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REBECCA: HEY, GUYS.
WELCOME BACK TO ANOTHER EPISODE OF
ON AIR WITH REBECCA.
WE HAVE A SPECIAL VALENTINE'S DAY
EPISODE FOR YOU GUYS.
AND THIS IS MY FAVORITE KIND OF EPISODE TO DO
BECAUSE IT'S WITH MY ALL-TIME FAVORITE PERSON
TO RECORD EPISODES WITH,
MY HUSBAND JONATHAN WEISS.
JONATHAN: PRETTY BIG INTRO THERE.
ALL-TIME FAVORITE.
I GUESS ALL-TIME FAVORITE TO DATE,
OR ALL-TIME FAVORITE FOREVER.
REBECCA: FOREVER.
JONATHAN: WOW.
I LIKE THAT.
REBECCA: I WAS GONNA SAY,
YOU MAKE THE SHOW SO MUCH BETTER.
JONATHAN: OH, THANKS.
REBECCA: SO THANKS FOR BEING ON.
JONATHAN: ABSOLUTELY.
REBECCA: AND YOU'RE GONNA WANT TO STAY TUNED
BECAUSE WE'RE GONNA BE SHARING OUR STORY.
WE'RE GONNA BE ANSWERING SOME OF YOU GUYS QUESTIONS.
AND WE HAVE A LITTLE SURPRISE QUIZ
AT THE END.
ALL RIGHT, SO, HONEY, LET'S TALK ABOUT
HOW THIS ALL HAPPENED.
OKAY, HOW DID WE MEET?
DO YOU WANT TO TELL THE STORY,
OR YOU WANT ME TO TELL IT? JONATHAN: WELL, IT'S KIND OF LIKE MULTIPLE VERSIONS
OF HOW WE MET.
REBECCA: I FEEL LIKE ON THIS SHOW WE CAN GIVE --
JONATHAN: BASICALLY, MY PARENTS CAME ON
AT THE TIME --
REBECCA: MY PARENTS' SHOW.
JONATHAN:MARCUS AND JONI SHOW .
AND UNBEKNOWNST TO ME, I GUESS,
MY MOM AND SUZY.
REBECCA: HAD A LITTLE CONVERSATION.
JONATHAN: HAD A LITTLE CONVERSATION
IN THE GREEN ROOM
ABOUT HER HAVING A SINGLE SON
AND THEN TALKING ABOUT YOU.
AND SO --
REBECCA: AND SUZY, KNOWING ME,
WAS LIKE, IS HE TALL?
AND SHE WAS VETTING YOU
BEFORE I EVEN KNEW ABOUT YOU.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
REBECCA: AND YOU CHECKED ALL THE BOXES. JONATHAN: AS A GOOD FRIEND DOES, RIGHT?
REBECCA: UH-HUH.
AND IT'S JUST ONLY FITTING
THAT IT WAS SUZY OF ALL PEOPLE.
BECAUSE WE BOTH LOVE HER SO MUCH,
IT JUST IS PERFECT.
JONATHAN: SO AT THE TIME,
I WAS JUST KIND OF HELPING MY PARENTS WITH THEIR MINISTRY.
AND SO AFTER THEY DID THAT EPISODE,
MY PARENTS SENT IT TO ME
AND ASKED ME LIKE CHECK IT OUT AND SEE HOW THEY DID.
AND I WAS LIKE OKAY, SURE.
AND I DIDN'T.
I KEPT PUTTING IT OFF.
PUTTING IT OFF, PUTTING IT OFF.
AND THEN LIKE A FEW WEEKS WENT BY,
I ACTUALLY FELT
THE HOLY SPIRIT PROMPT ME TO LOOK AT IT.
AND I WAS LIKE, OKAY.
AND SO I OPENED UP MY LAPTOP,
AND WENT TO THE EPISODE AND WATCHED IT.
AND THEMARCUS AND JONI SHOW
HAS THIS, YOU KNOW, FUN INTERACTIVE PART
AT THE TOP, RIGHT?
WHERE ALL OF YOU AND YOUR SIBLINGS WILL COME OUT
AND DO SOMETHING.
AND I SAW YOU
AND I WAS LIKE, WOW.
SHE'S PRETTY.
I WONDER WHAT HER STORY IS
AND THAT WAS PRETTY MUCH IT.
AND I WAS LIKE
LET ME HER ADD HER ON FACEBOOK.
YOU KNOW, FACEBOOK IS A GOOD PLACE TO START.
SO I ADDED YOU ON FACEBOOK.
AND I THINK I SENT YOU A MESSAGE, RIGHT?
REBECCA: YEAH, YOU SLID INTO MY DM'S.
JONATHAN: YEAH, SO I SENT YOU A MESSAGE.
REBECCA: ONLY IT WASN'T INSTAGRAM,
IT WAS FACEBOOK,
WHICH AGES US JUST A LITTLE BIT.
JONATHAN: HEY, AT LEAST IT WASN'T MYSPACE.
[ LAUGHTER ]
REBECCA: THAT'S TRUE.
JONATHAN: SO, AND WE STARTED TALKING OVER FACEBOOK.
BUT THE CONVERSATIONS WERE GOING WELL
UNTIL YOU VANISHED RIGHT WHEN I INVITED YOU.
REBECCA: I GHOSTED YOU.
JONATHAN: BECAUSE WE TALKED FOR A FEW WEEKS,
AND I INVITED YOU TO COME OUT
TO SAN FRANCISCO,
WHERE I WAS LIVING AT THE TIME
WITH A FRIEND, STAY IN A SEPARATE SPOT,
AS GOOD CHRISTIANS WOULD DO,
AND GET TO KNOW YOU MORE.
