.798 moments, He did not forget the woman who had bore Him 23:19.865 --> 23:22.000 and raised Him. 23:22.067 --> 23:24.603 He ensured His mother would be cared for, just 23:24.669 --> 23:26.004 before He died. 23:26.071 --> 23:31.109 The last act of a dynamic, powerful, and caring man. 23:31.176 --> 23:34.246 Don't give in to the cynical view of today, the 23:34.312 --> 23:37.749 idea that the Bible puts down women and tells men 23:37.816 --> 23:38.784 to do so. 23:38.850 --> 23:40.986 Nothing could be further from the truth. 23:41.052 --> 23:43.455 The Bible holds men accountable for treating 23:43.522 --> 23:47.592 women well, and challenges them 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25:23.154 --> 25:25.924 If you have young boys, it's your responsibility 25:25.991 --> 25:29.494 to teach them how to be a real man. 25:29.561 --> 25:32.397 Not just a macho reflection of a movie 25:32.464 --> 25:34.566 hero, but a real man. 25:34.633 --> 25:36.034 Like Jesus Christ. 25:36.101 --> 25:38.803 To honor and respect women. 25:38.870 --> 25:41.006 Not just "get out of their way." 25:41.072 --> 25:42.440 What if you're a woman? 25:42.507 --> 25:44.442 What about the men in your life? 25:44.509 --> 25:47.212 If you have a husband, respect him. 25:47.279 --> 25:48.613 Value him. 25:48.680 --> 25:50.782 Appreciate what he does for you. 25:50.849 --> 25:53.418 Tell him you are thankful for how he sacrifices for 25:53.485 --> 25:54.920 you. 25:54.986 --> 25:59.190 And raise your boys to be valiant and faithful men 25:59.257 --> 26:01.660 themselves who respect women and value their own 26:01.726 --> 26:03.695 masculinity. 26:03.762 --> 26:05.830 We're living in difficult times. 26:05.897 --> 26:09.134 But God is looking for men--and women--who can 26:09.200 --> 26:11.403 rise to the challenge. 26:11.469 --> 26:15.507 In 2 Chronicles 16:9 we read this... 26:15.573 --> 26:18.009 "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout 26:18.076 --> 26:21.446 the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf 26:21.513 --> 26:24.582 of those whose heart is loyal to Him." 26:24.649 --> 26:27.752 Men, it's not enough just to get out of the way. 26:27.819 --> 26:30.288 For the sake of the women in our lives, we must 26:30.355 --> 26:33.792 become what God wants us to be. 26:33.858 --> 26:35.627 Thank you for watching--don't forget to 26:35.694 --> 26:38.530 order your free study guide, "God's Plan for 26:38.596 --> 26:40.031 Happy Marriage." 26:40.098 --> 26:43.368 And keep watching for more Tomorrow's World episodes. 26:43.435 --> 26:46.671 As Gerald Weston, Richard Ames, Wallace Smith, and I 26:46.738 --> 26:50.008 explain the Good News of Tomorrow's World, and the 26:50.075 --> 26:53.111 comfort and hope it can bring to you, your family, 26:53.178 --> 26:55.080 and all humanity. 26:55.146 --> 26:56.815 See you next time! 26:56.881 --> 26:58.683 For today's free offer call... 27:03.722 --> 27:04.556 Or go to... 27:08.927 --> 27:10.862 Call today and join millions around the world 27:10.929 --> 27:13.465 who are turning to Tomorrow's World for 27:13.531 --> 27:17.702 truth, prophecy, and hope in these confusing times. 27:17.769 --> 27:19.971 ♪ 27:20.038 --> 27:20.905 The preceding program is 27:20.972 --> 27:23.541 produced by the Living Church of God. 27:23.608 --> 27:24.676 ♪ 27:24.743 --> 27:26.578 Do you have the feeling our world is going in the 27:26.644 --> 27:30.648 wrong direction-a very bad direction? 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