REBECCA: YEAH, AND SO THIS IS WHERE WE LIKE PAUSE
AND I INTERJECT MY SIDE.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
REBECCA: SO BASICALLY, I DID THE SHOW THAT MORNING.
YOUR PARENTS WERE THE GUESTS.
I DIDN'T EVEN SEE YOUR PARENTS, BECAUSE I ONLY
DID THE TOP.
WALKED UP, AND DID NOT THINK ANYTHING OF IT.
DIDN'T THINK TWICE.
AND THEN SUZY HAD THIS CONVERSATION
WITH YOUR MOM.
WHAT'S INTERESTING IS
YOUR MOM KNEW NOT TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT ME TO YOU
BECAUSE SHE HAD DONE THIS BEFORE
TRYING TO SET YOU UP WITH A NICE GIRL.
AND YOU WERE ALWAYS LIKE, MOM, NO.
JONATHAN: NOT EVEN ONCE BEFORE,
BUT MANY TIMES BEFORE.
REBECCA: AND SO YOU WERE LIKE,
SHE KNEW NOT TO SAY ANYTHING.
JONATHAN: I WASN'T GONNA HAVE ANY OF IT, YEAH.
REBECCA: BUT SUZY KNEW I WAS THE OPPOSITE.
I NEEDED A HEADS UP.
JONATHAN: WHAT'S EVEN CRAZIER, TOO,
IS GO BACK IN TIME,
SEVEN OR EIGHT YEARS,
DAYSTAR WAS ON IN OUR LIVING ROOM,
AND I WAS JUST PASSING THROUGH.
REBECCA: WERE YOU SAVED AT THE TIME?
JONATHAN: NO.
REBECCA: OH, MAN.
I DIDN'T KNOW THAT.
JONATHAN: I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT DAYSTAR WAS
OR EVEN WHAT WAS GOING ON.
BUT MY MOM, YOU KNOW, ALWAYS WAS WATCHING DAYSTAR
I GUESS GROWING UP.
REBECCA: AND PROPHETIC.
JONATHAN: YEAH, AND YOU WERE SINGING ON THE SHOW.
I HAVE LIKE A GLIMPSE OF IT IN MY MEMORY.
MY MOM WAS LIKE,
I WANT THAT ONE FOR YOU.
AND I WAS LIKE WHAT?
WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
LIKE SOME PERSON ON TV SINGING.
AND I LIKE WALKED AWAY.
ANYWAY, NOW YOU CAN GO ALL THE WAY BACK
TO CURRENT TIME.
REBECCA: BUT, WAIT, WHEN YOUR MOM SAID
I WANT THAT ONE FOR YOU,
IT WAS ME.
AND YOU RESPONDED WITH?
MOM, I DON'T NEED YOUR HELP.
I CAN FIND A GIRL OF MY OWN.
AND THE IRONY, IT WAS THE EXACT GIRL
SHE PICKED OUT IN THAT MOMENT.
JONATHAN: CRAZY.
REBECCA: IT'S SO CRAZY.
BUT IT WAS A TIMING THING.
OKAY, SO SUZY AND YOUR MOM
HAVE THIS CONVERSATION.
I DON'T KNOW ABOUT IT.
SUZY BASICALLY GIVES ME A HEADS UP,
AND SHE SAID,
HEY, REMEMBER MYLES AND KATHARINE WEISS,
THEY WERE ON.
WELL, THEY HAVE A SON
THAT'S SINGLE.
AND HE'S CUTE.
HE'S TALL AND HE'S THIS AND HE'S THAT.
AND I THINK HE MIGHT REACHING OUT TO YOU.
SO LIKE BE ON THE LOOKOUT.
AND I WAS SO GLAD SHE SAID THAT.
BECAUSE I HAD PEOPLE
ADDING ME, MESSAGING ME
ALL THE TIME ON FACEBOOK.
AND A LOT OF THEM WERE STRANGE.
JONATHAN: SUSPECT INDIVIDUALS.
SUSPECTS, YEAH, AND SOME STALKER TYPES, YOU KNOW.
IT WAS GOOD, NOT THAT YOU GIVE OFF THAT VIBE AT ALL,
BUT I GOT A HEADS UP ABOUT YOU.
AND SO IT'S SO CRAZY
IS THE DAY THAT YOU ADDED ME ON FACEBOOK,
I HAD BEEN AT A WEDDING
AND THAT MORNING WE WERE LEAVING TO DRIVE BACK HOME.
IT WAS IN HOUSTON.
AND I REALIZED THAT ONE OF THE TRAITS THAT I WANTED
IN A PARTNER
WAS SOMEONE WHO WAS ASSERTIVE.
SOMEONE WHO KNEW WHAT HE WANTED AND WENT FOR IT.
WAS PROTECTED, AND A GO-GETTER.
AND SO I GOT ON MY KNEES THAT MORNING,
AND I PRAYED SPECIFICALLY, LORD,
GIVE ME A HUSBAND
WHO IS ASSERTIVE.
AND THEN THAT DAY ON FACEBOOK
WAS THE DAY YOU ADDED ME.
JONATHAN: CRAZY.
AND NOW YOU GET ON YOUR KNEES EVERYDAY,
AND YOU'RE LIKE WHY, LORD?
WHY SO ASSERTIVE?
[ LAUGHTER ]
REBECCA: NO.
I'M SO THANKFUL.
THIS PODCAST WOULDN'T BE HERE
IF YOU HADN'T BEEN ASSERTIVE.
ONCE AGAIN, IT'S SERVED OUR MARRIAGE.
GOD PUT THAT DESIRE IN MY HEART,
BECAUSE I NEEDED YOU AS A PARTNER.
JONATHAN: SO I INVITING YOU, YEAH. OKAY, SO WE WERE MESSAGING.
REBECCA: AND THEN YOU, BEING ONCE AGAIN,
THE ASSERTIVE, GO-GETTER THAT YOU ARE.
ALL THESE OTHER GUYS IN THE PAST
WERE KIND OF,
I HAD DEALT WITH GUYS IN THE PAST
THAT WERE SCARED
OR WOULDN'T EVEN MAKE THEIR FEELINGS KNOWN.
YOU WERE JUST SO FORWARD.
NOT IN A BAD WAY,
YOU JUST GOT IT DONE.
LIKE YOU'RE A GO-GETTER,
YOU'RE A LEADER.
YOU'RE A VISIONARY, YOU KNOW, AND YOU'RE CONFIDENT.
AND SO WE WERE TALKING,
AND THEN YOU WERE LIKE, HEY, AND YOU DID IT
IN A TOTALLY COOL WAY.
NOT EVEN IN A ROMANTIC WAY,
JUST IN A VERY CHILL WAY.
JONATHAN: YEAH, YEAH, YEAH.
REBECCA: SAID, I'M TRYING TO GIVE YOU PROPS OVER HERE.
YOU INVITE ME TO SAN FRANCISCO.
YOU SAID IF YOU'RE EVER IN SAN FRANCISCO, YOU KNOW,
WE COULD HANG OUT, YOU KNOW.
IF YOU'RE EVER LIKE WITH A FRIEND,
IT WAS LIKE TOTALLY CHILL.
WELL, BASICALLY, I GHOSTED YOU.
DID I MEAN TO GHOST YOU?
NO.
BASICALLY WHAT HAPPENED WAS,
I GOT INTIMIDATED, SO DUMB.
I WAS LIKE, WHAT IF I RESPOND WRONG?
I HONESTLY, AT THE ROOT OF IT,
I'M GETTING KIND OF DEEP.
I WAS AFRAID OF REJECTION.
YOU WERE THIS REALLY GREAT GUY.
AND I FELT LIKE I HAD TO ANSWER
THE MESSAGES PERFECTLY.
I WAS PUTTING ON THIS STUPID PRESSURE ON MYSELF.
I GOT SO SCARED
THAT I WOULDN'T EVEN OPEN UP THE MESSAGE.
SO YOU THOUGHT,
OH, I FREAKED HER OUT
BY INVITING HER TO SAN FRANCISCO.
BUT REALLY I PSYCHED MYSELF OUT,
ALMOST MISSED OUT ON GOD'S WILL FOR MY LIFE.
SO DO NOT LET FEAR DRIVE YOUR DECISIONS.
I WOULD SAY THAT TO PEOPLE WATCHING.
BUT THANK GOODNESS
FOR THE GRACE OF GOD.
I ENDED UP, THIS IS DURING THE CHRISTMAS SEASON.
I ENDED UP GOING TO NIGERIA WITH MY DAD.
AND SHORTLY AFTER I GOT BACK HOME FROM THAT TRIP,
I REALIZED I NEED TO JUST SUCK IT UP
AND MESSAGE THIS GUY BACK.
WELL, I HAD NO IDEA
LIKE A MONTH HAD PASSED.
AND I'M THINKING,
HE WILL NEVER TALK TO ME EVER AGAIN.
LIKE HE'S NEVER GONNA TALK TO ME EVER AGAIN.
I'VE MESSED IT UP.
AND SO I REMEMBER MY FRIEND KAYLA,
WE BOTH WORKED AT DAYSTAR.
WE WERE SHARING AN OFFICE AT THE TIME.
I SAID, KAYLA, SHE'S A WRITER.
I SAID, PLEASE HELP ME WRITE A GOOD MESSAGE
BACK TO THIS GUY.
AND SO WE CONSTRUCTED,
WE TOOK LIKE 20 MINUTES FOR LIKE A LITTLE MESSAGE.
BUT WE CONSTRUCTED THIS PERFECTLY THOUGHT-OUT MESSAGE
AND I SENT IT TO YOU.
AND I REMEMBER THREE DAYS,
YOU DID NOT RESPOND.
I SAW THE LITTLE READ,
LIKE YOU HAD READ THE MESSAGE,
BUT IT WAS JUST LEAVING ME OUT TO DRY.
AND I WAS THINKING, OH, I'VE MESSED IT UP.
I'VE COMPLETELY RUINED IT.
BUT THREE DAYS LATER.
JONATHAN: WHICH IS THE PERFECT AMOUNT
OF LIKE PUNISHMENT TIME.
REBECCA: YEAH, I DESERVED IT.
BUT YOU MESSAGED ME BACK.
WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS.
JONATHAN: OKAY.
REBECCA: AND I SAVED HIS CONTACT INFORMATION
IN MY PHONE.
SO THAT THE FIRST TIME HE CALLED ME.
JONATHAN: YEAH, THIS IS --
REBECCA: TALK ABOUT GIVE YOURSELF AWAY.
I WAS LIKE, HEY.
JONATHAN: YOU WERE LIKE, OH, WOW,
THE FIRST THING YOU SAID WAS.
OH, WOW, YOU SAVED MY NUMBER.
AND YOU THOUGHT IT WAS SO CUTE.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
REBECCA: AND I WAS SO EMBARRASSED RIGHT OFF THE BAT.
AND WE HAD A SHORT LITTLE CUTE CONVERSATION.
HIM BEING THE GENIUS THAT YOU ARE.
YOU HAD PERFECTLY SCHEDULED YOUR TIME AT THE DMV,
SO YOU ONLY HAD LIKE TEN MINUTES TO TALK.
JONATHAN: YEAH, JUST IN CASE IT WASN'T GOING GOOD,
I HAD A GOOD OUT.
REBECCA: YOU HAD A GOOD OUT.
BUT WE BOTH WERE LIKE, HMM.
AND SO THE SECOND TIME YOU CALLED ME,
IT WAS --
JONATHAN: YOU WERE RUNNING AROUND
ON YOUR WAY TO PICK UP BALLOONS
FOR HEART FOR THE WORLD.
REBECCA: THAT WAS THE FIRST TIME WE TALKED.
THE SECOND TIME WE TALKED
I REMEMBER I HAD GOTTEN HOME
FROM HANGING OUT WITH A FRIEND,
AND I WENT OUT TO THE BACKYARD.
WE TALKED FOR TWO HOURS
UNTIL MY PHONE DIED.
JONATHAN: AND THAT'S WHEN I KNEW,
THAT CONVERSATION IS WHEN I KNEW.
REBECCA: SEE, YOU KNEW BEFORE I DID.
BUT I REMEMBER THINKING TO MYSELF
IN THAT CONVERSATION.
BECAUSE IT WASN'T JUST A NORMAL --
JONATHAN: I MEAN, I DIDN'T KNOW LIKE I'M GONNA MARRY --
REBECCA: OH, ME BACKPEDALS, FOLKS.
JONATHAN: BUT I KNEW THAT IT WAS REAL.
LIKE THE CHEMISTRY WAS REAL.
THE PASSION, THE SIMILAR
PASSIONS WERE REAL.
REBECCA: THAT WAS A BIG THING.
JONATHAN: THE VALUES WERE THERE.
JONATHAN: THE PASSION FOR THE LORD. REBECCA: BECAUSE IT WASN'T A NORMAL CONVERSATION.
IT WASN'T.
WE TALKED ABOUT A LOT OF DEEP STUFF.
REBECCA: OUR HEARTS LINED UP
ON A LOT OF THINGS.
JONATHAN: OUR HEARTS LINED UP
ON A LOT OF THINGS.
THERE WAS GREAT CHEMISTRY.
I JUST REMEMBER WHEN THAT CONVERSATION DIED,
BECAUSE IT WAS LIKE A PHONE DYING,
YOU KNOW, I REALLY KNEW, OH, WOW,
THIS IS SOMETHING SPECIAL.
REBECCA: AND I THOUGHT THE EXACT SAME THING.
I WAS LIKE I THINK
THERE'S SOMETHING THERE.
SO WE STARTED TALKING.
AND WE'RE TALKING LIKE THREE HOURS, TWO HOURS.
YOU WERE CALLING ME TWICE A DAY
ON YOUR WAY INTO WORK,
ON YOUR WAY HOME.
AND THIS WAS ALL LONG DISTANCE.
WE WERE NOT DATING.
WE WERE JUST GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER.
AND I REMEMBER THAT
ONE OF THE THINGS I LOVED ABOUT YOU,
IT WAS DIFFERENT FROM ANY GUY
I'D EVER TALKED TO,
WAS A LOT OF TIMES
WHEN YOU'RE FIRST STARTING TO TALK TO SOMEONE,
YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO CONNECT WITH THEM.
AND SO YOU MIGHT HAVE LIKE A DIFFERENCE IN OPINIONS,
OR A DIFFERENCE IN INTERESTS,
BUT YOU'LL JUST KIND OF BE LIKE,
OH, YEAH, I LIKE THAT, TOO,
BECAUSE YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO LIKE CONNECT.
JONATHAN: NOT ME.
REBECCA: OH, NO.
JONATHAN WEISS, OH, NO.
I REMEMBER WE TALKED ABOUT
SUPERHERO MOVIES.
AND I WAS LIKE, OH, I LOVE SUPERHERO MOVIES.
AND I REMEMBER YOU STRAIGHT UP ON THE PHONE WERE LIKE,
OH, I DON'T LIKE THOSE AT ALL.
[ LAUGHTER ]
REBECCA: WHICH SHOOK, BUT I WAS IMPRESSED.
BECAUSE I THOUGHT TO MYSELF, WOW.
HE IS A STRAIGHT SHOOTER.
LIKE I KNOW LIKE HE'S GONNA BE TELLING ME THE TRUTH.
HE'S NOT TRYING, IT'S NOT THAT YOU WEREN'T TRYING
TO LIKE WIN ME OVER.
BUT YOU WEREN'T GONNA BE ANYTHING BUT YOURSELF.
JONATHAN: UH-HUH.
REBECCA: AND SO I LOVED THAT ABOUT YOU.
SO FAST FORWARD, THREE MONTHS PASS.
AND WE BOTH REALIZE,
WE GOT TO SEE EACH OTHER IN PERSON.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
REBECCA: AND THIS IS, I THINK WE GOT TO A POINT,
WHERE WE REALIZED, OKAY, WE HAVE SOMETHING.
BUT WE'RE NOT GONNA REALLY KNOW
IF WE CAN TAKE THIS TO THE NEXT STEP.
BECAUSE AT THE TIME,
WE WEREN'T DATING.
JONATHAN: RIGHT.
REBECCA: WE THOUGHT, OKAY, WE HAVE TO MEET
EACH OTHER IN PERSON.
BECAUSE IT'S TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.
SO WE ARRANGED THE TRIP
FOR ME TO GO TO SAN FRANCISCO.
I BRING MY BEST FRIEND WITH ME.
AND I'LL NEVER FORGET
FLYING ON THE WAY THERE,
EVERY TIME THE PLANE KIND OF LIKE MOVED OR LIKE FELT
LIKE IT WAS DESCENDING,
MY HEART WOULD RACE
BECAUSE I WAS SO --
JONATHAN: OH, I DIDN'T KNOW THAT.
REBECCA: NERVOUS.
OH, MY GOSH.
I WAS SO NERVOUS TO MEET YOU.
AND I REMEMBER GOING THROUGH THE AIRPORT,
MORGAN WAS LIKE, OH, I SEE HIM.
AND I WAS JUST --
SHE WAS PLAYING A JOKE ON ME.
AND I WAS JUST LIKE, OH, NO.
I'M NOT READY.
AND SO WE MET.
JONATHAN: REALLY FUN TRIP. I WAS SO NERVOUS.
REBECCA: THAT FIRST NIGHT,
MY MOM WAS ON,
I DON'T KNOW IF PINS AND NEEDLES
IS THE RIGHT PHRASE,
BUT MY MOM WAS LIKE
WANTING TO KNOW HOW IT WAS ALL GOING.
AND I REMEMBER I ONLY SENT HER ONE TEXT.
AND THE TEXT,
THIS IS SO DUMB.
BUT THE TEXT SAID, HE'S BEAUTIFUL.
WELL, THAT WAS THE THING I SENT HER.
JONATHAN: THAT'S FUNNY.
REBECCA: YOU WERE MORE THAN BEAUTIFUL,
BUT I WAS JUST, SHE KNEW IT WAS GOING WELL.
BUT I WAS SO CAUGHT UP IN THE MOMENT.
I COULD ONLY SEND
ONE LITTLE QUICK TEXT TO HER.
BUT ON THAT TRIP,
WE HIT IT OFF.
AND AT THE END,
ON SATURDAY NIGHT,
WE HAD THE TALK, INITIATED BY ME.
JONATHAN: UH-HUH.
REBECCA: WHAT I DID NOT KNOW ABOUT YOU,
WAS THAT MANY GIRLS IN THE PAST,
MANY WOMEN HAD TRIED TO INITIATE THE TALK,
THE RELATIONSHIP TALK THAT,
WHAT'S IT CALLED, DTR,
DETERMINE THE RELATIONSHIP.
JONATHAN: DEFINE.
REBECCA: DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP.
MANY WOMEN IN THE PAST
INITIATED THIS TALK WITH YOU.
AND THAT'S ACTUALLY WHEN YOU WOULD USUALLY
JUST BE LIKE,
I'M NOT INTERESTED A LOT OF THE TIMES.
YOU WERE NEVER GONNA JUST GET IN A RELATIONSHIP
JUST TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.
YOU WERE ALWAYS, YOU TOOK DATING VERY SERIOUSLY
AT THIS PHASE IN YOUR LIFE.
JONATHAN: TRUE.
REBECCA: I DIDN'T KNOW THAT
I WAS POTENTIALLY THROWING A BOMB
ON OUR RELATIONSHIP.
BUT I WAS READY.
I WAS LIKE I LIKE THIS GUY.
AND, YOU KNOW, I KNEW WHAT I WANTED.
SO I OPENED THAT CONVERSATION
AND TELL US ABOUT WHAT WAS GOING ON, ON YOUR END.
JONATHAN: WELL, I WASN'T TOO ENTHUSIASTIC
ABOUT GETTING RIGHT INTO A RELATIONSHIP.
BUT AT THE SAME TIME,
I FACTORED IN THAT
WE WERE LONG DISTANCE.
AND THE ONLY WAY TO REALLY VET IT OUT
WAS TO BE COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER
IS KIND OF WHAT I THOUGHT.
WE HAD TALKED FOR ENOUGH TIME LEADING UP TO THAT,
THAT I WAS LIKE, OKAY,
YOU KNOW, I WOULDN'T SAY I LOVED HER.
BUT I DON'T KNOW IF I LOVED YOU YET,
MAYBE I DID.
BUT I DEFINITELY LIKE HER ENOUGH,
I LOVED SPENDING THIS WEEK OR WEEKEND WITH HER.
I GUESS IT'S WORTH A SHOT.
I COULD ALWAYS COUNT MY LOSSES LATER.
REBECCA: AND REMEMBER, I WAS GONNA GO
ON THIS LONG MINISTRY TRIP WITH DAD
AND MY FAMILY TO AUSTRALIA,
SINGAPORE, NEW ZEALAND.
AND I WAS LIKE I'M ABOUT TO GO ON THIS TRIP,
AND I NEED TO KNOW LIKE WHERE DO WE STAND.
AND SO YOU WENT FOR IT.
JONATHAN: I DID.
REBECCA: I WAS SO PROUD OF YOU.
WE STARTED DATING.
AND I LOVED BEING ABLE TO GO ON MY TRIP,
AND TELL EVERYONE I HAVE A BOYFRIEND.
I WAS SO PROUD TO BE DATING YOU.
SO PROUD TO BE MARRIED TO YOU.
SO FAST FORWARD, WE START DATING LONG DISTANCE.
I WOULD COME TO SAN FRANCISCO.
JONATHAN: YEAH, ABOUT ONCE A MONTH,
WE WERE SWAPPING.
REBECCA: YOU WOULD COME TO TEXAS.
SHOUT OUT TO THE JEWS FOR JESUS HOUSE.
THAT'S WHERE WE STAYED.
IT WAS A MINISTRY HOME
AND OTHER PEOPLE WERE LIVING THERE.
AND IT WAS ALL ACCOUNTABLE.
WE WERE PURE,
I JUST WANT TO PUT ALL THAT OUT THERE.
THAT WAS IMPORTANT TO US.
JONATHAN: ABOUT SEVEN OR SO MONTHS
OF DATING BACK AND FORTH --
REBECCA: LET'S TAP ON THIS THOUGH.
WHEN WE STARTED DATING,
IT WAS GREAT, WE FELL IN LOVE.
BUT I MEAN, EVEN THEN,
THERE WAS SOME SPIRITUAL WARFARE IN YOUR LIFE.
THERE WAS HARD CIRCUMSTANCES GOING ON
THAT WAS DIRECTING YOU.
JONATHAN: YEAH, KIND OF LIKE
THE STORY OF MY LIFE,
HARD CIRCUMSTANCES.
WHENEVER THERE'S SOMETHING
GOOD GOING ON,
IT'S MET BY SEVERE OPPOSITION.
SO, BUT IT WENT FAST.
YOU KNOW, LIKE ONCE WE STARTED DATING --
REBECCA: IT DID GO FAST. JONATHAN: WE BOTH LIKE WERE REALLY
INVESTED IN EACH OTHER
AND GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER
AND LIKE DEEPEN THE RELATIONSHIP.
AND, YOU KNOW, WE WERE LOOKING, WE WERE TRYING TO SEE
LIKE IS THIS OUR LIFE PARTNER.
SO --
REBECCA: WE TOOK IT BOTH,
ALMOST TOO SERIOUSLY.
LIKE WE WERE JUST SO INTENSE SOMETIMES.
JONATHAN: MAYBE.
REBECCA: IF I COULD DO BACK,
I WOULD BE EASE UP A LITTLE BIT.
LIKE JUST ENJOY IT.
JONATHAN: OH, NO, WE HAD A LOT OF FUN, TOO, THOUGH.
REBECCA: WE HAD SO MUCH FUN.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
REBECCA: BUT WE HAD TO BE INTENTIONAL,
BECAUSE WE LIVED IN TWO DIFFERENT STATES.
JONATHAN: TOTALLY.
REBECCA: SO WE STARTED DATING LONG DISTANCE,
AND THEN YOU DECIDE...
JONATHAN: WELL, YEAH, WE KNEW
OR I KNEW THAT,
I WANTED TO MARRY YOU
AT SOME POINT IN OUR DATING PROCESS.
AND THEN YOU GUYS INVITED ME
TO GO ON A MINISTRY TRIP TO ISRAEL.
AND THAT WAS COOL
BECAUSE I'M JEWISH
AND I LIVED IN ISRAEL
AND I'D BEEN THERE LIKE FOUR OR FIVE TIMES BEFORE.
REBECCA: A LOT OF SIGNIFICANCE THERE.
JONATHAN: A LOT OF SIGNIFICANCE THERE FOR SURE.
FOR OUR MARRIAGE, AND FAMILY,
AND THE FUTURE AS WELL.
BUT WHILE WE WERE IN ISRAEL,
I DECIDED THIS IS A REALLY COOL PLACE
FOR ME TO ASK FOR MARCUS
TO GIVE HIS BLESSING FOR ME TO PROPOSE TO REBECCA.
AND SO ONE NIGHT OUT TO DINNER,
HE GETS UP EARLY, RIGHT AS THE CHECK IS COMING,
YOU KNOW, GO ON TO THE ROOM AND REST,
BECAUSE WE'RE DOING MINISTRY EVERYDAY
WHILE WE'RE THERE.
AND I CHASE HIM DOWN IN THE STREETS OF JERUSALEM,
AND YELL HIS NAME, AND SCARE HIM HALF TO DEATH.
REBECCA: I'LL NEVER FORGET THAT,
BECAUSE I SAW THAT HAPPEN.
BUT Y'ALL GOT AHEAD OF ME.
SO I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE ASKING HIM ABOUT.
JONATHAN: YEAH, I WAS TRYING TO BE LOW KEY ABOUT IT.
BUT I BASICALLY WAS LIKE --
REBECCA: YOU WERE LIKE, MARCUS, AND THEN HE LIKE DID RUN
DOWN THE STREET
AND MY DAD WAS KIND OF LIKE CONFUSED.
JONATHAN: IT'S A DAYSTAR FAN
IN THE STREETS OF JERUSALEM.
REBECCA: SO YOU ASKED TO MEET WITH HIM.
JONATHAN: I ASKED TO MEET WITH HIM PRIVATELY.
SO WE GOT TOGETHER ONE MORNING, AND, YOU KNOW,
WENT AND ASKED FOR HIS BLESSING
AND HE GAVE IT TO ME.
AND THAT WAS REALLY COOL
TO GET THAT MOMENT IN JERUSALEM.
CAME BACK AND STARTED PLANNING,
AND, YOU KNOW, COMING UP WITH HOW I WANTED
TO PROPOSE TO REBECCA.
AT THE TIME,
I WAS THINKING IT WOULD BE ON ONE
OF OUR TRIPS OUT HERE
OR OUT TO SAN FRANCISCO.
THAT ENDED UP NOT BEING THE CASE
AND FORMED A PLAN.
AND HAD ACTUALLY ASKED MARCUS,
IF HE WAS OKAY IF I PROPOSED
AT HIS 60TH BIRTHDAY PARTY.
BECAUSE I KNEW THAT ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS
AND FAMILY WERE ALL GONNA BE IN FROM OUT OF TOWN,
SO IT WOULD BE A REALLY NEAT OPPORTUNITY.
MY PARENTS WERE GONNA BE THERE AS WELL
BECAUSE THEY GOT INVITED.
SO IT COULD BE COOL OPPORTUNITY
TO DO IT IN FRONT OF LIKE ALL OF YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM
AND HAVE LIKE ALL OF THE PEOPLE
THAT MEANT SO MUCH TO YOU
BE THERE TO CELEBRATE.
AND HE WAS ALL FOR IT.
SO THAT WAS, YOU KNOW, I GOT A RING.
I GOT THE PROPOSAL ALL SET UP.
REBECCA: I DON'T KNOW HOW HE DID THAT, BY THE WAY.
HE GOT LIKE THE EXACT RING THAT I WANTED.
HE KNEW MY RING SIZE.
I STILL DON'T EVEN KNOW MY RING SIZE,
BUT YOU DID IT ALL.
JONATHAN: I DID IT ALL. REBECCA: I DON'T EVEN WANT TO KNOW
I LOVE THAT THERE'S A MYSTERY TO IT.
I DON'T KNOW WHEN YOU GOT THE RING.
I WAS SO SHOCKED.
ANYWAY, KEEP TELLING THE STORY.
JONATHAN: AND THEN THE NIGHT OF
I PLANNED IT OUT
SO SOME OF OUR FAVORITE SONGS
WOULD BE INCORPORATED.
SO LIKE THERE WAS LIKE A MOMENT
IN BETWEEN THE ACTION WHERE
THE DJ WAS CUED TO PLAY
ACTUALLY A SONG FROM THE JESUS CULTURE ALBUM
WAITING HERE FOR YOU.
AND IN THAT MOMENT,
I WALKED YOU UNDER THE TREE
THAT WE HAD FIRST TALKED
WHERE THE SWING WAS
IN YOUR MOM'S BACKYARD AND PROPOSED.
AND WHAT DID YOU SAY?
REBECCA: I REMEMBER, OKAY, EVERY ONE IN MY FAMILY
LOVES TO JOKE ABOUT THIS.
AND YOU LOVE TO JOKE ABOUT THIS.
BUT EVERY ONE LIKES TO SAY THAT I TOOK TOO LONG TO SAY YES.
JONATHAN: YEAH, YOU FOR SURE DID. REBECCA: BUT I WAS
GENUINELY SHOCKED
BECAUSE WE DID NOT GO RING SHOPPING.
WE BOTH KNEW THAT WE WANTED TO MARRY EACH OTHER,
BUT I DID NOT SEE AN ENGAGEMENT HAPPENING AT ALL.
JONATHAN: YOU WERE JUST EXAMINING THE RING,
LIKE IS THIS A CRACKER JACK RING?
REBECCA: AND THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN,
I HEAR THIS SONG,
AND THAT'S WHEN I KNEW,
OH, MY GOODNESS,
THIS IS HAPPENING.
AND SO YOU PROPOSED TO ME.
I APPARENTLY TOOK A FEW SECONDS TO SAY YES.
BECAUSE I WAS SO SHOCKED IN THE MOMENT.
BUT I DID SAY YES,
AND CONFETTI WENT OFF.
AND IT WAS HONESTLY LIKE A PERFECT PROPOSAL.
SO GOOD JOB.
JONATHAN: THANK YOU.
REBECCA: ON YOUR END.
JONATHAN: I FIGURED I WAS ONLY GONNA DO IT ONCE,
I GOT TO GET IT RIGHT.
REBECCA: EVERYTHING WAS DECORATED SO BEAUTIFULLY.
IT HONESTLY LOOKED
LIKE IT WAS OUT IN A MOVIE.
SO WE GET ENGAGED
AND THEN YOU,
I MEAN, WE HIT THE GROUND RUNNING.
YOU MOVE HERE.
JONATHAN: YEAH.
REBECCA: AND WHAT I WANT TO TALK ABOUT REALLY QUICK
IS THIS.
GOD HAD PUT IT ON YOUR HEART
TO COME TO TEXAS.
JONATHAN: UH-HUH.
REBECCA: AND YOU HAD TRIED TO DO COME
TWO YEARS EARLIER
BUT ALL THE DOORS CLOSED.
JONATHAN: NO, MORE THAN THAT.
IT WAS LIKE THREE AND A HALF YEARS EARLIER.
REBECCA: AND WHAT'S CRAZY
IS WE DIDN'T KNOW EACH OTHER AT THE TIME.
JONATHAN: UH-HUH.
REBECCA: BUT YOU WENT AND TOURED MY BIBLE SCHOOL
THAT I WAS ATTENDING THAT WAS
THIS LITTLE TINY BIBLE SCHOOL.
YOU ALMOST WENT TO SCHOOL THERE.
AND ONE OF MY FAVORITE PROFESSORS,
DR. HUNTZINGER, MET WITH YOU
BECAUSE HE WAS OVER GRAD STUDENTS.
AND HE JUST SAID THE PROGRAM
THAT YOU'RE INTERESTED IN IS NOT QUITE READY YET.
I WOULD SUGGEST YOU JUST WAIT.
AND ALL THE PLACES YOU HAD LOOKED FOR JOBS,
ALL THOSE DOORS CLOSED.
AND THEN AT THE SAME TIME,
THIS INCREDIBLE JOB OPENS UP IN SAN FRANCISCO,
ACTUALLY IN SILICON VALLEY
WITH A GREAT COMPANY,
WHICH IS A HUGE DEAL.
SO YOU MOVE BACK TO SAN FRANCISCO.
WE DON'T EVEN SEE EACH OTHER.
BUT YOU GOING OUT THERE AT THAT TIME,
GOD WAS PREPARING YOU
AND GIVING YOU CONNECTIONS.
SO THAT WHEN YOU MOVED HERE,
BECAUSE IT WAS SUCH A FAST PROCESS,
YOU HAD SOMEONE TO LIVE WITH,
A FRIEND THAT YOU COULD STAY WITH.
YOU ALREADY HAD THIS STUFF SET UP.
YOU WERE ALREADY PREPARED TO COME INTO
THIS MORE SEAMLESSLY.
AND YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT A VERY INTENSE, GREAT TIME,
BUT IT WAS A LOT.
JONATHAN: YEAH, IT WAS A BIG SEASON.
BECAUSE I HAD TO MOVE HERE.
AND I HAD TO GET, YOU KNOW,
A HOUSE PURCHASED FOR US.
REBECCA: YEAH, WE BOUGHT A HOUSE.
WE REMODELED THE HOUSE. JONATHAN: I SOLD MY CAR THERE.
I HAD TO BUY A CAR HERE.
YEAH, SO THERE WAS A LOT OF MOVING PIECES.
BUT IT ALL FELT, YOU KNOW,
LIKE IT WAS PART OF GOD'S DIVINE PLAN.
LIKE WE WERE BEING CARRIED BY HIM
THROUGH IT ALL.
AND SO --
REBECCA: NO, IT WAS LIKE SUCH A SUPERNATURAL SEASON.
JONATHAN: IT WAS A FUN AND BEAUTIFUL SEASON
ALL WHILE A LOT OF THINGS WERE HAPPENING.
REBECCA: BECAUSE WE WOULD PRAY TOGETHER.
IT WAS LIKE WE WOULD HAVE THIS,
IT WAS LIKE SUCH A COOL SEASON.
IT BUILT MY FAITH IN A LOT OF WAYS.
BECAUSE WE WOULD NEED DIFFERENT THINGS,
AND WE WOULD GET TOGETHER AND WE WOULD PRAY.
AND THEN LIKE THE NEXT DAY,
GOD WOULD HAVE A SOLUTION.
LIKE YOU NEEDED A FRIEND TO LIVE WITH.
AND LIKE THE NEXT DAY,
YOU WOULD HAVE A FRIEND TO LIVE WITH.
YOU KNOW, WE NEEDED TO FIND A HOUSE.
AND IT WAS NOT AN EASY MARKET AT THE TIME.
AND WE FOUND THE PERFECT HOUSE.
AND GOD SHOWED IT.
YOU FOUND IT,
AND GOD SHOWED IT TO YOU AND CONFIRMED IT.
JONATHAN: SO LET'S FAST FORWARD.
SO THEN WE GET MARRIED.
SEVEN MONTHS LATER,
WE GET PREGNANT.
WE HAVE OUR FIRST BORN SON ASHER.
HOW OLD WAS ASHER
WHEN WE FOUND OUT
YOU ARE PREGNANT AGAIN?
REBECCA: RIGHT BEFORE HE TURNED TWO.
IN AUGUST. JONATHAN: SO RIGHT BEFORE HE TURNED TWO,
WE FOUND OUT REBECCA WAS PREGNANT AGAIN,
WHICH WE HAVEN'T ANNOUNCED
WHETHER IT IS A BOY OR A GIRL.
BUT WE WANTED TO INVOLVE
ALL OF OUR AUDIENCE
IN BEING A PART OF,
GUESSING WHICH ONE IT IS,
A BOY OR A GIRL.
AND WE WANT TO ALSO OFFER
ONE OF YOU AT RANDOMLY
WILL BE SELECTED
TO RECEIVE A DAYSTAR ORIGINAL SWEATSHIRT.
YOU JUST HAVE TO GO
TO REBECCA'S CHANNEL,
LIKE THIS VIDEO,
SUBSCRIBE TO HER CHANNEL,
AND THEN COMMENT WHETHER OR NOT
YOU THINK IT'S A BOY OR A GIRL.
AND YOU CAN EVEN PUT NAME SUGGESTIONS,
WE'RE OPEN HERE.
AND THEN OUR PRODUCTION TEAM
WILL SELECT ONE OF YOU RANDOMLY
AND YOU WILL RECEIVE A SWEATSHIRT.
SO GO AHEAD AND DO THAT.
IT'S A FUN WAY TO INTERACT WITH US.
AND THEN IN A FEW WEEKS,
WE'LL ACTUALLY AIR IT JUST HERE
ON REBECCA'S PODCAST
WHAT GENDER WE'RE HAVING NEXT.
REBECCA: YES, I AM PREGNANT.
I'M PRETTY FAR ALONG.
JONATHAN: YOU ARE.
REBECCA: WE KNOW THE GENDER.
AND LIKE JONATHAN SAID,
WE'RE GONNA DO LIKE A FUN
LITTLE GIVEAWAY,
WHERE COMMENT BELOW,
AND GUESS WHAT YOU THINK IT IS.
LIKE THIS VIDEO,
AND WE WILL PICK ONE PERSON
FOR THE PRIZE.
AND THAT IS OUR LOVE STORY.
I AM SO THANKFUL TO BE DOING LIFE WITH YOU,
AND I'M SO EXCITED
FOR WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS.
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REBECCA: THANKS FOR LISTENING AND WATCHING.
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AND SUBSCRIBE ON REBECCA LAMB WEISS YOUTUBE.
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